Is our postman a cheeky fucker?

[Sam9769]

I have just lost 3 stone in weight and decided to buy a new second hand wardrobe through Ebay. I will admit that I have been purchasing a lot of clothes etc.
Our postman keeps commenting to my husband about the parcels arriving on a daily basis. On one occasion he said to my husband "She must have bought the whole shop by now! The other day he said "There were no parcels for a few days, so I thought that things were under control!"
This is not even a postman we have known for many years, he's only been our postman for about 18 months.

I feel annoyed that he thinks that he has any right to comment on my parcels.
He's job is to deliver the mail and keep his opinions to himself.
Is he a cheeky fucker or AIBU?

He wouldn’t say it if it was about your husband, so I agree with you op

I think it’s cheeky to say it to your husband! Little snitch 😂

I think its rude .

For what it's worth OP, I agree with you. I'm old, so I've had a lifetime of male "banter" and a lifetime of being told to lighten up because the poor, dear man was only joking.

I can take a joke but this is the vibe I got too.

They wouldn't say it about a bloke would they?

It's funny first 3 times then piss off it isn't anymore.

Lost any sympathy with that comment. There is no hierarchy of getting healthier. However anyone does it is fine. It's the outcome that matters.

Specifying that you did it 'no jabs' is small minded and implying you are better than others who used jabs.

Bet you're fun at parties!!

My dp is a postie.... He's always chatting to his customers, they absolutely love him.

It sounds like a bit of banter, but I can also why it's getting on your nerves. And I doubt he'd say that to man. But when you do the same round day in and day out you get to know your customers, who has a lot of parcels (me!), where they like them left, and who's up for a bit of banter. Your husband has obviously responded the first time, and now it's become a thing the postie has picked up on. Just get your husband to ignore him or say something.

Alternatively, RM is busier than ever. This is my dp's 3rd Christmas as a postie, and it's the busiest ever. So your postie may be hoping that you've finished clothes shopping!!

The banter police have arrived. You must be fun. Try laughing.

Just ignore. Some 'customers' like the cheeky chappie approach from a postie, others don't. If neither you or husband engage with him, just smile and say, "Thank you", he'll pipe down.

What I mean by this is I’m shocked by large numbers of seemingly intelligent women who don’t see any issues with the OP’s postman making comments like this to her husband and who are telling her to calm down, or suggesting that she gets a sense of humour because ‘it’s only a bit of banter’. It’s shocking to me that these women are happy for us to regress backwards, like they think sexism isn’t a thing anymore.

Why do people keep writing "humor"?

I think this might have been mildly amusing the first time, but would get old pretty fast.

That's some pretty shit 'banter'.

Chill - I’ve lost 7 stone since my DH died a couple of years ago. I’m having to buy clothes a lot as my weights gone down.

It’s a standing joke between my regular courier and me. 😉

Do NOT annoy your postman or make him unhappy - Apparently £millions of parcels go missing. I myself did not get over £300 worth of stuff - never arrived.

What exactly is the OP supposed to be laughing at? I don't think it's highly offensive (although there is a tinge of misogyny in the postman's comments), but they're really not remotely funny.

Oh bore off he is having a laugh. My postman just grunts at me.

He needs to shut up and mind his own business. His comments are rude.

He should be grateful that RM is busy

He's trying to be funny, as in humourous! He's not trying to offend you or your husband! When I moved back to my parents after a relationship break-up, I opened the front door to our postman who was only a few years older than me (so probably very early 30's), and he said 'Morning sexy, you look gorgeous'!!! I was so shocked, I stood there doing goldfish impressions!! 🤷

Banter innit?

Everything is electronically tracked, your postie can’t just take your parcels or make them “lost”

@Sam9769 I have a great sense of humour but wouldn’t be amused by your postman either. He should be getting on with his job and keeping his personal comments to himself

Now THAT is an overreaction. Anyone who loses weight without the weight loss jabs SHOULD be proud of themselves.

Sounds like you're projecting.

@Sam9769 Bloody well done on your weight loss. I have lost weight this year too, not as much as you - about a stone and a half - but I have also done it WITHOUT THE WEIGHT LOSS JABS. I am proud of myself too. And why shouldn't someone be proud of losing weight without using the jabs? It's much harder to lose weight without them. As I said @HeadyLamarr it sounds like you are projecting.

Saying things are under control was clearly a joke