AIBU to be furious?

[havasack]

On Thursdays I meet my childminder at the school gates to hand over my 1 year old while I’m picking up my 6 year old.
We had a brief chat and then she said (in front of a few other people) she’d seen we’d been away at the weekend and that ‘maybe I should pay my childcare bill before I book holidays’. Three people turned around and I was bright red in the face. How unprofessional!
For context - payment was due Monday and she’s sent me no reminders which she usually does after 2/3 days then I always pay! I’ve never not paid.

I’m thinking of transferring to a nursery as there may be more professional boundaries in place. She should not have mentioned that in front of others. AIBU?

You are completely in the wrong. Pay her on time. We all have food to buy and direct debits coming out of our accounts for mortgage/council tax etc. what’s she meant to do if she hasn’t been paid? Have a word with yourself and set up a standing order to her. You are right to be embarrassed… for defaulting on paying somebody’s salary that they rely on to live.

Pay on time.

Paying late is unacceptable. She's letting you know. Dont pay late again.

Dear Christ, so you consistently pay her late!

You really are a cheeky cow, your childminder made the comment when you were ALREADY THREE DAYS LATE paying her. You need to get your act together, or your "thinking of transferring to a nursery" might become a necessity if she tires of having to chase you for payment.

If my work paid me late, even by a few days, I'd face bank charges and overdraft charges. I'd be furious.
Your attitude is disgusting.
Oh and FYI. Nurseries charge late fees as well. For "no work".
You are Utterly ridiculous

I’m calling a reverse, no one is this thick skinned surely 🙄

@havasack doesn't like being told how unreasonable she is, and has flounced, I suspect.

Whilst I think it’s unprofessional of her to have addressed it that way I also think that paying a few days late is equally wrong. Imagine you had to email your employer reminding him to pay you.

If she's working on a very tight cashflow people who are always three days late are the bane of her life.

Has it caused comment before?

Pay her on time. Or transfer to a nursery and see how long you last paying them late. Your kids would lose their place within a couple of months around here.

Wow! What would you do if your employer paid you late? She should be paid on time every time and should never have to send a reminder.

So she’s had at least an extra £100 from me that she hasn’t earned at all.

Chasing payments is also work.

It sounds like she has certainly “earned” it

"payment was due Monday and she’s sent me no reminders which she usually does after 2/3 days"

You clearly make a habit of late payment, and only after she's had to chase you. That's terrible behaviour on your part. From your follow-up post, it's clearly been going on for quite some time. It was unprofessional of her to tackle you in public about it, but quite frankly that's understandable when you habitually pay her late, and only after she's had to go to the trouble of reminding you. As plenty of other posters have said, change your ways. Make a note in your calendar of when your childcare bill is due, and settle it before she has to ask.

It also occurs to me that this could be a reverse. Are you the childminder, seriously pissed off with a client who never pays on time, who snapped and got an angry response? If so, don't worry, YANBU. It sounds like you were more than patient for a very long time. Let's hope the mum learns her lesson.

I understand where you are coming from in that she said this in front of others, but perhaps if you were self employed you might understand how annoying and unreasonable it is to not just pay things when they are due.

Good luck paying the nursery late.

You are joking right?

Agree. OP says there have been payment reminders, threats to stop childcare and finally late payment fees - unbelievably OP has racked up £100 worth of these. Clearly nothing works so the childminder has moved to trying to embarrass her into paying on time. OP doesn’t seem to be very self aware.

Would you be ok with your workplace paying you randomly a few days late so you never knew when you’d get paid?

OP, she was wrong to humiliate you in public but how would you like it if your employer was never paying you on the same day? She's got her own bills to cover on time. Being self-employed is enough of a cashflow nightmare as it is.

Well then pay on time then!!!!
my god, it’s not very often I read a post on here that makes me feel so annoyed with a stranger. Your sense of entitlement and disrespect for someone’s income who you are employing is immature and disgusting

I'm starting to wonder if this is a parody thread.

Are you one of those people who doesn't respond to messages and e-mails?

Wow

You are so poor at paying on time she's had to threaten to not look after your child any longer and had to bring in late fees? And you think it's still her fault you didn't pay her on time because she didn't 'remind' you?

WTF is wrong with you!

Yes, YABVVVVU - she has bills to pay, too. Imagine you pay your mortgage on time and credit card bills to avoid surcharges without 'reminders'.

She’s justified in being furious - you definitely aren’t. I imagine you’re satisfied with her as a child minder? If so, treat her fairly and pay her on time.

so you do pay late. Get a grip of it and pay on time.