AIBU to be furious?

[havasack]

On Thursdays I meet my childminder at the school gates to hand over my 1 year old while I’m picking up my 6 year old.
We had a brief chat and then she said (in front of a few other people) she’d seen we’d been away at the weekend and that ‘maybe I should pay my childcare bill before I book holidays’. Three people turned around and I was bright red in the face. How unprofessional!
For context - payment was due Monday and she’s sent me no reminders which she usually does after 2/3 days then I always pay! I’ve never not paid.

I’m thinking of transferring to a nursery as there may be more professional boundaries in place. She should not have mentioned that in front of others. AIBU?

How would you feel if your employers paid you late every month and only after you reminded them? My guess is she is hoping that this will either make you pay on time in future or give you the nudge to move your child so she can give that place to someone she doesn't have to continually chase for payment.

She has earnt it. As well as being a childminder she’s a CEO, CFO and every other roll for her business. Chasing late payments is a very frustrating job she needs to work at when you get customers that are unreliable and rude.

you pay late once then it’s an honest mistake. You pay late more than once and you’re undermining her business.

Pau on time then,that's the easy solution.

Good for the childminder, you really do take the biscuit @havasack.

@havasack how often does your employer delay your wages?

I cannot imagine being so entitled as to assume It’s ok not to pay on time.

I think this is an example of rage bait

You’re outraged that she is picking you up for paying her late?!

what if her bills come out when you’re meant to be paying her and she is incurring charges? Why should she have to chase you? How would you feel if you had to chase for your wages. Take some responsibility for yourself.

She has already charged you late payment fees and has probably resorted to publicly embarrassing you as a last resort. I think it would be a good idea to look for a nursery, as it sounds as if she’s had enough of you, but good luck finding a nursery that will be more tolerant of non-payment

Oh and my daughter was babysitting for a woman nearby and she was late twice to pay her.
She had to text her to remind her.
When she refused her request to babysit she asked why.
My daughter told her you are the only person who doesn't pay immediately and its rude that I have to text you, so I am no longer available to you.
As my daughter was 2 minutes walking distance up the road, no need for a taxi home, this was very stupid of her.
My daughter wouldn't relent despite her apology.
I applaud my daughters boundary.

Good for her calling you out, she's not wrong. She has bills to pay and you are disrespectful to her by assuming you can pay late and making her chase you. You are unprofessional.

Do you work for free OP? No? Then bloody well pay her on time you entitled git

YABU - pay your bills you cheapskate

YABU to repeatedly not pay on time. Unprofessional of her to say that in front of others but you are the one in the wrong here.

I’m guessing the invoice stated payment due by Monday.

@havasack Are you the same poster who's child tutor (can't remember if it was academic or musical) refused to do anymore lessons because you kept paying late and you felt it was her job to remind you to pay? I can't find the thread, but it sounds really familiar in the way that you think it is their job to remind you to pay and if they don't then that's not your fault you didn't pay as you are very busy?

So you regularly pay late and only when she reminds you. You are a cheeky cow and she was well within her rights to embarrass you,

YABU, pay on time

I do think it was wrong for her to mention to you in this way, she could have contacted you privately to discuss. I do also think that you have the responsibility to pay on time and not wait for reminders.

What if you paying late means she can't pay her bills? What is she supposed to do? She is not doing you a favour, she's earning a living and needs to be paid in a timely manner for her services.

payment was due Monday and she’s sent me no reminders which she usually does after 2/3 days then I always pay

I can't believe you're always late paying! How awful for your childminder - she'd probably be delighted if you moved your DC elsewhere. A nursery wouldn't let you away with this.
Fucking hell 😳 some posters at unreal!!!

And you obviously haven't learnt your lesson about paying your bills on time.

I’m not surprised she has called you out. You sound very entitled.

I think she can't be bother with your actitud of paying late. You are a difficult client. Either you pay on time or you don't use her service. I'm sure she has a waiting list of on time payers looking for a place for their kids.

Unless this is a reverse you are so unreasonable, how can you not see it?
why are you doing this? Are you struggling? Forgetting?
she shouldn’t have to send reminders, threaten to kick your child out or add late fees as you should just pay.
sorry you did not like hearing this.
what about her bills? Do you think her mortgage company, tv, phone and electric etc are happy with her being just a few days late?
i think you are lucky she has not yet kicked you out as others would have.
i think you should take this as a warning that she is at the end of her rope, if she good child care apologise, set your own reminders and pay her on time.
others would not be as lenient as this woman.

You are being massively unreasonable, paying a few days late and needing a reminder.

What if she was a few days late collecting your child?

So by your own admission, you regularly pay late by a few days. Why are you paying her late? Why should she have to remind you?

You’re the one in the wrong here and I’m
surprised she hasn’t ditched you already.