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To Think Non-Medically Required Circumcision Is Abuse?

323 replies

BigFatBully · 02/12/2025 13:14

Circumcision of a child if not required for a medical reason is abuse. I don't believe a child can consent to mutilation and it should be for them to decide when they reach adulthood if they want such a procedure.

I don't understand how anyone could take a happy baby who is otherwise healthy and do this to them.

It's male genital mutilation (MGM).

OP posts:
NemesisInferior · 03/12/2025 10:38

nomas · 03/12/2025 10:18

FGM is a crime in the UK and an abomination against women.
MC is not a crime in the UK.

I can’t make it any simpler for you.

Something being a crime or not does not define the morality of the thing.

Plenty of things which are legal are immoral. Plenty of things which are illegal are moral. There are, of course, all sorts of grey areas in between those two extremes.

Unnecessarily lopping off a part of person's body without their consent might be legal in this case, but it's sure as shit not morally ok.

nomas · 03/12/2025 10:39

NemesisInferior · 03/12/2025 10:38

Something being a crime or not does not define the morality of the thing.

Plenty of things which are legal are immoral. Plenty of things which are illegal are moral. There are, of course, all sorts of grey areas in between those two extremes.

Unnecessarily lopping off a part of person's body without their consent might be legal in this case, but it's sure as shit not morally ok.

Edited

When did it become ok to pierce ears?

nomas · 03/12/2025 10:41

Applesinapie · 03/12/2025 10:32

Not really. Laws change.

it is not illegal to hit your child to discipline them in England. It is in Scotland and Wales. By your definition if you hit your kid in Wrexham, you’re an abuser, but if you hit them 20 minutes away Chester you’re fine, it’s not abuse.

causing unnecessary pain to a child is abuse wherever you are and whatever the law.

Let’s see you out campaigning against pierced ears too then.

NemesisInferior · 03/12/2025 10:42

nomas · 03/12/2025 10:39

When did it become ok to pierce ears?

I don't agree with parents allowing ears to be pierced without the child being able to consent either.

HTH.

Chiseltip · 03/12/2025 10:42

nomas · 03/12/2025 10:04

Hopefully you boycott the USA then where half the male population is circumcised. Guessing not, eh?

And that makes it OK?

FGM is accepted practice in some countries. So, by your logic, FGM is fine.

🙄

nomas · 03/12/2025 10:43

NemesisInferior · 03/12/2025 10:42

I don't agree with parents allowing ears to be pierced without the child being able to consent either.

HTH.

But it’s not abuse?

NemesisInferior · 03/12/2025 10:44

nomas · 03/12/2025 10:43

But it’s not abuse?

Yes, it's abuse. At no point did I suggest I thought otherwise.

Unnecessarily causing harm to anyone without consent is a pretty good definition of abuse, don't you think?

Not sure it's possible to make it any more simple than that.

nomas · 03/12/2025 10:45

Chiseltip · 03/12/2025 10:42

And that makes it OK?

FGM is accepted practice in some countries. So, by your logic, FGM is fine.

🙄

When’s the last time you donated to a FGM charity?

jannier · 03/12/2025 10:45

nomas · 03/12/2025 10:05

It’s for the law to determine what is abuse, not you.

No peer pressure influences the law people standing up and saying this is wrong changes law hence protests and petitions ....it's what changed the law to abolish slavery, to get women the vote, to make spousal abuse illegal etc. evil prevails when good people turn a blind eye. There is no medical advantage to circumsision in most males especially now we have access to water for hygiene and condoms ....it was pushed in the states historically to stop masterbation ...a myth.

nomas · 03/12/2025 10:47

NemesisInferior · 03/12/2025 10:44

Yes, it's abuse. At no point did I suggest I thought otherwise.

Unnecessarily causing harm to anyone without consent is a pretty good definition of abuse, don't you think?

Not sure it's possible to make it any more simple than that.

Have the ECHR declared MC as abuse?

nomas · 03/12/2025 10:49

jannier · 03/12/2025 10:45

No peer pressure influences the law people standing up and saying this is wrong changes law hence protests and petitions ....it's what changed the law to abolish slavery, to get women the vote, to make spousal abuse illegal etc. evil prevails when good people turn a blind eye. There is no medical advantage to circumsision in most males especially now we have access to water for hygiene and condoms ....it was pushed in the states historically to stop masterbation ...a myth.

Are you also fighting to abolish ear piercings?

