DH kicking off as I want to uninvite DMIL/DSIL from Christmas Day

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NC’d for this. Please can people let me know if they think IABU.

Background - DH and I recently moved into our own home after renting for years and having limited space.

Yesterday we hosted DMIL and DSIL for a roast. Both have stomach problems - fine. However, they spent the hour following the roast sat in our living room openly breaking wind and making no attempt to hide this fact. In front of our two young DC (both found it hilarious). No apology from either of them, the only acknowledgment being ‘well you know we have stomach issues and eating that makes it flare up’.

DH didn’t say anything to them. When I told him after they left that I found it disgusting, he said I was prudish and that they can’t help it. I asked why they couldn’t leave the room. He said it’s good they feel at home and he grew up with them being like that so doesn’t see the issue.

I’ve told him today I don’t want them to come on Christmas Day as planned if that’s how they will behave, and set such an awful example to our DC. He said how dare I threaten that and if I ever thought that was appropriate then he’d simply go out for lunch with them to a pub instead.

Me too, but maybe becaause I come from a family that is quite relaxed about these matters.
We visit my DB at christmas and nobody's farts could be anywhere near as bad as his labrador's anyway 😁

I would hate people doing that in my house in front of everyone. It is really bad manners. You just go to the bathroom and have some dignity and thought for others for goodness sake!

Luckily for me my partner wouldn't see something so minor as rude and disrespectful. For either of us to even consider stopping the family of the other coming round there would need to be a very serious incident, such as violence or aggressive shouting, not passing wind. I can't believe there are people this uptight 😂.

I’d tell them now that Xmas dinner is off at your house and your dh is offering to take them to a pub instead so he can’t get out of it 😂 Enjoy a lovey meal with your children and whoever else you fancy inviting!

I would record them doing it and post it to the Family SM group 'its like the Frogs chorus here !' because if it's funny, its worth sharing ?

Yanbu
Digestive issues aren't an excuse for disrespectful behaviour. What they do in their own homes is fine, yours it's another

Their behaviour is uncouth - fine in the privacy of your own home - not fine in someone else’s home.

That said, I really think you need to put whoopee cushions in your kids stockings. 😂

It literally says in the OP that the in-laws said “well you know we have stomach issues and eating that makes it flare up’.

So i would say there’s a pretty good indication that’s what happened!

Having decent manners and self-respect is far from "uptight."

OP, in your shoes I would be working the phones with all urgency, trying to get a restaurant or pub reservation for Christmas lunch.

(I know the husband should do it, but the clock is ticking for getting a slot on Dec 25). Tell your DH "this way they can have an even larger audience for their hilarious antics; I'm sure it will be quite merry."

Then rejoice in the knowledge that they won't be darkening your doorstep this year.

Well he has informed me tonight that he knows of at least two places with availability, as his ‘colleague told him and they also think I’m being ridiculous’. One of them is a Brewers Fayre, which I’ve never found appetising!

Strange priorities here. Farting - a normal and harmless bodily function - results in pearl clutching and horror that it’s done ‘in front of the children’… and yet you think it’s funny that you’re bringing them up in a household where a grown ass adult man doesn’t do anything in the kitchen. I’d say that was the bigger and more “revolting” issue.

Find a way to blame the woman. Peak MN

Big fatty farting in laws ✅

sil likes her food wink wink nudge nudge ✅

teeny tiny OP working out how many meals she can make from the roast chicken ✅

Your username is most inappropriate because that is a very inspired idea! My vote is for this.

Sitting around farting in company is disgusting, and it’s really rude of them not to apologise.

I’d be annoyed too. If dh won’t say anything I would and just say you dont expect a reoccurrence on Xmas day. And if they feel they have to behave that way they don’t have to come. And if your dh wants to take them out instead leave them to it.

I feel for anyone eating their Christmas dinner in Brewers Fayre having to hear and smell them farting away next to them.

poster making the hilarious comments that pop on every in-law thread, thinking they're original ✅

I haven’t said anything about sizes. I am certainly not tiny or trying to work out anything to do with chicken either…

He'll be lucky if he can get a table for Christmas day now.its a bit late in the day

Well he has informed me tonight that he knows of at least two places with availability, as his ‘colleague told him and they also think I’m being ridiculous’.

Perfect, tell him to crack on, I am sure they will have a menu suited to their particular dietary requirements, which it sounds as though they will deliberately choose to ignore, however all that will happen is they will eat there and then come and fart at yours after, having held it in, in public.
I would suggest booking whichever involves the longest car journey so DH can really get his fill of funny festive farts in an enclosed space

They sound utterly revolting.

The odd fart, no problem.

A farting competition with people who think it is acceptable in someone else's house? Vile

Imagine...being cast out because of a bodily function..

I actually rarely eat kale I was just looking for a username that hadn’t already been used…but yeah. Greens make you gassy but that’s good. It’s the microbes doing their jobs.

All those brussels and stuffing. What could possibly go wrong…