AIBU to be furious?

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On Thursdays I meet my childminder at the school gates to hand over my 1 year old while I’m picking up my 6 year old.
We had a brief chat and then she said (in front of a few other people) she’d seen we’d been away at the weekend and that ‘maybe I should pay my childcare bill before I book holidays’. Three people turned around and I was bright red in the face. How unprofessional!
For context - payment was due Monday and she’s sent me no reminders which she usually does after 2/3 days then I always pay! I’ve never not paid.

I’m thinking of transferring to a nursery as there may be more professional boundaries in place. She should not have mentioned that in front of others. AIBU?

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I’d be absolutely furious at you for regularly paying late if I was her.

Are you serious?!

if you’ve incurred £100 of late fees, then that’s 10 days you’ve been late in total!

If it was due Monday, you should have paid Monday. You absolutely shouldn’t need reminding each month.

Totally with the childminder on this one! Well done her for calling you out!

Join the current passive aggressive thread OP.

Well done that woman!

Credit to her for having the backbone to out you as a bad payer

Pay her on time. Simple. You're being completely unreasonable. Would you expect to pay late for any other service? Or just the one that is arguably the most important because it involves CARE OF YOUR CHILDREN?

You're lucky she even continues the contract with you, many would have ditched you a long time ago.

At least you had the decency to be embarrassed when your behaviour was made apparent to other people - the reason you were mortified is because your behaviour is mortifying and makes you look like a bad person!

Does your employer pay you on an expected date? How would you feel if they ‘forgot’?
You’re asking someone to care for your child but not treating her with respect. Give yourself a good shake and take your embarrassment as deserved.

For god's sake just pay the woman on time!
You are totally the one in the wrong here

I mean. It sounds like you're a persistent late payer. Imagine if your employer was so casual about paying you... I assume your mortgage or rent goes out on a fixed day of the month and it's ideal that you have funds in the account? So does hers.

Moving to nursery won't give you a magic Get Out Of Jail Free card for avoiding late payment fines. If you're just moving your child's care because you're embarrassed, rather than because it's best for your child... Ah, there's so much wrong with your post!

Just pay the woman and be grateful she hasn't terminated your contract.

You're unreasonable for not paying on time.
She's unreasonable for not dealing with it professionally.
Moving to a nursery would be a good idea, I wouldn't want my childcare to be someone I have a contentious relationship with, they'll still want paying on time though.

It sounds like she's got fed up of you consistently requiring reminders to pay, and are usually late.
I'd say you were overdue a dose of embarrassment.

Nurseries won't be any more generous, I can absolutely promise you.

You need to apologize, set a monthly reminder on your phone, and do better in future.

Just pay her on time. Why do you wait for the reminder?

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You are unbelievable.

Me too. You wouldn’t treat any other service that way. Having to keep being reminded because you usually pay late by a few days is just laziness and I’d be calling it out too. Maybe treat your childminder with a little more respect if you don’t like being called out op?

so you regularly pay late, expect reminders every month to pay even though you know it’s due!! She’s got bills to pay too, she’s probably made a show of you to shame you into being more organised and pay your bills.

Just get Alexa to remind you to pay the bloody bills. Jesus.

She’s had an extra £100 from you because you don’t pay on time, it’s not hard! YABU!

So you are the nightmare client she is at her wits end about?

She’s hoping to shame you into paying on time since nothing else is working. You are being so unreasonable, I can’t quite believe you need it pointing out, frankly.

I'm sorry?!

You pay 2-3 days (if we believe you) late every month. No change.
You only pay when reminded. No change.
You have paid £10 a day (again if we believe you) late fees. No change.
You've had suspension of care threatened and still no change.

At what point do you learn your lesson and actually pay her on time? Well you clearly care about appearances so perhaps other people over hearing about your cheeky fuckery might do the trick!

Team childminder here. Try that shit nursery and see how long they put up with it.

I think the other responses are correct in that you should really pay on time but what you are really asking is if the way she addressed it was correct and it was definitely not so I understand your anger as I would be annoyed too.

It sounds as though you are not playing fair by her as you regularly pay late.

She is right to raise this with you wherever and whenever she can. She has her bills to pay.

Sounds like late payment after prompting is the norm with you which is bang out of order. Why can't you get a direct debit set up?

Would you like begging your employer for your wages that were regularly several days late?

Haha! You are hilarious!
If you pay your credit card bill late, you get charged.
If you pay your mortgage late you get charged
The childminder probably has direct debits to be paid at the beginning of the month and needs to money in to help pay them and she's probably sick of waiting for it.
Try doing that at a nursery- they won't even let you through the door until you've paid.