Is our postman a cheeky fucker?

[Sam9769]

I have just lost 3 stone in weight and decided to buy a new second hand wardrobe through Ebay. I will admit that I have been purchasing a lot of clothes etc.
Our postman keeps commenting to my husband about the parcels arriving on a daily basis. On one occasion he said to my husband "She must have bought the whole shop by now! The other day he said "There were no parcels for a few days, so I thought that things were under control!"
This is not even a postman we have known for many years, he's only been our postman for about 18 months.

I feel annoyed that he thinks that he has any right to comment on my parcels.
He's job is to deliver the mail and keep his opinions to himself.
Is he a cheeky fucker or AIBU?

This. ^ This thread is batshit. So many posters telling the OP to 'get a grip,' to 'lighten up,' and 'unclench,' and claiming she's miserable, and she has no sense of humour, and there have been some nasty remarks too.

I refuse to believe anyone who says they would not get annoyed by this. It WOULD get annoying, every fucking time he comes to the door he makes the same inane, dull, unfunny comment. 🙄

As has been said, the odd comment now and again, is fine, but when someone keeps repeating the same shit over and over again, thinking they're hilarious, it gets tedious and annoying. In my experience, people who continually come out with the same comments about a particular thing over and over again, and keep repeating the same unfunny shit, often don't have a high I.Q.

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Ah, it was a joke and some of us just didn’t understand it. Great. Perhaps you could explain it? Which bit of it are we supposed to find funny? Was it the bit where he implied he’d thought that the OP’s husband had managed to get her ‘under control’? Was that the funny bit?

Well, looking at the results, 77% think you're being unreasonable and I'm inclined to agree.

He's being cheeky but he's not being a cheeky fucker. There's a difference.

No where did OP say the postman said anything about her DH having her under control, she said he said ‘things were under control’. He was obviously joking about the amount of parcels, when we do a lot of something sometimes people have a problem, this case maybe a shopaholic and because there’d been no parcels he thought things were under control, could be that OP now has her shopping addiction under control, he didn’t mention anything about her DH having her under control…… so yeh if you take it for what it is it’s a joke… not the funniest but still a joke

I’m disabled and get almost everything in my life delivered. I also need specialty medical supplies and household items that are not available in brick and mortar stores. I got 6 parcels yesterday. This wasn’t even that unusual of a day.

im not that much of an outlier in my neighborhood. Online shopping is common. You can watch the delivery trucks literally stop at almost every house on the street some days.

your mail carrier has it easy if you have just been buying more clothing lately.

I told our postie the reason I order so many parcels is so I can get my actual mail as they no longer prioritise letters. Have a joke with him, life’s too short he’s just thinking he’s being funny not judging your shopping.

I would find this funny and tell him he’d better hope I don’t stop buying stuff or he’ll be out of a job. He’s only trying to have a laugh with you. My postman is a miserable git, I would love a postie like yours I can actually have a chat to.

He's not talking to her though, he is loudly talking about her and making sexist comments to her husband. I wouldn't want to talk to such a bellend either.

I am wondering though, why OP doesn't order everything in one go.

@SilverwingedWhy is what the postman said sexist?

Yanbu bloody cheek! Probably wouldn't make those comments to a man.

Well my postie and Evri driver make very similar comments to me and my husband. Nothing sexist or rude about it at all.

Because, 1) he would never say it about a man and 2) it's a trope about "women be shopping" and 3) ignores OP, whose packages he is actually delivering, and talks to her husband about her instead and 4) acts as though her husband is her keeper (like OP was living in Qatar or something).

You think he would show such behavior to a man? Ofcourse not, he'd likely end up with a black eye.

This. ^

It puts me in mind of the sexist arseholes I have had to endure over the years (sometimes when I have been with DH.) They see me getting out of the car - our car that we share - and say to HD 'blimey mate, you let her drive your car?!'

DH to his credit says 'it's our car so why shouldn't I?'

AND whenever we're out together, and I am buying something, someone (usually a man, but occasionally a woman) says 'spending all his money are ya?' Or they say to him 'letting her spend all your money are ya?!'

I usually pipe up 'it's OUR money actually, we both warn money, and we both spend money!' (Sometimes DH says this...)

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As I said in an earlier post, my postie and the Evri driver make exactly the same type of comments about my husband’s shoe purchases as they do about my frequent parcels. We both laugh about it with them.

HD = DH obvs. And he says 'why shouldn't she?' (drive OUR car..) Not why shouldn't I let her?!!' Too late to edit!

This clearly doesn't happen with the OP though, and it doesn't happen with some other posters. Newsflash! People have different experiences! And other peoples experiences are just as valid as yours, as is their opinion, and their right to be pissed off.

At first I was going to say he’s just being funny. Then I remembered that I don’t find this type of thing funny at all. It’s the repetitiveness. Same joke over and over. The patrolman who used to stand outside our DCs’ primary school was very friendly, but he made the same joke EVERY SINGLE DAY. ‘ Oh hurry up, you’re late today Funnywonder’. Or ‘Oooh, cutting it close today’ Or ‘You’re early today. What happened?’ All on the same theme. I was never actually late picking up my child. I just didn’t want to stand about. He was actually a lovely man. DP got on with him like a house on fire, but then he didn’t have the constant flipping jokes. Funny that …

EXACTLY @Funnywonder

Give me a break!!

Furious? 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

That is exactly how I felt. Thank you.
The suggestion that I was out of control and he thought that my husband had kicked me into touch and finally got me under control but he hadn't after all because another parcel has now rocked up!
I didn't mind so much the comment about buying the whole shop or other less funny repetitive comments!

I was responding to the comment by the previous poster who said that the postman ‘would never say it about a woman’ which is clearly an inaccurate generalisation. Of course people have different experiences but the poster had clearly not taken on board that some posties DO make similar comments to men, and contrary to what she believes, do not end up with a black eye.

Well it looks like you are easily amused.

My DH from now on shall be known as LS "Little snitch".
Thank you. That suits him perfectly!

Is this banter too?