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Misunderstood Xmas gift

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Idontpostmuch · 03/12/2025 10:42

Just for fun, what have you given as a Christmas present that totally fell flat and was misunderstood? My bad idea was a box of luxury crackers. It was some yrs ago, late 80s. Very cheap crackers were the norm and the luxury sort were more of a rarity. So I bought a box for my sister. She and her husband always had friends round on Boxing Day or NY Day, when she pulled out all the stops. The crackers would have graced any table. White with golden ribbons, they looked classy, and the items inside were so much nicer than the usual trinkets. Twice as expensive for half as many, it seemed the sort of thing many would like but would never justify buying. However, my sister decided that since nobody would give anyone crackers, they had to be intended just as packaging, so she proceeded to pull them all one after the other, and ended up with a pile of trinkets, albeit superior trinkets.

That's my best flop, but a close second is giving a friend a metal water bottle because she carried water in an old plastic lemonade bottle. So she now uses the bottle at home when the rest of us use glasses and carries on with her ancient plastic bottles outside.

OP posts:
Cornflakegirl7 · 04/12/2025 16:02

NecklessMumster · 04/12/2025 13:01

My DHs friend always brings snuff to nights out, they all have a sniff round the pub table after a few drinks,(yes, it's definitely snuff!)

I bought some from a car boot sale when I were a child. Can't think what happened to it now.

iSage · 04/12/2025 16:03

Calliopespa · 04/12/2025 13:43

Yes I want to see it too! Can the poster try re-wording it perhaps? Or can someone who saw it summarise without the deletion trigger?

It was the tale of child being bought 'Mein Kampf' when they asked for a MineCraft book - a rather well-worn urban myth - the post contained ageist language which is probably why it was deleted.

Hadalifeonce · 04/12/2025 16:04

Every single year, my grandmother waited for all the presents to be unwrapped then disappear with some of the wrapping paper. She would return with a present for my mother (her DiL). It was always 1/4 of loose leaf tea. Every single bloody year, my mother always thanked her. As I got older, I understood more, and asked my mother about it, and why she wasn't angry with her. She explained that my grandmother had never forgiven my mother for stealing her son, and the tea was insignificant compared to other stuff, so mother wasn't about to give her the satisfaction of showing any reaction.

TamarindCottage · 04/12/2025 16:14

PiePlease · 03/12/2025 14:35

My mum got my dad a set of suitcases, which he opened one by one like Russian dolls, expecting there to be something inside. There was nothing inside.

He thought she was gifting him a holiday, but it was just suitcases. He was very upset!

That’s hilarious! 🤣 Your poor dad 😂😂😂

Calliopespa · 04/12/2025 16:24

iSage · 04/12/2025 16:03

It was the tale of child being bought 'Mein Kampf' when they asked for a MineCraft book - a rather well-worn urban myth - the post contained ageist language which is probably why it was deleted.

Oh thank you. I did see that post actually. But thanks.

Cornflakegirl7 · 04/12/2025 16:30

I don't think the crackers are such a weird gift, FWIW OP.

If she loves hosting and being a good host, a gift that would make her hosting more enjoyable for her and her guests is well thought out IMO. A bit like buying an unusual bottle of wine or chocolates, the only difference being those are things that could be enjoyed alone rather than only having the purpose of hosting.

They are an unusual gift perhaps but to me quite a well thought out one. They're to make an event more enjoyable.

I bought my dad a bonsai tree that I thought he'd like for his mancave office one year. Went down like a lead balloon, I got a sarcastic 'oh I'm right into that!' Response.

He loves nature and I've always bought him ornamental gifts for his office and thought he'd like it. I didn't appreciate the ungrateful attitude either, it isn't how he brought me up and he isn't all that great at gift giving himself, but I've always been grateful for what he has got me even if it wasn't quite to my taste.

Not xmas, but someone bought me a guinea-pig once. I ran a small rescue at the time and had told this friend that I was looking forward to a guinea-pig being dropped off later, as I hadn't had any in for a while and I like them. Only said guinea pig actually found a home so the rehomer rang me to say my facilities were no longer needed.

I told friend next time we spoke and he turned up with one later that day! Purchased from a bliddy pet shop. I was so bemused, I mean I was obviously dead-against pet shops given my rescue centre was required as a result of there being so many discarded pets bought from them! And now i had another mouth to feed which was taking up a space that an animal in need could've had.

And I obviously had to go out and locate another one as I didn't want the poor thing on its own (The original guinea was an intact boar whom i wouldn've had neutered first).

So confused as to why he didn't realise any of that.

Idontpostmuch · 04/12/2025 16:59

OK, just want to say thanks to all of you for sharing your stories. I've enjoyed them, both the stories about misunderstood gifts and those about gifts that weren't appreciated. Thanks also to anyone who responded in any way, both those of you who understood my point as well as those who got the wrong end of the stick and just wanted to point out, in case I hadn't realised, that crackers weren't usually given. Finally, I've just noticed I posted on AIBU. It was unintentional. Happy Xmas when it comes.

OP posts:
Idontpostmuch · 04/12/2025 17:02

Cornflakegirl7 · 04/12/2025 16:30

I don't think the crackers are such a weird gift, FWIW OP.

