Is your family is snobby when it comes to homemade dishes

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My in laws are very snobby when it comes to homemade food.

When I say snobby they wouldn’t judge a single mum relying on something pre made for example but when it comes to the stuff they eat they massively favour homemade stuff. I just find it amusing tbh! They all get VERY excited when someone brings over homemade bread and desserts. Wanting to know what recipe/method you chose. All birthday cakes are homemade. I swear a cake from Tesco would sit completely unopened in the fridge.

There is one vegetarian family member and my sister in law is going to make an entire veggie wellington just for him. I suggested just getting something from M&S and she completely baulked at the very idea. Tbf everyone is a good cook.

It definitely stems from MIL. Who grows her own food, makes chutneys etc. They would never dream of shoving in an Indian selection from Waitrose as starters like my family doesx

I just find it fascinating tbh.

Anyone else have family like this? Even croissants are homemade!

Very good cooks can throw a meal together in next to no time.

I look in the fridge and get overwhelmed. DH on the other hand can manage to throw together a really lovely meal from a pretty bare fridge and store cupboard without breaking a sweat in under 30 mins plus enjoy the process.

Sounds like they enjoy good food and feeding people as to make a vegetarian wellington for one person is a huge effort and unlikely to be something they do for brownie points!

If you buy the ingredients for scones, they last for ages. Making scones takes less time than it takes to pick scones from a supermarket shelf and take them to the till.

Add to the fact that scones are incredibly easy to make, and supermarket scones are a total and utter abomination. Utterly disgusting.

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You're the odd one here.

Also to add to that, if you’re a foodie (like my DH) I think you’re always thinking about food so you are always a few steps ahead of those who aren’t foodies. My DH is always thinking about his next few meals. So there’s always something marinating in the fridge, or he’s nurturing his sourdough starter, or he always has the ingredients in for fresh pesto etc. nothing is really left to the last minute because he loves thinking about food all the bloody time!

I dont enjoy cooking, it's a chore, but it doesn't take long to knock something fresh up. The worst part is constantly having to think what to cook for tea.

@Solentsolo

Ok, so scones is one example….

Was your other SIL talking about your insecurity? Because that's how your posts are coming across to me.

"Snobby" is an interesting word to apply to your in-laws. Synonyms of 'snobby' - snooty, haughty, pretentious, arrogant, superior, condescending, and pompous. Do any of these really apply to them? Well some of them do - but to you. You're definitely being condescending, I can practically see you looking down your nose at them (" I just find it amusing tbh! "). And yes to snooty and superior, possible to pretentious and pompous.

The only reason I can see for your hostility to your in-laws love of cooking good food is the "place of insecurity". But you're projecting it onto them when it is you who is insecure, with your shop-bought cake. Can you cook? At all? Your in-laws sound lovely, expressing love for each other by cooking especially for each other. You sound, frankly, envious.

@Franpie

how boring though! Each to their own, but I’d rather have the headspace for other stuff

Sounds like the appreciate food and like to know where what they eat comes from. Snobby is such an odd word to use in this scenario. I do eat shop bought food but I make as much as I can from scratch and definitely appreciate homemade food more. It tastes better, I know where it came from, and I have the added comfort of knowing someone spent their time making it for me.

I think the only food I am 'snobby' about is roast potatoes! The frozen ready made ones just do not compare. I know from scratch ones can be a bit of a faff if you're pushed for time and up to your eyes in cooking everything else but IMO homemade ones are SO worth the effort.

I have a friend like this. I find it a little pretentious. Even the best chefs buy in puff pastry etc when they’re cooking at home. I suppose for me it makes complete sense if it’s cheaper/ quicker/ nicer/ better quality, but it would rarely hit a balance of those criteria to make it worth it.

You’re obviously not alone otherwise the queue to collect Christmas food from m&s wouldn’t be out the door every year!

What a ridiculous comment. Why are you trying to put words in someone else's mouth?

Got half through the OP and panicked my family were being posted about! But we’re making a nut roast for our vegetarian so couldn’t be us!

I don't think it's snobby. Growing up, my parents grew all their own fruit and veg, and everything was made from scratch. They couldn't afford to buy anything ready made. My mum made her own jam/chutney/marmalade etc, despite having 3 kids and working FT. I had never had a Viennetta until I met DH, as it was always homemade food. I now make 95% of stuff myself, because generally it is better and cheaper, but will happily have an M&S meal deal or a nice pud. I also don't make jams etc, I can't face that.

This is bizarre. I’ve never come across an association between home cooking and snobbery before and surely no one actively prefers shop bought food?

I workout every day, sometimes twice a day and food is really important to me so almost everything I eat is homemade from scratch. Some meals I prepare are a little more complex than others but many are quick and simple and I very often have leftovers which means I don't need to cook as much. It takes very little time to prepare a frittata with veg and salad on the side.

I have a busy life - work full time, have young children, volunteer, exercise..

I think for me a lot is that this is how I was raised. I don't question whether I have time for cooking any more than whether I have time to shower or brush my teeth. It's just part of life.

I don't do it entirely for health reasons either - I just enjoy my own cooking a lot more than ready meals

And I also am quite a fast confident cook. I can cook something decent in 20 mins

I wouldn’t say it’s snobby. My husband cooks everything home made and favours it because the quality is usually better. If someone made a home made dessert he’d be touched because it the effort that had gone into it and it’s rare these days.

You're the one that sounds snobby tbh. There's nothing wrong with appreciating good food and why would they get excited about a supermarket cake when they can probably all make better themselves?

They’re not judging others so they’re not being snobby.

I personally love listening to people who take joy in things.

For me snobby would be if they expressed comments and opinions that made them see people who don't prepare from scratch as being somehow inferior.
Like many people I do my best to prepare meals from scratch, but sometimes life happens and so shop bought is used.

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Many People are coming to the conclusion that they don’t want upfs, or chemical additives or pesticides. Prioritising food is more important in many peoples lives , we just don’t all want the processed shit masquerading as food for our families anymore and yes it takes more time, but food doesnt need to be complicated - soup, stew, something on homemade bread. Just plain old nutritious single ingredient deliciousness.

As others have said, I dont think its snobby to prefer homemade. But if you would let a guest's food rot in the fridge or turn it away at a gathering just because it was shop brought, that's snob territory.