Surely I’m allowed to decide what body type I have ??!

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I was reading something about midsize fashion yesterday at lunch, mentioned it to a friend and said about how I struggle to find things that fit well and suit me (I’m a pear shape 5’10 and 9.5-10 stone my weight fluctuates within the size I wear depending on time of month etc- size 10) and she had a go at me ! Said that I’m too thin and calling myself midsize is not ok ?

But I’m very disproportionate and feel heavy ? Midsize clothing ideas suit me. She was then saying maybe I even have an eating disorder if I see myself that way.
Surely this is fine for me to see myself as midsize due to my shape/proportions and what suits me ? She was actually fuming though

I am also a very extreme pear but with respect OP, if you can fit into a size 10 bottoms at 5’10 you are in no way midsized or “heavy”.

No she’s not big she’s a lot shorter than me but very into fitness so has a lot of muscle and looks very toned and healthy she goes to the gym a lot

Agree, feelings are not facts.

I wear stretchy things so that’s why (leggings stretchier trousers etc)

Being that tall at max 10 stone you will definitely look thin/slim. That’s not midsize.

But they’re still a size 10.

You sound pearshaped but not mid size.

Why do you want the label so much?

I’m a size 8 with a BMI towards the bottom end of normal, but based on cm alone my waist would make me a size 14/16. It’s not fat, I’m just quite pot bellied (I think a mixture of posture, lack of core muscles to hold my abdomen in and cortisol/water weight).

I follow Carys Whittaker and dress a lot like her as it flatters my body shape, even though I am not the same size as she is.

I wouldn’t describe myself as midsize even though I’m disproportionate, but I do dress for my body type by dressing the in a way that suits mid size people.

I can’t just decide I’m mid size though, because I’m not. I suspect the same applies to you.

YABU about what your friend said and YABVU for posting your height, weight and measurements! If you have disordered eating and thoughts and feelings about your body this isn’t going to help. If you don’t you’re not considering the impact of your post on others.

Im a 10-12, and at the moment I feel chubby, because I'm bigger than I like to be due to quitting smoking and taking up snacking instead.

Objectively I know I'm not fat, but I feel it, although I wouldn't talk about it in front of people who clearly are fat...

It’s not that I want the label it’s where I’ve found that clothes style ideas for midsize make me look better and more balanced

But I needed to give the information surely to get honest responses ? My eating is not disordered at all.

Well Kim K has made this a very desirable body shape, so lucky you .

(I actually deplore Kardashians and that whole sphere of image that surrounds them so very much a tongue in cheek comment, whilst still being true).

If blokes can go around saying they’re women because they “feel” like it, you can say you feel mid sized.

Jokes aside though, I am a similar height and size to you and I would have thought mid size was size 14 and up.

Put simply, who gives a shit what your height and weight is except you and your doctor?

Your poor friend having to listen to this myopic drivel. Haven’t you got anything better to think about and talk about except numbers on a scale?

Well no I don't think you do just get to decide what body shape you have, as it's based on other parameters and well, you know, what you look like.

I'm a normal weight but after a history of eating disorders I could just go around saying I'm obese because that's how I perceive myself. That doesn't make it fact.

Also you're not mid size

Sounds like body dysmorphia and your friend is worried and horrified for you rather than fuming at you.

It's possible to be both slim and pear shaped. It also doesn't matter what clothing sellers call their style ideas, if you like them, use them. They're in the business of shifting stock, they use different marketing campaigns to do that.

I too am very much a pear shape - size 8 top, size 12 bottom. So whilst my hips and thighs feel chubby compared with my top half, objectively, they're a size 12. That isn't really mid size. I agree with your colleague that I think of mid size as a 14.

I’m the same weight as you, around 9 and half to 10 stone. However I’m 5 inches shorter than you at 5ft5. All my clothes are an 8-10, small or XS.

I have no idea how you are the same weight as me, much taller, but consider yourself mid weight. Or how/why you are wearing bigger sizes.

Im with your friend.

"Midsize" is internet bullshit which exists entirely because of policing of how women describe their bodies. (American) women who may have described themselves as fat, or bigger-than-straight-size, were accused of disrespect to 'actual' fat women and so a new category with borders to police was born.

It sounds like you think quite a lot about your body size and shape, so maybe try to stay away from these accounts for a while and also take a break from talking about such things in real life.

But also I think your friend is being unreasonable for repeating the internet body police back at you. But try not to put yourself in that situation in future.

You’re categorically not mid-sized. You’re underweight - do you acknowledge that at all? Preferring larger baggier clothes does not make you mid-weight btw. It makes you a skinny person that likes baggier clothes.

Agreed!

A medium is a 10-12.
A small is a 8-10
A large is a 12-14
Extra small 6 to 8
And so on. You are small to medium by your own acknowledgement in the size you wear.
She is being ridiculous to have a go at you because it is none or her business there is nothing to address in this matter.

Choosing to wear mid-size clothes doesn't make you mid-size any more than me trying to put on my daughter's clothes would make me 10-11 years old.

She could have tried to be politer and bitten her tongue, but absolutely everyone would be internally eyerolling and thinking 'come the fuck on' at someone who is size 10 at 5'10 talking about themselves as midsize and heavy.

When I was younger I was a 5'10, size 10 pear shape. I know what you mean about feeling disproportionate - I, personally, was very self-conscious about my flat chest when I was that size and shape - but I think you do have to accept that to most people it's a very 'my wallet is too small for all my £50 notes' kind of problem to have, and not one to go moaning about.