Help end medical misogyny. Sign our petition.

Help end medical misogyny.
Sign our petition.

Sign the petition

Please or to access all these features

AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

Misunderstood Xmas gift

626 replies

Idontpostmuch · 03/12/2025 10:42

Just for fun, what have you given as a Christmas present that totally fell flat and was misunderstood? My bad idea was a box of luxury crackers. It was some yrs ago, late 80s. Very cheap crackers were the norm and the luxury sort were more of a rarity. So I bought a box for my sister. She and her husband always had friends round on Boxing Day or NY Day, when she pulled out all the stops. The crackers would have graced any table. White with golden ribbons, they looked classy, and the items inside were so much nicer than the usual trinkets. Twice as expensive for half as many, it seemed the sort of thing many would like but would never justify buying. However, my sister decided that since nobody would give anyone crackers, they had to be intended just as packaging, so she proceeded to pull them all one after the other, and ended up with a pile of trinkets, albeit superior trinkets.

That's my best flop, but a close second is giving a friend a metal water bottle because she carried water in an old plastic lemonade bottle. So she now uses the bottle at home when the rest of us use glasses and carries on with her ancient plastic bottles outside.

OP posts:
Hons123 · 03/12/2025 18:24

Newname71 · 03/12/2025 18:13

This has reminded me of when DH and I went to Miller and Carter for a meal. He was eating the cubed cheese that came in a little bowl complaining it was greasy and tasted horrible. Daft twat was eating butter!! 😂

Dh is a fisherman, I often rummage in his fishing bags for chocolates, biscuits (don't buy them for the family, but occasionally take from the stuff he packs for trips). One I found a few cans with foreign writing on them and a pretty picture of chickpeas. So I took one out and ate it and it was amazing. It turned out to be bait.

Calliopespa · 03/12/2025 18:24

LakieLady · 03/12/2025 18:21

😂😂😂

But did they make you taste nice?

The neighbourhood dogs no doubt thought so!

Galatine · 03/12/2025 18:26

Secret Santa Faux Pas
A colleague gave another (very refined) colleague a penis shaped soap.
Cue staff room cringefest.

Choccyp1g · 03/12/2025 18:26

Ilovepastafortea · 03/12/2025 17:03

It was1982.

My grandmother (born in 1898) had finally been persuaded to wear 'slacks' (rather than dresses or skirts) in the winter. My aunt had taken her to M&S & bought her a couple of pairs for Christmas. She always wore directoire knickers (long knickers that came down to her knees). So after Christmas she ushered me into her bedroom to show me the 'briefs' that my grandfather had bought her to wear under her 'slacks'. As she held up the most enormous knickers that I'd ever seen (no-one could describe them as 'briefs' - there was nothing 'brief' about them) she said that my GF had told her that this is the kind of underwear that women wore these days & she wanted me to confirm this was correct. She remarked that she would 'catch her death of cold' wearing these.

As a 21 year old I could hardly contain my embarrassment at my 83 year old GF buying my 85 year old GM 'sexy' undies.

Now, aged 63 I think 'good for him!'

Edited

But how did your GF know what underwear other women were wearing....?

iSage · 03/12/2025 18:28

GFBurger · 03/12/2025 16:56

I bought a pretty photo frame for friends who had recently got married - thought it would help to display their wedding photos. The generic place holder image happened to be a black & white shot of a kissing couple. Later I noticed that it had been hung still with the generic image in it! I guess I wasn’t clear and… if they liked the image what does it matter. Still not sure if I should have mentioned it though!

Ha ha! That reminds me of the Mr Bean where his girlfriend points excitedly into a jewellers window at an advertising card showing a man giving his girlfriend an engagement ring.

Mr Bean buys her the advertising card ... with a ring to attach it to the wall in
a ring box.

fatphalange · 03/12/2025 18:28

IncessantNameChanger · 03/12/2025 18:09

When ds was 4, we bought him the usual things for Christmas despite him asking for a bike. Up to that point, he was happy with the box. Things came in and just a bit oblivious and enjoying ripping things open.

On Christmas morning, he shouted at us. "Where is my bike? I didn't ask for any of the stuff, I asked for a bike!!"

And he's been like that pretty much since but less rude about it 😅 I always thought it would be nice to have a child who knew their own mind. Until it happened. God bless him. He also used to shout out to random teens at the park "hey you there, yes you. Get over here and push me!" Poor teems was so shocked and dazed they came over and pushed him aged 3. He was a Strange toddler. I wonder if Putin was like him at 4?

