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If I see any more comments on Mumsnet of it's just a dog

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Lifeneedsaresetagain · 05/12/2025 22:29

Do people not realise that for those who welcome them into the family they are part of the family. And if you have a dog and say it's just a dog, I'm not sure you should have one.

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WearyAuldWumman · 06/12/2025 00:06

YeOldeGreyhound · 05/12/2025 23:57

People are animals.

A stranger's child will never trump my dog, and why would they? By all means come up with bizarre hypothetical situations in which you can shame me for that. The often trotted out burning building scenario - where are the parents?

In terms of grief, it is a known thing that losing a pet can hurt more than losing a relative. And our pets are family.

Well, when I was working as a teacher, the parents certainly weren't in the building during the school day.

I can't imagine the Biology teachers grabbing an animal from the lab instead of one of the kids if the place went up in flames.

Yes, I have had to get children out of a building that appeared to be on fire. It turned out that the biggest danger was smoke inhalation or a possible crush - the fire was actually in a dumpster below an archway.

BagpussWasRight · 06/12/2025 00:07

The word catio is banned in our house-once the tortie gets wind of the concept, she'll have us sleeping outside and will change the locks.👀😾

Aviri · 06/12/2025 00:07

Family :

If I see any more comments on Mumsnet of it's just a dog
k1233 · 06/12/2025 00:08

bridgetreilly · 05/12/2025 23:52

Dogs are animals. People are people. And yes, people matter more. A baby or a child trumps a pet every single time. A person can choose not to have animals in their home or business for any reason.

And yes, it’s desperately sad when you lose a pet, but it is frankly offensive to compare that grief to the loss of a family member. It’s just a dog.

People are destroying the planet. The sooner numbers reduce the better it will be for every other being who lives here.

YeOldeGreyhound · 06/12/2025 00:08

WearyAuldWumman · 06/12/2025 00:06

Well, when I was working as a teacher, the parents certainly weren't in the building during the school day.

I can't imagine the Biology teachers grabbing an animal from the lab instead of one of the kids if the place went up in flames.

Yes, I have had to get children out of a building that appeared to be on fire. It turned out that the biggest danger was smoke inhalation or a possible crush - the fire was actually in a dumpster below an archway.

Most people are not in charge of kids though. I will never be in a scenario where I have to chose between a stranger's kids and my dog.. Yet I will get blasted on here for choosing my dog.

MrsSkylerWhite · 06/12/2025 00:08

Andouillette · 05/12/2025 23:59

Yes, it is the 'just' that is the problem, it is belittling and sneery. I have children and grandchildren so am well aware of the difference between them and my dogs. I would never take my dogs to visit anyone who didn't like dogs or didn't want them in their home. I do expect people to respect the fact that I love my dogs deeply and not call into question that love because they are 'just' dogs.

I find your reply really interesting. I’m 61. Pets as long as I can remember. As an adult, pet owner for 40 years.
Parent for 31 years. For me, absolutely no equivalence. Fond of the pets and gave them a good life, obviously. Sadness, yes. Grief? No. because they were animals and that’s what we expected when we took them on, a limited lifespan.

Don’t want to even imagine how I would feel if my loved ones (humans) pre-deceased me.

WearyAuldWumman · 06/12/2025 00:10

YeOldeGreyhound · 06/12/2025 00:05

This is bullshit though. In what scenario would this be a reality?

It is just used as a way to shame people for picking their pet over a stranger's kid. Where are the parents? Why would you be in a building with your dog and unaccompanied kids? How would you know there are kids there to start with?

I've partially answered this in my other posts.

We didn't have dogs in the building when our school apparently went on fire. There were some small animals in there however. They were left behind.

Fortunately, as I said above, it was only a dumpster fire. A bin full of paper had gone up in flames and the smoke had percolated into the building. My room was right next to a concourse area on the first floor and the concourse was full of smoke.

Kirbert2 · 06/12/2025 00:10

k1233 · 06/12/2025 00:08

People are destroying the planet. The sooner numbers reduce the better it will be for every other being who lives here.

You mean like people who decide to have pets? Dogs and cats are hardly good for the planet.

WearyAuldWumman · 06/12/2025 00:11

YeOldeGreyhound · 06/12/2025 00:08

Most people are not in charge of kids though. I will never be in a scenario where I have to chose between a stranger's kids and my dog.. Yet I will get blasted on here for choosing my dog.

Well, if you'll never be in that scenario then you don't really know what you would do.

