AIBU to be furious?

[havasack]

On Thursdays I meet my childminder at the school gates to hand over my 1 year old while I’m picking up my 6 year old.
We had a brief chat and then she said (in front of a few other people) she’d seen we’d been away at the weekend and that ‘maybe I should pay my childcare bill before I book holidays’. Three people turned around and I was bright red in the face. How unprofessional!
For context - payment was due Monday and she’s sent me no reminders which she usually does after 2/3 days then I always pay! I’ve never not paid.

I’m thinking of transferring to a nursery as there may be more professional boundaries in place. She should not have mentioned that in front of others. AIBU?

This !

She has earned this- by working late. People rely on being paid on time, she could have accrued late payment charges from her bank or her bills due to your blasé attitude to fairly paying her wages on time. It was probably inappropriate and intentional but quite satisfying that you were embarrassed for your poor behaviour.

So you clearly take the piss in paying her late then and she’s likely had enough

You MUST have heard of a due date? Google it, it will explain all.

I hope you've found the feedback useful. Sometimes when we're busy we can lose sight of what's important and perhaps how our actions impact others.

Find a new childminder, and definitely put in a complaint.

OP, you dont understand
For you it might be just few days but for her it could be a missed bill, as she was counting on those money to pay the bill.

If I’m reading this right… you frequently pay your childminder late @havasack? To the point where she has had to threaten to suspend care?

Yeah… think the wrong person is pissed off here. I’d have called you out too….

Your attitude to paying her is really poor. Pay on time when you receive the invoice.
She was a bit unprofessional but perhaps she’s lost patience and you should be embarrassed to treat her poorly. She’s looking after your DC and could just give you notice if you don’t pay on time.

YABVU OP. Why is it the Childminders responsibility to remind you? She's clearly annoyed that you consistently pay her late - which is absolutely not ok. She has to pay bills too. The £10 a day late fee is standard, and if you begrudge paying it so much just pay her on time when you're meant to!

It doesn’t matter. You are being unfair. You should pay on time, every time.

Complaint? Op has regularly paid her late! Im suprised the childminder hasn’t kicked her off her books.

You remember to take your DC for the Childminder to collect but, and by the sound of it, quite often forget that the Childminer needs payment.

It's a good job she's not as unreliable as you and remembers to turn up.

Pay your bills on time.

You'd lose your place in the nursery you're changing to if you did that.

And yeah, disrupt your children's stability because you have wounded pride. For sure!

Wow, you are a CF.
Pay your bills on time! Nursery would also charge you late fees.

Yes

At least 10 times late and op "embarrassed" by this being pointed out.

I dont think they are coming back

I was willing to say she was unprofessional saying that in front of other parents but actually, it sounds as though you regularly take the piss. You know when it’s due so should set a standing order up for that day. Of course she’s added late fees on, you never pay on time!

Why can’t you pay her on time?

Yep, complaint for unprofessional conduct. No need to pretend not to understand me again, as I completely disagree with you.

Ciao.

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Decent & good childminders are like gold dust. When you find one, you do everything in your power to keep them sweet and treat them with kindness. They have a community, so if you upset one then word will spread.
If you think a nursery environment will be better you're sadly mistaken. You won't get the flexibility of meeting you at the school gate, and if you're late paying they will refuse to take your child - no excuses.
If I were you, I would apologise to your childminder and change how you do things so it doesn't happen again.

Maybe you should start paying on time then. She shouldn't have to chase you month after month. Would you be OK with your employer paying you a couple of days late regularly?

You are paying a childminder? Presumably because you work, how did you approach your employer the second time they were late paying and any time since then? I assume you mortgage or rent payments were delayed and that is fine? Or no you had to juggle because they are direct debits?

In my ivory towers I can say with pride....I did not receive any reminders to pay my childminders or nurseries. My kids caregiver deserves priority treatment.

Stop paying late! Would you be ok with it if your employers randomly paid your salary a few days late?

You should be paying her promptly not a few days late