AIBU to be furious?

[havasack]

On Thursdays I meet my childminder at the school gates to hand over my 1 year old while I’m picking up my 6 year old.
We had a brief chat and then she said (in front of a few other people) she’d seen we’d been away at the weekend and that ‘maybe I should pay my childcare bill before I book holidays’. Three people turned around and I was bright red in the face. How unprofessional!
For context - payment was due Monday and she’s sent me no reminders which she usually does after 2/3 days then I always pay! I’ve never not paid.

I’m thinking of transferring to a nursery as there may be more professional boundaries in place. She should not have mentioned that in front of others. AIBU?

Who is?

Most companies will charge late payment fees, she’s quite right to do so. Just pay on time and none of this would happen.

This has to be a reverse! OP, she is over your nonsense and I don’t blame her

You should have paid on time. But I was unprofessional of her to mention it in front of others in an attempt to shame you. I would be removing my children from her care. It was very disrespectful.

Maybe she was at the end of her tether with @havasack, @Viviennemary. It may not have been terribly professional, but the disrespect started with the OP, and her casual attitude towards paying her childcare provider. Respect is earned.

Pay her bills on time. Is it the same amount each month? If so, set a standing order.

If not, maybe she should be using direct debit and then all her bills would be paid on time.

However, what she said in public was out of order.

You are both in the wrong.

Oh boo hoo.

How would you like it if your employer didn’t pay you on payday?

God how many times are you not paying her on time?
Sounds like it's regular and you know you're doing it
Pay her on time and without need for reminders
A nursery would have given you notice ages ago

She has bills to pay!

How entitled are you!

And good luck with late paying a nursery...

So you are a frequent late payer.
Shame on you, this is a persons wages/salary.

I would be giving you notice to leave.
and I expect you have another £50 to pay on top of this month's fees.

You should NOT pay her late. Very bad of you. I dont blame her saying what she said.

Fair play to the childminder!
You pay her late every time , she has to send reminders every time to get paid and you stand about boasting about holidays?

You're a disgrace. You got off very lightly.

If I overheard that conversation I would be more inclined to think she wad rude and out of line than think anything of her comment.

Why not just pay on time? 🤦🏻‍♀️

This has to be a wind up. If you went to a more "professional" setting and continued to pay late, you'd owe much more than £100. The cheek (of you!), I'd have said the same thing that your childminder did.

It's not hard to pay on time - if money was incredibly tight it would ALMOST be understandable but as you say, you've just been on holiday.

Sort it out OP. Perhaps it was unprofessional and slightly rude of the childminder, but they certainly didn't throw the first stone.

This suggests you're frequently late in paying for her to feel the need to do that.

As for 'hasn't earned' - that's irrelevant. She could have all manner of other expenses set to be paid out on a certain day, based around income from clients of hers being paid in a timely manner.

Just pay the fucking bill on time. How stressful for her to have to chase up payment on a regular basis.

This. Imagine being self employed and having all your outgoings like mortgages and utility bills coming out, then your clients don't pay on time. It can lead to unauthorised overdrafts and chaos. Just bloody pay the woman ON TIME. You're also being totally unprofessional by your laissez-faire attitude to her actual livelihood. Grow up and have some respect.

Of course she’s earnt it. You paid her late and she added late charges on. Beggars belief why you’re not paying her on time yet you have money to go away. Some people live pay check to pay check. She could have been relying on that to feed her kids pay a gas bill etc etc. you are wrong with that attitude!

I agree that she shouldn’t have chased you in front of other people. However, it sounds like you frequently pay late and that is not acceptable. I am a self employed piano teacher and quite a few parents have to be chased every single time. It is so annoying, how would you like it if your employer just decided not to pay you on time? One parent, after having been chased 3 times, said “I’ll pay you on 24th Nov” - payment was due at half term! Clients take the p@ss with self employed people.

Why dont you pay your childminder on time?
Why are you paying late?
Why does she have to remind you to pay your bill on time?
I understand why you feel furious that the childminder brought this issue up in front other people .
The answer is to pay your bill on time.

So does this mean that you have paid her late at least 10 times? She most definitely has earned that money, she should not have to waste her time chasing you. Sort yourself out and get your life together and pay your bills on time.

Pay her on time then? You know when the bill is due by now surely? Why should she have to wait days to be paid and have to send you repeated reminders?

God you're entitled, OP.

You need to pay her on time, it's her job. She's not a voluntary worker.