BeQuirkyMintScroller · 06/12/2025 00:12

k1233 · 06/12/2025 00:03

Reading the plethora of dysfunctional and low/no contact families on here, I'm really not sure how you can justify that comment. The difference between dogs and people is dogs love pretty much unconditionally. Look after them and you have a wonderful companion. People are self serving.

I can't understand people who don't "do" pets/animals; can't see what the fuss is about. Animals (and nature) are the jewels of our environment.

I love the honesty and simplicity with dogs.

My dog has also taught me a different way of living; being actually present in the moment , more appreciative of nature, and (literally) shaking off stress...

I completely understand some people dont want dogs in their homes and thats fine - if it's a far away visit it means I don't stay more than a couple of hours.

But for me it's worth it because of
the daily companionship I get every day
vs
no canine companionship but the odd catch ups with those people.

YeOldeGreyhound · 06/12/2025 00:13

WearyAuldWumman · 06/12/2025 00:11

Well, if you'll never be in that scenario then you don't really know what you would do.

No one would. That is a fact.
But I would not be looking for kids to rescue if I didn't know they were there to begin with.
I would be leaving with my dog.

YeOldeGreyhound · 06/12/2025 00:13

Kirbert2 · 06/12/2025 00:10

You mean like people who decide to have pets? Dogs and cats are hardly good for the planet.

Humans are worse.

WearyAuldWumman · 06/12/2025 00:14

YeOldeGreyhound · 06/12/2025 00:13

No one would. That is a fact.
But I would not be looking for kids to rescue if I didn't know they were there to begin with.
I would be leaving with my dog.

Of course you wouldn't - not if you were unaware of them.

YeOldeGreyhound · 06/12/2025 00:15

WearyAuldWumman · 06/12/2025 00:14

Of course you wouldn't - not if you were unaware of them.

Leave rescue to emergency services. I know that much.

Kirbert2 · 06/12/2025 00:16

YeOldeGreyhound · 06/12/2025 00:13

Humans are worse.

Which includes making the decision to have pets which are bad for the planet.

That's my point.

WearyAuldWumman · 06/12/2025 00:16

YeOldeGreyhound · 06/12/2025 00:15

Leave rescue to emergency services. I know that much.

So you'd leave your dog behind then?

YeOldeGreyhound · 06/12/2025 00:18

WearyAuldWumman · 06/12/2025 00:16

So you'd leave your dog behind then?

My dog would be with me, so easy to take her out.

Viviennemary · 06/12/2025 00:18

Lifeneedsaresetagain · 05/12/2025 22:38

I think, like anything with families, if it's not your experience and you have nothing positive or constructive to say, then don't say anything.

Your statement isnt very constructive come to think of it.

YeOldeGreyhound · 06/12/2025 00:18

Kirbert2 · 06/12/2025 00:16

Which includes making the decision to have pets which are bad for the planet.

That's my point.

OK, having kids is worse.

WearyAuldWumman · 06/12/2025 00:19

YeOldeGreyhound · 06/12/2025 00:18

My dog would be with me, so easy to take her out.

Good.

The same way that my pupils were with me.

ETA However, I still had to get the stragglers in the corridor and concourse areas out. My colleagues in the Science Department got their pupils out and left the cages and tanks of small animals - as they had to.

Kirbert2 · 06/12/2025 00:20

YeOldeGreyhound · 06/12/2025 00:18

OK, having kids is worse.

Most people have both.

YeOldeGreyhound · 06/12/2025 00:21

Kirbert2 · 06/12/2025 00:20

Most people have both.

I have a dog. No kids and never will.

Booboobagins · 06/12/2025 00:22

PollyBell · 05/12/2025 22:31

A dog is not a human yes a dog can be part of a family but they are not and never will be a baby or in anyway the same as a human, I worry for people who cant tell the difference

And no they don't have to be taken everywhere

A human is just another animal.

So what's your point?

We are all sentinel beings and hence equal just because sine humans, like you think humans are superior does nit mean they are.

@Lifeneedsaresetagain I completely agree. Every lifeform is equal. Our dogs, cats, birds etc are our family.

whoosit · 06/12/2025 00:23

I was in decathlon browsing the hats when some bloke's dog pissed on the floor. It was disgusting, he ignored it and carried on shopping. Me and my kids couldn't believe he'd just let his dog do that. He then wandered around like nothing had happened. He didn't even alert the shop staff to ask for something to wipe it up. We were classic mumsnet 'horrified.' Never felt the same in decathlon again. Some dog owners are so entitled it's unreal.

Kirbert2 · 06/12/2025 00:23

YeOldeGreyhound · 06/12/2025 00:21

I have a dog. No kids and never will.

I'm the opposite.

Most do seem to have both though.

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