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Misunderstood Xmas gift

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Idontpostmuch · 03/12/2025 10:42

Just for fun, what have you given as a Christmas present that totally fell flat and was misunderstood? My bad idea was a box of luxury crackers. It was some yrs ago, late 80s. Very cheap crackers were the norm and the luxury sort were more of a rarity. So I bought a box for my sister. She and her husband always had friends round on Boxing Day or NY Day, when she pulled out all the stops. The crackers would have graced any table. White with golden ribbons, they looked classy, and the items inside were so much nicer than the usual trinkets. Twice as expensive for half as many, it seemed the sort of thing many would like but would never justify buying. However, my sister decided that since nobody would give anyone crackers, they had to be intended just as packaging, so she proceeded to pull them all one after the other, and ended up with a pile of trinkets, albeit superior trinkets.

That's my best flop, but a close second is giving a friend a metal water bottle because she carried water in an old plastic lemonade bottle. So she now uses the bottle at home when the rest of us use glasses and carries on with her ancient plastic bottles outside.

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Tryingatleast · 03/12/2025 19:05

I gave a friend’s daughter a doll and as she pulled it out the head came off🙈

Calliopespa · 03/12/2025 19:08

NewBrightonEel · 03/12/2025 18:59

Made my mum a hamper of Christmas treats that she had been hinting for a couple of years ago. She loved it! She had a family get together a few days later - boasting that she'd done "a lovely spread" for everyone - this consisted of a plate of ham sandwiches (Asda value ham) and all of my hamper put onto plates!

Oh but that's a lovely way for her to use it?

Calliopespa · 03/12/2025 19:08

Tryingatleast · 03/12/2025 19:05

I gave a friend’s daughter a doll and as she pulled it out the head came off🙈

😂🙀

MayaPinion · 03/12/2025 19:14

My mum bought my DB what she thought was a chocolate full English breakfast. Turned out it was a (formerly) frozen full English and has been sitting under the tree for 3 weeks. At least we discovered the cause of the smell.

Calliopespa · 03/12/2025 19:17

MayaPinion · 03/12/2025 19:14

My mum bought my DB what she thought was a chocolate full English breakfast. Turned out it was a (formerly) frozen full English and has been sitting under the tree for 3 weeks. At least we discovered the cause of the smell.

I'm just trying to work out how this could have happened!😳

Idontpostmuch · 03/12/2025 19:22

BeWellJ · 03/12/2025 14:50

I think the fact it wasn't Christmas day makes it a bit better but it's still quite confusing. She buys crackers for her guests so your present to her was something for her to give to someone else...I can see why she didn't immediately twig.

But she wouldn't have bought crackers for her guests. On Xmas day no guests. At NY, not traditionally cracker day in any case, she wouldn't have had anything so tacky on her table. The point is that they were luxury crackers, and looked good. As regards giving them to guests, many possessions or gifts are for sharing. Expensive glasses or plates only tend to be used when entertaining.

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SarahAndQuack · 03/12/2025 19:25

Idontpostmuch · 03/12/2025 19:22

But she wouldn't have bought crackers for her guests. On Xmas day no guests. At NY, not traditionally cracker day in any case, she wouldn't have had anything so tacky on her table. The point is that they were luxury crackers, and looked good. As regards giving them to guests, many possessions or gifts are for sharing. Expensive glasses or plates only tend to be used when entertaining.

Honestly, OP, it is a really weird gift. Explaining the logic doesn't make it less so!

Jaq27 · 03/12/2025 19:28

Idontpostmuch · 03/12/2025 10:42

Just for fun, what have you given as a Christmas present that totally fell flat and was misunderstood? My bad idea was a box of luxury crackers. It was some yrs ago, late 80s. Very cheap crackers were the norm and the luxury sort were more of a rarity. So I bought a box for my sister. She and her husband always had friends round on Boxing Day or NY Day, when she pulled out all the stops. The crackers would have graced any table. White with golden ribbons, they looked classy, and the items inside were so much nicer than the usual trinkets. Twice as expensive for half as many, it seemed the sort of thing many would like but would never justify buying. However, my sister decided that since nobody would give anyone crackers, they had to be intended just as packaging, so she proceeded to pull them all one after the other, and ended up with a pile of trinkets, albeit superior trinkets.

