Is your family is snobby when it comes to homemade dishes

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My in laws are very snobby when it comes to homemade food.

When I say snobby they wouldn’t judge a single mum relying on something pre made for example but when it comes to the stuff they eat they massively favour homemade stuff. I just find it amusing tbh! They all get VERY excited when someone brings over homemade bread and desserts. Wanting to know what recipe/method you chose. All birthday cakes are homemade. I swear a cake from Tesco would sit completely unopened in the fridge.

There is one vegetarian family member and my sister in law is going to make an entire veggie wellington just for him. I suggested just getting something from M&S and she completely baulked at the very idea. Tbf everyone is a good cook.

It definitely stems from MIL. Who grows her own food, makes chutneys etc. They would never dream of shoving in an Indian selection from Waitrose as starters like my family doesx

I just find it fascinating tbh.

Anyone else have family like this? Even croissants are homemade!

It s not generally snobby - just appreciative.
However, at the school fair - if a person donated a shop cake v a homemade cake - then in our old school - this would be judged and therefore snobby against the person who bought the shop baked cake . ( say like a time poor full time mum v one who had time to make one !)
I found this c judgemental- but this does not sound like your relative s who seem to just enjoy food creatively.
i always cook from scratch daily and did so when at work with little children.. but it wasnt always that nice as time was of the essence!

I was just making a point about sitting (at a BBQ) eating something very different to the rest of the guests.

Repeating as you seem to have missed that. I didn't actually want veggie sausages, but I would have been OK with that (as I said) rather than a grim bog standard micromeal. I would have prepared something for a guest. We don't really eat UPF, but that wasn't what I was bothered about. It was more the taste, eating something completely different to everyone else and being a bit of a lazy afterthought at this particular BBQ. BTW we often host the barbequer (who also doesn't eat very much UPF).

I am very far from a snob, but I do like decent tasty healthy(ish) food and am happy to provide it.

You really do appear determined that the OP’s in laws are in the wrong despite. It doesn’t say the SIL sneered at the suggestion, she baulked at it…..because she had already planned to make a veggie wellington. The only person sneering is the OP.

Any half decent person will provide the same quality food for all of the people they have chosen to invite.
Because that's being a host.

It doesn't matter if the dietary requirements are vegetarian, vegan, kosher, halal, nut free, or Uncle Neville with his irrational loathing of garlic.

If your version of hosting is a ready meal, fine. Everyone gets a ready meal.

If your version of hosting is a homemade meal, you give everyone a homemade meal.

What you don't do, unless you're a total rube, is have a hierarchy of guests, some of whom get decent food and some who get supermarket ready meals.

What you don't do, unless you're a total rube, is have a hierarchy of guests, some of whom get decent food and some who get supermarket ready meals.

That's a really good way to put it @HeadyLamarr

Thanks, @Mothership4two . It's not often I get to use the word rube, so that's a bonus 😉

It's really not. If someone (like me!) has special dietary needs and it's not possible to do the same for everyone, of course it's OK to get them something ready made.

I just looked it up and it's a word that equates coming from the countryside with all sorts of negative things. Proves very well that you're snobs.

It means unsophisticated, uncultured, socially gauche and backwards. Its origin is an early American term for yokels, but it has evolved a bit over the 300 years.

And you've been rubbish at arguing your POV throughout the thread.

Rube also means a silly or naive person BTW. I had to look it up too as had no idea that it meant a 'bumpkin' in American.

I haven't been rude to you, so don't know why you think it's OK to call people names just because they have an opposing opinioon to you?

I think that's lovely ,if you can afford to and have the time is live to make it and eat it .
I think of that's what they are used to they can probably taste the difference in processed foods .
It's often cheaper and less time consuming to buy store bought tho .
Croissants ,,,could definitely not be arsed 🤣🤣🤣 would love to eat theirs tho 😉🤣

We would eat everything, but then again, we are not fussy! I will say that homemade food usually tastes much better, though, and- thankfully- has more recognisable ingredients. Now that I live away, I keep asking my grandmother to send me her recipes, and my mother kindly brings carrier bags of shop-bought Lancashire/Yorkshire items (which I am yet to find anywhere else!) over the border into Wales for me.