To think that a couple’s wedding night should be sacred and most importantly, private?

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I’ve always felt that the wedding night - after the vows, after the party, after all the speeches and photos, should be a moment of privacy for the couple. Not necessarily for sex (though for some, yes) but for reflection, intimacy, quiet connection. The start of something new. But I’ve noticed more and more weddings where the couple is so busy entertaining everyone until 2am or 3am or crashing out drunk with friends or doing “wedding night after parties” and it makes me wonder… what are you actually prioritising?

AIBU to think the first night of your marriage should be yours - sacred, calm, private, not diluted by noise, content or a dozen mates in your suite?

(Not pearl-clutching. Just think intimacy gets lost in all the spectacle.)

It’s whatever the couple want, surely. We had a very small intimate wedding. We bowed out at 4pm, went on out merry way & left everyone to party hard at the family home.

Exactly. Imagine having miserable FOMO sex within earshot of your own fabulous party!

I mean, do people usually book a bedroom next to the party room? I'd be more worried they'd pause the music and try to listen in 🤣

anyway, first time sex when he's abstained from all pleasures of the flesh since the moment you met in order to respect the true sacredness of the moment. you could have that, pop your frock back on and rejoin the party 🤣