If she loves hosting and being a good host, a gift that would make her hosting more enjoyable for her and her guests is well thought out IMO. A bit like buying an unusual bottle of wine or chocolates, the only difference being those are things that could be enjoyed alone rather than only having the purpose of hosting.

They are an unusual gift perhaps but to me quite a well thought out one. They're to make an event more enjoyable.

I bought my dad a bonsai tree that I thought he'd like for his mancave office one year. Went down like a lead balloon, I got a sarcastic 'oh I'm right into that!' Response.

He loves nature and I've always bought him ornamental gifts for his office and thought he'd like it. I didn't appreciate the ungrateful attitude either, it isn't how he brought me up and he isn't all that great at gift giving himself, but I've always been grateful for what he has got me even if it wasn't quite to my taste.

Not xmas, but someone bought me a guinea-pig once. I ran a small rescue at the time and had told this friend that I was looking forward to a guinea-pig being dropped off later, as I hadn't had any in for a while and I like them. Only said guinea pig actually found a home so the rehomer rang me to say my facilities were no longer needed.

I told friend next time we spoke and he turned up with one later that day! Purchased from a bliddy pet shop. I was so bemused, I mean I was obviously dead-against pet shops given my rescue centre was required as a result of there being so many discarded pets bought from them! And now i had another mouth to feed which was taking up a space that an animal in need could've had.

And I obviously had to go out and locate another one as I didn't want the poor thing on its own (The original guinea was an intact boar whom i wouldn've had neutered first).

So confused as to why he didn't realise any of that.

Bonsai tree a good idea. Guinea pig well meant, but you must have wished you hadn't mentioned the other one 😒

OP posts:
Calliopespa · 04/12/2025 17:09

Idontpostmuch · 04/12/2025 16:59

OK, just want to say thanks to all of you for sharing your stories. I've enjoyed them, both the stories about misunderstood gifts and those about gifts that weren't appreciated. Thanks also to anyone who responded in any way, both those of you who understood my point as well as those who got the wrong end of the stick and just wanted to point out, in case I hadn't realised, that crackers weren't usually given. Finally, I've just noticed I posted on AIBU. It was unintentional. Happy Xmas when it comes.

And happy cracker-pulling op!!

I think you have earned yourself a box of posh ones!

YourRealAquaOP · 04/12/2025 17:09

Thank you everyone for making me laugh

pottylolly · 04/12/2025 17:17

333FionaG · 03/12/2025 14:48

How much gin was in each cracker?! The gin crackers I bought contained about a teaspoonful in each, not enough to get anyone remotely sloshed.

It was a proper gin. About a double shot in each. But she’s thin & was drinking beforehand too lol

TeaBiscuitsNaptime · 04/12/2025 17:44

Theunamedcat · 03/12/2025 15:47

I would buy something for myself and accept it back graciously

Yes, I should have definitely have done that 😅👍

SoftLass · 04/12/2025 17:52

Alwaystired23 · 04/12/2025 09:18

My dad had to have his dog pts a year ago. So for Christmas I got a photo of her on a slate made. He burst in to tears on Christmas day, couldn't talk and wouldn't look at the picture. I felt terrible. It's only in the last few months the picture has gone up in their house.

Almost exactly the same thing here, I had my beloved cat PTS (on my birthday) around a month before Christmas and my DH got me a mug printed with photos of her for Christmas. Took one look at it, burst into tears and had to hide it away back in the box. It was about 2 years before I could bring myself to open it again. Steer well clear of sentimental gifts like that!

Heyhoitsme · 04/12/2025 17:54

As a 12 year old I gave my mum a chip pan for Christmas. I thought she'd be delighted. She said nothing and never used it.

Becbbec81 · 04/12/2025 17:55

Idontpostmuch · 03/12/2025 10:42

Just for fun, what have you given as a Christmas present that totally fell flat and was misunderstood? My bad idea was a box of luxury crackers. It was some yrs ago, late 80s. Very cheap crackers were the norm and the luxury sort were more of a rarity. So I bought a box for my sister. She and her husband always had friends round on Boxing Day or NY Day, when she pulled out all the stops. The crackers would have graced any table. White with golden ribbons, they looked classy, and the items inside were so much nicer than the usual trinkets. Twice as expensive for half as many, it seemed the sort of thing many would like but would never justify buying. However, my sister decided that since nobody would give anyone crackers, they had to be intended just as packaging, so she proceeded to pull them all one after the other, and ended up with a pile of trinkets, albeit superior trinkets.

That's my best flop, but a close second is giving a friend a metal water bottle because she carried water in an old plastic lemonade bottle. So she now uses the bottle at home when the rest of us use glasses and carries on with her ancient plastic bottles outside.

April Fools Dog GIF by Puglie Pug

The Gift I gave was not a Christmas gift but did go down like a lead ballon! I got my work friend/colleague a leaving gift. She was always saying how much she absolutely loved pug dogs, like saying this to everyone all the time, and that she was going to get a pug.

