FiL crawling round on work video call

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Am I being over-sensitive here?
I was on a video call this morning when my 73yo FIL came to get some things from the room. I realised, muted, said I was on a call and assumed he would wait until I said I was free. A minute later, I realise he has come inside and is crawling around trying not to be seen (he absolutely would have been seen). It was an external call, so not even colleagues I could laugh it off with). I'm absolutely livid.

For context, my study / home office is used as our guest room. This is not normally an issue. I had also warned him I was starting work and had to be on video calls 30 minutes earlier.

YABU - he is old, doesn't get tech, and no one said anything
YANBU - what sort of idiot does that?

I voted YABU because it’s funny, especially with the meme.
Surely you’re posting this as a bit of a laugh?

what are you actually expecting everyone to say?
‘OMG that’s awful, kick him out immediately!!’ 🤣🤣

Livid really?

Blur your background as a default for future calls

You know not everyone has a large house right?

Omg this is hilarious! Like something out of a comedy 😂 they probably think you're having an affair with a 73 year old or something.. or you have a dom/sub relationship making him crawl around all day.
Jokes aside, I do feel you. I would actually have been a bit annoyed too as you were on an important call. I'm sure they just think it's a family member doing what he was trying to do: not been seen while getting something.

73 is not old particularly if he is fit enough to be 'crawling around'. Get a grip.

Maybe don’t invite guests you can’t accommodate?

Try to laugh it off and get a sign you can stick saying do not enter work conference

I think your approach to guests staying is fine op. Not everyone has the luxury of having a home office and a separate guest room - and as guest rooms are less frequently used than other rooms it makes sense for them to be doubled up as an office (or any other hobby room you would like - you’re paying for it!). You gave him notice that the room would be unavailable whilst you were on calls - he should have taken out anything he needed in advance to not disturb you. To then further embarrass you on a call was not on really.

"This is one of those things in time to come you're going to look back on a and smile. He obviously cares a lot about you and respects your work that he didn't barge in past and dismiss you, at 73 he decided to crawl in an attempt not to be a nuisance."

This. It really isn't a big deal in the whole scheme of things and he obviously didn't set out to maliciously sabotage your call. God knows we've all done daft things and to be honest this is pretty amusing. He's also highly unlikely to ever do it again. So OP, just move on.

Yeah this. I try not to ever go into our loft bedroom if my DH is wfh but he always says his background is blurred out and no one can see me anyway. I've definitely had to go in wrapped in just a towel after showering after a jazzercise class once as I couldn't wait til his call ended and needed to find new clothes & go out again to an appointment. Obviously I'm usually really organised but occasionally I do need to go in for something. Really hope no one has seen me scurrying around 😆 👀

What on earth was so urgent that he couldnt wait though? Stupid man, I would have been livid! Unless the house was on fire he should have taken the hint.

Im sorry op that image is making me laugh so much!

That's hilarious! You may be annoyed now, but it makes a great family story that you will enjoy for years to come.

Especially an elderly parent.

The way I hear people talk about parents over the age of 70 I find it totally disrespectful and lacking in any compassion. Wait till you’re over 70.

😂😂😂😂😂

Sorry, I was killing myself laughing reading this 😂 🤣 though it's actually not funny at all, I would be highly irritated and would have said something. 😤

He is your guest so treat him as such. Poor bloke.

Ooh - the love you have for your MIL just radiates through your post

What kind of a guest is loitering about in their guest room during the day - anti-social much

I think it's perfectly normal tp have a rest and reset in your own designated private space when you're visiting people, it's exhausting being on all the time or constantly in company.

All True.

Amazing the disrespect shown to the woman that pushed you out changed your nappy and held you while you puked. To all of you when you are on mumsnet in 30 complaining about your children and how they treat you.

I think this is hilarious, sorry OP. Bless he didn't want to disturb your call but managed to anyway & piss you off in the mean time. I doubt the person on the other end would have seen him crawling around on the floor. It's only if something or someone comes in to your space that it unblurs the background around you. Have a little word with him asking that he doesn't come in if he sees you're on a call & that once you've finished you'll give him a shout so he can get whatever he needs out of the room before your next call.

YABCU - I would have just said, don't mind him. Scared ?? Seriously. Honestly - no one really cares.