That's my best flop, but a close second is giving a friend a metal water bottle because she carried water in an old plastic lemonade bottle. So she now uses the bottle at home when the rest of us use glasses and carries on with her ancient plastic bottles outside.

I still go red in the face at this … age 12 I had no idea what to get my mum and dad for Christmas. The school fair was selling engraved glasses as gifts so I got a tankard and had ‘DAD’ engraved on it … the wine glasses were much cheaper, so being fair in gift giving, I bought another tankard … and had ‘MUM’ engraved on it.
The teacher openly laughed - but I still didn’t get it was wrong until mum opened her huge manly pint glass 🍺 on Christmas Day.
She never drank out of it. It was used to keep loose change in the sideboard. I shuddered every time I saw MUM on it.

TheNinkyNonkyIsATardis · 03/12/2025 19:33

Grammarnut · 03/12/2025 14:25

Your sister is weird. Why would you pull all the crackers?

To be fair, why would you give someone crackers as a gift when they're not even guaranteed to win one cracker prize!

LittleGreenDuck · 03/12/2025 19:37

When DS was about three I was given a cheese grater. A bit odd, but I thought maybe DH had taken him shopping and that's what he'd chosen. If so, it was very sweet. Nope. Turns out DS wasn't even there when it was bought, DH just thought we needed a new one.

Next birthday DH opened his present "from DS", I'd returned the favour and bought him a potato peeler.

I still get some random gifts, but that was the oddest.

Onlyhereforthebatshitneighbours · 03/12/2025 19:37

Next birthday DH opened his present "from DS", I'd returned the favour and bought him a potato peeler

Touché 😂

NewBrightonEel · 03/12/2025 19:38

Calliopespa · 03/12/2025 19:08

Oh but that's a lovely way for her to use it?

She made out it was she who supplied it 😂

MaturingCheeseball · 03/12/2025 19:39

PorridgeAndSyrup · 03/12/2025 18:17

Not that exciting, but when I was a student I lived in a really posh area, coming from a not very posh area myself, and there were loads of independent gift shops selling very lovely expensive things. So at Christmas I bought lovely luxury gifts for all my family (things like soaps, candles, gardening gloves, chocolates…), but my budget didn’t stretch as far as it would have at home so everyone’s gifts were much smaller than normal. On Christmas Day I realised no one realised that these gifts were Luxury and Expensive, they couldn’t tell the difference between them and anything you’d get in Boots or Wilko’s or the supermarket, so that aspect wasn’t appreciated at all, and it just looked like I’d been stingier than last year!

I feel your pain. Last year I gave dsis some nice skincare stuff - Elemis - and she looked disappointed at the small pile. She buys masses of stuff for everyone from The Works and I suppose she would like to receive the same. We are at an impasse!

MyOliveStork · 03/12/2025 19:39

Bought my toddler son a drum kit, he had smashed it to pieces within about ten minutes because he drummed so hard!!!

Idontpostmuch · 03/12/2025 19:40

GFBurger · 03/12/2025 16:42

Loving the thread!

Just a little whisper though for a friend who can’t eat Wheat… Gluten Free Panettone’s which you can buy in Sainsbury’s are amazing - but there are also some posher GF one’s out there which are pricier. And… you can order GF croissant’s etc online. Might be a bit spenny, but OMG I could cry when someone goes out there way to find me something tricky to get hold of like that.

@GFBurger I hadn't thought of GF foods. Thanks for the tip 😄

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ClimbEveryLadder · 03/12/2025 19:57

I think the luxury crackers sound nice given the context OP, I’d have liked them.

AliTheMinx · 03/12/2025 20:00

When I was about 13/14,, I decided to buy some presents for family with my pocket money and tried to think about what they might like and give thoughtful gifts. I had no idea what to get my Grandpa, but I remembered him once saying that he liked spaniels, as there had been one in his office whe he was a clerk during the war. I therefore bought him a sticker saying "I LOVE SPANIELS" from a pet shop (he had never had his own dog!) and he stuck it one of the doors in their house! My Granny said a few years later that an electrician came over to do some work and asked where the dog was..!!!! This story makes me cringe and smile in equal meaaure... a sticker?!?!? What on EARTH was I thinking!!?!

