AIBU to be furious?

[havasack]

On Thursdays I meet my childminder at the school gates to hand over my 1 year old while I’m picking up my 6 year old.
We had a brief chat and then she said (in front of a few other people) she’d seen we’d been away at the weekend and that ‘maybe I should pay my childcare bill before I book holidays’. Three people turned around and I was bright red in the face. How unprofessional!
For context - payment was due Monday and she’s sent me no reminders which she usually does after 2/3 days then I always pay! I’ve never not paid.

I’m thinking of transferring to a nursery as there may be more professional boundaries in place. She should not have mentioned that in front of others. AIBU?

You are a massive CF.

This person is doing a job. You need to pay and pay on time.

Nice work OP, a proper blood boiler. Good work.

Well lets be honest here, if your employer paid you late 'only by a few days' you'd be unhappy about that, and i get the gist that this is frequent if she has to send you reminders! people have bills to pay, only a few days late can mean her bills arent paid on time and fines can be incurred. Why would you think it's ok to pay her late? Sorry but YABU and she was totally within her rights to embarrass you imo. Good luck with a nursery though as you'll absolutely be fined if you pay late ;-)

Why should she have to remind you more than once, she is not your PA

On further thought, I can't believe anyone is this ignorant... so I'm going to say @havasack is entertaining herself on a Friday morning and having us all on.

It sounds like she’s been trying any way she can think of to get you to pay on time but even with late fees, you still don’t respect her enough to pay on time. She gave you plenty of chances until the only thing she had left in her arsenal was a public shaming as she obviously rightly thought that you would care more about your public image then another persons livelihood, so you brought it upon yourself.

Wow, this sounds so entitled. No she should not have said something in front of anyone, however neither should she have to send reminders every time she requires payment.

You say that she hasn't earned that extra money but no one pays her to spend her time going through all her payments and having to send out reminders that she shouldn't need to send out. A lot of people forget to pay a bill every now and then, myself included, but it sounds like you are a serial offender and she's fed up.

She was unprofessional.
You should pay on time without reminders.

Can you hear yourself?

Why do you need a reminder? You pay the day it's due. A nursery will be much more upfront about payment btw - probably by direct debit.

You're a serious CF with an attitude problem.

Good for her. I’m self employed and people who pay me late are the bane of my life.

So if there’s a £10 late fee and you’re saying she made £100 on that, does it mean you paid her late at least 10 times? (I assume more as she probably introduced it after you had paid late in the past).

I must admit, when I read your OP and updates my blood started boiling. This shows a complete lack of respect for a person who’s looking after your CHILDREN. I always always always pay my childminder on time, I think it’s so important. I am really surprised she hasn’t ended your contract because I would. You’re being a terribly CF and very very very unreasonable. I’m glad she called you out.

She has to send you a reminder every month? What the fuck? If payment was due on Monday then pay her on Monday and stop being a dick. I don't blame her for being pissed off. Pay the woman.

Pay your bill on time. Maybe your childminder would have liked tp go away for the weekend with her family but couldn’t because some scruff thinks she can pay when she likes.

And, speaking as a childminder, nothing boils my blood more than parents paying late, but sharing pics on Facebook of new shoes, expensive haircuts and holidays booked to Disney.....

Just pay on time

So you often pay late and have done so on 10+ occasions (£100 fine). A nursery will fine you for late payment. She was unprofessional but you have paid her late several times and the only way to make you understand that you pay your bills on time (or incur a fine) was to publicly shame you. She's not your friend, you employ her so pay her on time.

Not the point is it? She still shouldnt have been so rude.

Not the point. You should have paid her on Monday.

This!

I hope you just bored. And if this is true I hope you learned your lesson.

(I was going to say she was unprofessional but actually good for her to have confidence to call you out! I'm sure she will get another child pretty quick)

It is the point. How would you like your employer to frequently pay you late? You'd be furious. OP should pay on time.

Who really gives a fuck of she was rude? She's clearly running out of options to get the OP to actually pay her for her work of looking after her child. She wasn't rude enough.

Unless she has changed you for times when your DC weren't with her then she has definitely earned it.

And sure, put your kid in nursery, but generally they aren't too keen on parents who are tardy with paying either.

It doesn't matter if it's a few hours or even minutes past the deadline. You're late. You should not be late.
I bet you wouldn't turn up late for a flight to one of your precious holidays.
But she is just a servant to you isn't she, not a professional who deserves respect.