NemesisInferior · 03/12/2025 10:49

nomas · 03/12/2025 10:47

Have the ECHR declared MC as abuse?

I don't care.

I'll refer you to my previous post re the difference between legality and morality.

nomas · 03/12/2025 10:49

NemesisInferior · 03/12/2025 10:49

I don't care.

I'll refer you to my previous post re the difference between legality and morality.

So only your view counts.

ECHR has mandated FGM is a crime, not MC.

jannier · 03/12/2025 10:50

nomas · 03/12/2025 10:14

Which places? We’re talking about the UK. FGM is abuse anywhere.

There is a list of around 22 countries with no specific law on FGM...the UAE, Israel, Philippines, Pakistan, Kuwait amongst them.

NemesisInferior · 03/12/2025 10:51

nomas · 03/12/2025 10:49

So only your view counts.

ECHR has mandated FGM is a crime, not MC.

Edited

On a discussion forum where I am stating my opinion, yes it does.

In my opinion hurting a child for no good reason whatsoever is abusive, and I think anyone who does so or condones it is an arsehole.

Is that clear enough for you?

jannier · 03/12/2025 10:53

nomas · 03/12/2025 10:43

But it’s not abuse?

I think it is as it's not necessarily and done without consent

Applesinapie · 03/12/2025 10:54

nomas · 03/12/2025 10:41

Let’s see you out campaigning against pierced ears too then.

piercing the ears of babies is also abuse. I feel strongly about that too.

causing any unnecessary pain to children and maiming their bodies is abuse. Why are you arguing that?

jannier · 03/12/2025 10:55

nomas · 03/12/2025 10:45

When’s the last time you donated to a FGM charity?

Do you have to donate to every charity you agree with? Have you supported every charity?

nomas · 03/12/2025 10:55

NemesisInferior · 03/12/2025 10:51

On a discussion forum where I am stating my opinion, yes it does.

In my opinion hurting a child for no good reason whatsoever is abusive, and I think anyone who does so or condones it is an arsehole.

Is that clear enough for you?

Edited

Why are you resorting to swearing?

Not interested, talk to someone else.

nomas · 03/12/2025 10:56

jannier · 03/12/2025 10:55

Do you have to donate to every charity you agree with? Have you supported every charity?

I think people like to pontificate about FGM but do little to actually help.

Less talking, more money would be useful.

JamieCannister · 03/12/2025 10:57

NemesisInferior · 03/12/2025 10:42

I don't agree with parents allowing ears to be pierced without the child being able to consent either.

HTH.

Let me guess, you are also a perfectly normal human being who sees all unnecessary body modifications to be unsuitable for kids, whilst also regarding pierced ears as a relatively unimportant cultural practice to try to stamp out, FGM as an incredibly serious one, and MGM somewhere between the two, undoubtedly much more serious than a pierced ear but pretty trivial when compared to FGM?

I don't think this issue is overly complicated.

Applesinapie · 03/12/2025 11:00

@nomas not interested, talk to someone else?

Wow, there’s the very immature response of someone who knows they don’t have a satisfactory answer.

of course anyone who condones child abuse is an arsehole - that poster is spot on.

jannier · 03/12/2025 11:00

nomas · 03/12/2025 10:49

Are you also fighting to abolish ear piercings?

I don't think it should be allowed for under 16s unfortunately it's a practice that our culture accepts so action is harder....but if I go and pinch a child it is painful, short lived quickly forgotten pain with no lasting mark and everyone would say it's wrong if I stab a child with a piercing it's more painful risks infection but nobody says it's wrong....please explain the moral logic of it being okay because it's pretty or allows us to display our wealth.

JamieCannister · 03/12/2025 11:01

nomas · 03/12/2025 10:56

I think people like to pontificate about FGM but do little to actually help.

Less talking, more money would be useful.

Edited

Well, that recent report that suggests almost all the money going on anti-FGM work was wasted, so in actual fact "more money would be useful" is only true if the purpose of charities is to pay their staff as much as possible, as opposed to actually addressing the issue they purport to support.

Stressedoutmummyof3 · 03/12/2025 11:01

Justlostmybagel · 02/12/2025 13:17

It's a tricky one. I agree, but my husband is circumcised and says he's glad he is.

We only have a dd so far, but I don't think we would get our son circumcised.

My husband is too and is happy with it. We have never discussed having it done to our DS though.
It's not the same as FGM.