You didn’t buy him the bike he asked for? :(
I’m sure he’s nothing like Putin the poor sod.

MargaretThursday · 03/12/2025 18:28

Hons123 · 03/12/2025 18:18

Mine is a memory from ages and ages ago. A friend's family had a guest over Christmas from either Romania or Bulgaria, a visiting/exchange university academic. This guest presented a brand new mechanical watch in its box to the host, the watch was inscribed 'Made in the USSR'. The box was passed around and the host said 'Oh, my gosh, this is so very generous, far too generous, thank you so much'. The host's son, in his mid twenties, said, out loud 'of course it is easy for them to be generous, they live in a communist country, all the stuff is free to them'. This young man apparently received the best of school education in a major boarding school and then at a good university.

That reminds me of opening a present from my grandparents (a plastic case with toy "hair" items, like a battery powered hair drier, if I remember rightly) aged about 5yo.
I carefully read the words on the bottom and announced loudly "Made in Hong Kong"... and was told it wasn't polite to read that out because that implied it was cheap... I was then fascinated for ages about Hong Kong and things that came from there.

Ahfiddlesticks · 03/12/2025 18:30

SapphireSeptember · 03/12/2025 15:50

My brother got my DS a singing chicken toy last year, with glowing red eyes. DS was five months old and it scared the shit out of him. He was trying to get away from it even though he couldn't move yet. 😅 Poor baby.

Grandparents once for eldest DC, when he was about 18months old, an inflatable lama thing, bit odd but nothing awful and very him. He was absolutely terrified of it, full on screamed and cried any time he saw it. Was pretty hilarious to be honest. It went home with them.

Fluffyblackcat7 · 03/12/2025 18:31

AllJoyAndNoFun · 03/12/2025 15:05

When my son was about 18 months old he was obsessed with motorbikes so I bought him a ride on motorbike that you sat on and pushed along with your feet and I was so excited to see him open it ….. except he wasn’t quite tall enough for his feet to reach the ground so he couldn’t move it and he had an almighty meltdown for about an hour.

Also when he was 14 I got him some artisanal beef jerky for his stocking but I didn’t read the wrapper properly and it turned out to be for dogs. Fortunately he realised before he ate it.

The jerky for dogs made me laugh out loud!

Lastfroginthebox · 03/12/2025 18:32

Ilovepastafortea · 03/12/2025 17:03

It was1982.

My grandmother (born in 1898) had finally been persuaded to wear 'slacks' (rather than dresses or skirts) in the winter. My aunt had taken her to M&S & bought her a couple of pairs for Christmas. She always wore directoire knickers (long knickers that came down to her knees). So after Christmas she ushered me into her bedroom to show me the 'briefs' that my grandfather had bought her to wear under her 'slacks'. As she held up the most enormous knickers that I'd ever seen (no-one could describe them as 'briefs' - there was nothing 'brief' about them) she said that my GF had told her that this is the kind of underwear that women wore these days & she wanted me to confirm this was correct. She remarked that she would 'catch her death of cold' wearing these.

As a 21 year old I could hardly contain my embarrassment at my 83 year old GF buying my 85 year old GM 'sexy' undies.

Now, aged 63 I think 'good for him!'

Edited

Ha! This made me laugh twice. I rushed through the first reading and mistakenly thought GF stood for 'girlfriend' - I was a bit taken back that a 21 yr old had an 83 yr old girlfriend!

Sammyspurs · 03/12/2025 18:33

My daughter when 16 bought me a load of the pink stuff cleaning products that the put in a hamper and wrapped for me. It made me cry- single parent doesn’t really get present bought for me at Christmas etc… she bought their step mum a beautiful box that she put pictures of them in together…

Renamed · 03/12/2025 18:34

KittyFinlay · 03/12/2025 15:22

Oh and my Mum talks a lot about how important cards are and how terrible we are if we ever forget to send one or it arrives late. One year, my husband spent 2 months cross stitching a beautiful Christmas card, assuming she'd keep it after Christmas. She binned it with all the other cards on Boxing Day.

My god.

really hope she doesn’t manage anybody.

JaquelineHide · 03/12/2025 18:36

When I was little* I forgot my dad had a beard and bought him a razor. I also bought him a large t-bone steak shaped boiled sweet (well I thought it was cool).

*I went shopping with my older cousins.

Onlyhereforthebatshitneighbours · 03/12/2025 18:39

This reply has been deleted

Message deleted by MNHQ. Here's a link to our Talk Guidelines.