Anonymouseposter · 03/12/2025 20:07

EarringsandLipstick · 03/12/2025 15:20

I also got my parents Christmas cushions with embroidered messages in the handwriting of both their mums that I had got from old Christmas cards and they were non-plussed.

That's a wonderful gift, so thoughtful. I can't imagine why they didn't love it, I would adore it. Really good idea.

I wouldn't have liked that at all-you have to be very careful with sentimental presents.

Calliopespa · 03/12/2025 20:11

Jaq27 · 03/12/2025 19:28

I still go red in the face at this … age 12 I had no idea what to get my mum and dad for Christmas. The school fair was selling engraved glasses as gifts so I got a tankard and had ‘DAD’ engraved on it … the wine glasses were much cheaper, so being fair in gift giving, I bought another tankard … and had ‘MUM’ engraved on it.
The teacher openly laughed - but I still didn’t get it was wrong until mum opened her huge manly pint glass 🍺 on Christmas Day.
She never drank out of it. It was used to keep loose change in the sideboard. I shuddered every time I saw MUM on it.

I think that's really sweet.

MatildaEvergreen · 03/12/2025 20:15

I got my kids a keyring with a small thing attached which unscrewed and held a tightly rolled £20. It gave me peace of mind that if they missed the last bus, or the train was cancelled, they'd always have enough for a taxi home. I gave one to DH's niece and it seemed well received. So I gave one to my nephew for Christmas when he was about 14. Despite it clearly saying on the packaging that it was for holding hidden money, my SIL thought we hadn't bought him anything at all but had just palmed him off with the sort of keyring that comes out of a Christmas cracker. So she binned it, not realising there was a £20 note inside.

ABeerInTheSunshineMakesMeHappy · 03/12/2025 20:15

Aroundthebend · 03/12/2025 14:58

I bought my exH a colonic irrigation voucher for Christmas. When I went to the salon that did them, I asked for a voucher to wrap up and they said they didn’t do vouchers as they had never known them to be bought as a gift!
On Christmas Day I suggested we opened our presents before our parents arrived…he insisted we all opened our presents together… he wasn’t impressed when he did open his as he then had to explain what was involved to his parents!

Edited

Ummm … was this something he actually wanted ?

katseyes7 · 03/12/2025 20:17

*Vroomfondleswaistcoat *

Oh your post has brought up a memory for me!
When l was a teenager my auntie, my mam's sister, was really good teaching me about skincare and makeup.
But clothes.... I remember more than once she rocked up with a blouse or a jumper for me, saying "If you don't like it, l'll keep it."
Very generous. Except that she was forty years older than me and not in the least bit fashionable. My mam used to say l was ungrateful, but when you're that age you want to wear what your friends are wearing. Flares and platforms.
Not what your fifty something year old auntie is!

Newsenmum · 03/12/2025 20:19

morden123 · 03/12/2025 14:01

When I was about 9 (many moons ago) I went every week to a gift shop to pay off a Christmas present for my mum and dad, a little old man and lady in rocking chairs money boxes. Mum and Dad were only in their early 40's!!!, they had the good grace to not say anything bad

Haha omg

Idontpostmuch · 03/12/2025 20:22

SarahAndQuack · 03/12/2025 19:25

Honestly, OP, it is a really weird gift. Explaining the logic doesn't make it less so!

@SarahAndQuack Perhaps weird, perhaps not. Largely a matter of opinion. But that's largely irrelevant. The point is that most people would simply have said 'another useless one' and cast it aside. It's because she got it so wrong as to pull them all that amused me and has remained with me across decades.

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Whatsthatsheila · 03/12/2025 20:23

MissDoubleU · 03/12/2025 14:20

A box of Christmas crackers is absolute WILD op 😂😂😂 Omfg

Oh ffs!!

I couldn’t reconcile my idea of crackers with a box of trinkets in the OP until I read your comment.

i thought @Idontpostmuch was talking about crackers for cheese!! Like she’d got her a posh wrapped box of I dunno Harrods or fortnum and mason ones instead of the usual Jacob’s 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

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