To think stepparents should not be financially responsible for other people's children?

[Mrsnothingthanks]

That's just it really. I'm married. My husband is only financially responsible for our daughter, not my other children. Why should he be? Not his kids!
Surprises me on MN that others think stepparents should assume financial responsibility for kids that aren't theirs!

Why shouldn't he move in? He's an adult and if that is what he wants it's nothing to do with you.

Dh and I have always treated all the kids the same. If he went and got his dc new trainers for example he would pick up some for my dc and visa versa. His and my family have also always done all the same.
School trips were all paid out of joint account and anything they needed. No questions asked.

@TheignT If he's happy to financially support his partner and non-bio and/or bio children whilst she stays at home (possibly permanently) then up to him of course.
One just has to hope the relationship lasts or issues may well arise.

That's family isn't it. Your kids and his are very lucky.

#Mrsnothingthanks yes I know what a kid is.

Is that what happened in your previous relationship?

@TheignT Did what happen?

Maybe read the post I quoted.

@TheignT Yes - it didn't quite make sense? Assuming you mean did I have a previous partner who was a "provider" stepfather and then stopped providing once the relationship broke down?
If so the answer is no - I would never willingly put either myself nor my children in such a precarious financial position.