So I saw a mug with a pug on. It was a fun one that was like Tupac’s thug life but had a little pug with a bandanna saying pug life. She opened before I got to work and I got in the office and everyone went really quiet, I have never had such a dirty look in all my life! I was so confused. I then realised she had come to work that day with a little headband similar to the headband on the pug on the mug. So she took this personally and snubbed me after this! Her loss!

Everyone said they could not understand how personally she took this considering she was obsessed with pugs?

anyway on my leaving day presents I got a mug from my colleagues who knew about the incident that said everyone needs a pug mug 🤣. I loved that mug and had it for years at my new job until someone broke it ☹️.

Newgirls · 04/12/2025 18:02

Idontpostmuch · 03/12/2025 10:42

Just for fun, what have you given as a Christmas present that totally fell flat and was misunderstood? My bad idea was a box of luxury crackers. It was some yrs ago, late 80s. Very cheap crackers were the norm and the luxury sort were more of a rarity. So I bought a box for my sister. She and her husband always had friends round on Boxing Day or NY Day, when she pulled out all the stops. The crackers would have graced any table. White with golden ribbons, they looked classy, and the items inside were so much nicer than the usual trinkets. Twice as expensive for half as many, it seemed the sort of thing many would like but would never justify buying. However, my sister decided that since nobody would give anyone crackers, they had to be intended just as packaging, so she proceeded to pull them all one after the other, and ended up with a pile of trinkets, albeit superior trinkets.

That's my best flop, but a close second is giving a friend a metal water bottle because she carried water in an old plastic lemonade bottle. So she now uses the bottle at home when the rest of us use glasses and carries on with her ancient plastic bottles outside.

I totally get this about the water bottle - metal ones are heavy to carry around. I have lovely ones but reuse plastic ones as so much lighter. Sweet that she uses it when you’re there - perhaps she has it on her desk or something

Newgirls · 04/12/2025 18:04

My worse gift I bought was a virtual reality headset - didn’t seem to work with anything. I’m cringing thinking about it now

sprigatito · 04/12/2025 18:05

Becbbec81 · 04/12/2025 17:55

The Gift I gave was not a Christmas gift but did go down like a lead ballon! I got my work friend/colleague a leaving gift. She was always saying how much she absolutely loved pug dogs, like saying this to everyone all the time, and that she was going to get a pug.

So I saw a mug with a pug on. It was a fun one that was like Tupac’s thug life but had a little pug with a bandanna saying pug life. She opened before I got to work and I got in the office and everyone went really quiet, I have never had such a dirty look in all my life! I was so confused. I then realised she had come to work that day with a little headband similar to the headband on the pug on the mug. So she took this personally and snubbed me after this! Her loss!

Everyone said they could not understand how personally she took this considering she was obsessed with pugs?

anyway on my leaving day presents I got a mug from my colleagues who knew about the incident that said everyone needs a pug mug 🤣. I loved that mug and had it for years at my new job until someone broke it ☹️.

Jaysus, how touchy people are! It’s a fucking minefield out there 😂

Chinsupmeloves · 04/12/2025 18:10

Gave my Nanna some bath foams, forgot she only had a shower!

RavenhairedRachel · 04/12/2025 18:15

I once made my Mum a hamper I bought a good quality basket lined it and fancied it up and filled it with luxury food items. I took it down on Christmas day and she proceeded to empty it put all the items away in the fridge and cupboards and handed me the basket back. It was as if I had done her a bit of shopping.

Agneslamb · 04/12/2025 18:17

I gave a family member a set of luxury bathroom soap, shower gel and shampoo. He and his partner lived on a canal boat and I suppose water was in short supply. However, they took exception to my well meaning gift, asking if I thought they were dirty!

hcee19 · 04/12/2025 18:19

I am a yearly recipient of odd gifts at xmas. My mother's cousin, is completely crazy, she makes us laugh so much with the gifts she gives to me and my dh each xmas. Last year l got a jar of Asda's own brand coffee and a loofer, my dh, got a 4 pack of beans and shammy leather, no idea what she thinks as she wraps them up....

bumptybum · 04/12/2025 18:20

I don’t understand this:

However, my sister decided that since nobody would give anyone crackers, they had to be intended just as packaging, so she proceeded to pull them all one after the other, and ended up with a pile of trinkets, albeit superior trinkets.

What do you mean age thought they had to be intended just as packaging? And who opens crackers by themselves?

Calliopespa · 04/12/2025 18:21

RavenhairedRachel · 04/12/2025 18:15

I once made my Mum a hamper I bought a good quality basket lined it and fancied it up and filled it with luxury food items. I took it down on Christmas day and she proceeded to empty it put all the items away in the fridge and cupboards and handed me the basket back. It was as if I had done her a bit of shopping.

People can be weird about hampers.

sprigatito · 04/12/2025 18:22

bumptybum · 04/12/2025 18:20

I don’t understand this:

However, my sister decided that since nobody would give anyone crackers, they had to be intended just as packaging, so she proceeded to pull them all one after the other, and ended up with a pile of trinkets, albeit superior trinkets.

What do you mean age thought they had to be intended just as packaging? And who opens crackers by themselves?

She means the sister thought she’d hidden a nice bit of jewellery or similar inside one of the crackers.