Is our postman a cheeky fucker?

[Sam9769]

I have just lost 3 stone in weight and decided to buy a new second hand wardrobe through Ebay. I will admit that I have been purchasing a lot of clothes etc.
Our postman keeps commenting to my husband about the parcels arriving on a daily basis. On one occasion he said to my husband "She must have bought the whole shop by now! The other day he said "There were no parcels for a few days, so I thought that things were under control!"
This is not even a postman we have known for many years, he's only been our postman for about 18 months.

I feel annoyed that he thinks that he has any right to comment on my parcels.
He's job is to deliver the mail and keep his opinions to himself.
Is he a cheeky fucker or AIBU?

He’s just making a lighthearted joke. It happened to me once before lockers were a thing when I found Vinted and kept having parcels delivered to the closest parcel shop. I was buying an entire wardrobe, I’d lost 4 stone so needed to.

This isn’t something I could get worked up about.

Why does husband tell you about it?

I don’t think you are and my OH is a delivery driver. Nice to be polite, pass the time of day, but that’s too much. I’d never complain, or even say anything. But comments like his could cause trouble. He sounds a bit overfamiliar.

Please bring back the laughing emoji! 😂😂😂

So few of them ever work.

It's typical humour from a postman. They know nothing about you except the amount of mail you get. So he was just trying to make a warm jokey conversation.

If your DH had ordered loads of stuff he'd have said the same.

Honestly if you think that's offensive I'd say you need a thicker skin.

Well done for your weight loss. And enjoy your new clothes.

That postman gets paid for each parcel probably so you should both be happy.

I doubt he really gives a shit. We have the same delivered driver a lot, he is always smiling, adding some light comments about my spends habits, I'll give him a tip on the last Christmas delivery.

*His job
he’s = he is

Yes the postman shouldn’t be commenting but in the grand scheme of things it doesn’t really matter.

I think he’s being a bit misogynistic speaking about you to your husband like this. I would probably mention that without people like you, he wouldn’t have a job.

It's just a joke! He doesn't really care about the parcels, just making small talk. His job is posting in all weather's, please don't complain. He's just trying to lighten his day by socialising while he can, as he works alone. Mine told me last week that I looked cosy drinking my tea in the kitchen! He must have looked in on his way to the door! I just laughed because he was making small talk. It was freezing, he looked so cold, and just wanted a chat.

Our local Evri delivery guy used to do this to me when I'd been ordering a lot of stuff. It was just a laugh, he was being friendly and good natured.

We have a different delivery guy now and I quite miss the old one.

i love your username :D

I wouldn’t care less. One of our postmen said to me “you been slagging me off?” I said “what you mean?” He said the householders were asked to do a survey and my door number moaned about him. I said “nope”. Nutter. Bollocks to him.

I’m with you OP, he shouldn’t be commenting on your post and I believe this is against their code of conduct and training he’ll have received. Your DH should be shutting down this ‘banter’

She should get her ducks in a row, pronto.

Grow up and have a laugh.
My mail man said similar to me but I was buying book.
He once said you must have a whole library going on indoors.
Nothing for you for a week now I'm back.
Its breaking my arms carrying all these for you.
Any good reads so far.
etc etc.
Its just small talk banter.

OP- I used to order so many parcels that I knew the home address of my Evri delivery driver and would pop in to pick them up at times as coincidentally he lived round the corner from me.

The best thing is to laugh along with it. eg "You think this is a lot?- you should see the delivery truck coming later!" or "and these are all for me, I havent even started on Christmas yet!" with a wink etc

If it's just banter he will laugh along with you and if he's being deliberately cheeky it shows that his comments havent bothered you int he slightest. Either way it's a win/win.

People cant insult you if you agree with them and make it into a joke

Onwards the push to a humourless, sterile world.

Ours is hilarious. He goes through all the post - this one’s for Mr itbe, looks important, oh this one’s for Miss itbe ooh it’s from xx shop wonder what she purchased. This one’s for you! It’s HMRC oh dear let’s hope it’s a rebate etc etc…!

I’m sorry but I don’t agree with the majority of the comments here.
I would absolutely fine and ‘having a laugh’ if the postman was saying these comments to my face, but not to my husband. It’s misogynistic. I love the MN double standards.

I had the same when I revamped my wardrobe a couple of years ago, spent a fortune! Postie remarked to DP that my better half must be very generous with his money to 'allow' me to order so much. My bloody money and no permission needed!

Sweet lord he only having the crack with ya 😝my postman best in the world and goes above and beyond his job
I buy alot online too and the rare time my husband gets a parcel he makes a huge deal about it 😂not for you this time wexone this is for Mr Wexone

I’m a private person and would find this intrusive. Also it’s not really witty is it, if it was that would be different but it’s just rather dull and slightly unprofessional

That clip is soo funny.
We've had such a laugh watching this! Thank you.

It's exactly like that!
I feel that he's having a good look at the parcels and where they're coming from
and then making his comments.
I suppose that it's not helped by the fact that another neighbour referred to him angrily and in a clipped tone as "a gossip".
He does seem to spend a to of time talking to neighbours on his round.
Also, he told my husband that the lady who used to live here before us used to get a cake delivered every week and never gave him a slice LOL!