Oh my god 😂

Lastfroginthebox · 03/12/2025 18:46

Bloozie · 03/12/2025 15:43

Every gift I give my mum and/or dad is met with, "What did you get me that for?" They are the HARDEST people to buy for.

Flops have included:

  • A Spotify subscription they never used 'because we have a CD player' (bought because Mum mentioned that CDs are getting really expensive)
  • A SAD lamp for my Dad because he confided he was feeling low, and also struggling to read his book in his favourite chair because the light wasn't great. I thought two birds with one stone. He just looked confused when he opened it. It's never been used.
  • A bird box with a camera in, because Mum asked for a bird box. "Why do I want to watch them shit?" Never used.
  • Everything I bought Mum last year - she cried because she didn't know where she was going to put it (their house is very small, that's another thing, I have to buy very small objects or subscriptions. The things I bought WERE small, but not small enough).

They both say I shouldn't buy them presents. I've told them I will stop - genuinely - when they learn to receive them graciously.

Edited

Why force them to have stuff they don't like and don't want, and also make them pretend to appreciate it, BEFORE you stop wasting your time and money? This just sounds like madness.

Didshejustsaythatoutloud · 03/12/2025 18:47

NoKnit · 03/12/2025 14:25

Not quite giving but receiving. A gift I received was what I thought was homemade bath salts so I used them in the bath. I later discovered they were actually a spice mix for steaks/pork chops etc. I felt like a bit of a wally when I found out.

Bet you smelled delicious though 😂

myblueskirt · 03/12/2025 18:47

My MIL gave me a floaty beach dress at least three sizes too big if not more, and it had a big close up of the artist Frida Kahlo who is of course an amazing artist however 100% not something I would wear. I’m the farthest thing from an artist or even someone with a hobby. The dress is so out of the norm of what I would wear anytime MIL would see me. Yet she bought her own daughter a floaty beach dress too which was actually really nice and more fitted. I have no idea why I got this huge dress. I ended up donating it to charity.

Calliopespa · 03/12/2025 18:49

Choccyp1g · 03/12/2025 18:26

But how did your GF know what underwear other women were wearing....?

I also thought I'd have been asking if I were your GM!

But it's a lovely story. She probably felt extremely risque in those big knickers!

hollyjolly12 · 03/12/2025 18:49

As teenagers my two brothers and I decided to gift our mum a bottle of bleach (albeit amongst other more fancy gifts). We thought it was very thoughtful as she loved cleaning (or so we assumed!). God knows what we were thinking! We laugh about it now but my mum was not impressed at the time! She asks us who's idea it was originally but I think we all thought it was appropriate for some reason!

whistlesandbells · 03/12/2025 18:50

Moltenpink · 03/12/2025 13:50

I cringe at this, but I tried to give my very elderly grandad copies of my wedding photos as a gift (of his side of the family), thinking he might like to show people in his care home. He clearly disagreed and forced me to take them back home with me 😂

Haha, this is very main character energy and I’m glad you see it. It was well meant. Full support for sending it back though. You’ve made my day with this.

HelenaWaiting · 03/12/2025 18:51

I once gave my Grandmother a beautiful, hand-made throw. When I called round it was being used as a tablecloth.

ICriedAllTheWayToTheChipShop · 03/12/2025 18:57

It wasn't misunderstood as such, but I got my dad a copy of The Times from the day he was born because I thought he'd be interested in the history of it. He took one look at it and burst into tears because it made him think of his (by then dead) parents and how apparently he nearly hadn't been born because his mum had such a difficult labour. I've never seen my dad cry before or since and I was utterly horrified that I'd upset him so much!

NewBrightonEel · 03/12/2025 18:59

Made my mum a hamper of Christmas treats that she had been hinting for a couple of years ago. She loved it! She had a family get together a few days later - boasting that she'd done "a lovely spread" for everyone - this consisted of a plate of ham sandwiches (Asda value ham) and all of my hamper put onto plates!

DancingInTheMoonlights · 03/12/2025 18:59

Idontpostmuch · 03/12/2025 14:21

Wow, my sister has more than one user name 😁

😂😂😂

CraftyPlayer · 03/12/2025 19:03

VeryQuaintIrene · 03/12/2025 17:05

this one surely wins the thread!

Except it’s a stupid joke that’s not even funny and absolutely didn’t happen. Even Motherland has used the Minecraft/mein kampf line.

Swipe left for the next trending thread