What age do you stop buying grandchildren

[Maggie2408]

For years I have bought Christmas and birthday gifts for grandchildren spending a £100 on each gift. Grandchildren are now in 20’s have never ever received a birthday or Christmas card from them . We want to cut back what we give, what would be acceptable ? Thank you

Personally, never but if you want to cut back, cut back.

I still buy grand children. Theyre
going cheap round my end and I can sell em on down the pub for a good mark up. 👍

My grandparents never stopped buying for me but I bought them presents too as soon as I got a part time job at 16. If I was you I don't think I'd bother getting them anything. I think they're really rude to have not have even given a card.

You’ve never received a birthday card? Do you get thank you cards, or do they call you to say thank you/say it in person?

I would always give my grandchildren presents personally, but you don’t need to spend so much. Just reduce the amount?

I was wondering where to buy a grandchild...
Seriously though what poor manners to not even send a card to you, does their parent know? I don't blame you for stopping.

My grandparents bought or sent money to me until the day they died so 30 and mid 40s. I always wrote and thanked them and sent Christmas cards. Not sure I did birthday cards now looking back. However 100 is alot. If you can't afford it just tell them, they will understand. If they don't that's more about them than you. I'd give anything for one more Christmas or birthday card from my grandparents and to see their writing again.

It's so sad your DGC in their 20's now, never send you a birthday or Xmas card. I think I'd just stop gifting to them, perhaps just send them a card. Did they even write, phone or text you to thank you for past gifts?

The problem here is that they've never sent you a gift or card. Their parents are to blame for that as the habit should have been encouraged from young.
I'm sorry.

Is your relationship with their parents difficult?

I would say from 18 or near as possible. I have nieces and nephews over 18 now, and parents on all sides have never said "decrease the gifts now they are adults" which TBH I feel it is their call to do.

I still give them gifts for Christmas/Birthdays, but spend less on them. It will get less until they leave home.

Put £20 in a card each and send them a set of thank you notes some stamps and a pen each, see if they get the hint, so rude.

Some of my gifts reduced when each of us got married/partnered up. Bit harsh to stop them all together if some had had for 30 years and others 20, i'd probably give a token to those over say 25 and keep others going until then. By 25 they should be earning reasonably.

Yes I do agree a card would have sufficed

I’ve never bought any grandchildren. I expect they are rather expensive.

If I had any, Id buy them presents always but less once over 20 years old.

Are they still included in christmas and birthday cards sent from their parents?

Good relationship with parents

Can’t seem to give it up. It’s expensive but I’m addicted to buying grandchildren

I would say it depends on how many grandchildren you have. There were only 2 of us grandchildren on my mums side so they bought us gifts right up till they died. There's at least 15 grandchildren on DHs side so his grandparents stopped at 18.

Not sending you a card or gift is odd. I don’t think you would be unreasonable to stick £20 in their card and leave it at that.

My grandparents never stopped buying for me. But then, as soon as I was old enough, J bought for them, sent Christmas cards, and sent them thank you cards afterwards (as I always do for anyone who gives me a gift).

If your grandchildren don’t bother then I’d say you should stop.

My grandmother and I stopped with gifts when I was around 40, because she was around 100 and finding it burdensome to choose things.

Your grandchildren sound somewhat unappreciative! I'd stop one-way gifts at 18, except perhaps for major milestones.

I cant imagine ever not buying for my grandkids, nor would I ever want anything from them in return but if you want to cut back thats entirely up to you. You spend, or dont spend, whatever you see fit.

Where can I buy some grandchildren?

I have no intention of buying any.

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