Husband wants to leave the uk post budget….

[Maryaliceyoungx]

husband wants to leave and don’t get me wrong - I do see why. We are being hammered in the budget, we drive shitty cars, the rain is shit… life in the UK can be pretty shitty right now. he works for a US based company and I am a US citizen as I was born there and spent my life until my early teens there (parents are British and were working out there) so I see why he wants to go -it would be good for his career and would be potential to make money without the huge tax burden of the UK (company based in low state tax state)

but I don’t want to go… I love my life here. I love our village and my kids lovely village school. My family is here and I worry my parents don’t have so much time left.

however i do have to recognise the money aspect- my husbands job could be impacted by AI so i think he is right in thinking we should max out our earning potential while we can and we just won’t be able to do that here as it will just be taxed away.

aibu for sacrificing potentially huge earnings just because I love village life? Would it even be cheaper? I would insist upon private school in the US(went to state school in the us and have a lot of trauma from that!) and we wouldnt sell our house here so would need to rent. Most recent trip to thr us - over a year ago and cost of living was sky high.

I’ll be honest - couldn’t care about the politics. Politics are shit whereever you go!!

The US is a very diverse country. There are certain parts of it I wouldn't go near, and certain other parts that are far better than anywhere in the UK. I think I would at least hear him out. I don't think that village life in the UK is anything to write home about, so I admit I dont really get your perspective. I was educated in a variety of countries growing up, the UK was not the best by any stretch and that was thirty years ago!

I already reported this poster.

Its funny how people who are on the "be good to people" side of politics are just as bad as the racists and sexists in the end.

Politics is a circle not a line.

Yep. This is the biggest thing holds me back. I grew up near sandy hook so it’s forever in my mind

Online people are frothing. Not in real life so much.
Also half of us don't have access to guns.

I would consider a move to better weather and work life balance: Southern Europe maybe or Australia? But not USA, not right now. Jobs are going to be battered by AI wherever you are.

Thank you - honestly boggles my mind!

How much worse off would the latest budget actually make you? I've seen a lot of calculations indicating that the average tax payer will be only a few pounds a month worse off, which seems a very reasonable price to pay for continuing to live where you are happy.

You are certainly rewarded a lot more for hard work in the US than you are in the UK. Also keep in mind things like inheritance tax etc, you certainly won't have to pass half of your already taxed assets over to the govt before passing them down to your children. I'm so glad my inheritance is all in the US and that HMRC will never get their grubby hands on it!

If the budget was just a catalyst and the real issue lies elsewhere then you shouldn’t have insinuated in your inflammatory post title that it was the reason for considering emigrating.

I still believe you’re barely affected as otherwise you’d have no reason not to say which changes will make you so much worse off - we don’t need the finer details of your personal finances.

It's really hard to draw comparisons between the two countries on specific offences, because they track statistics on different topics and in different ways.

Deaths are easily compared, though. Since 2000:

US: around 500 children murdered in school.

UK: 1 child murdered in school.

If you’re earning decent money in the UK, north of 250k, then a few years in a tax free/low tax territory isn’t the worst idea however I’m not sure I’d disrupt family life for it.

Most of my colleagues who have done that did it when they were single and saved up 500k or so for a house deposit. I can’t recall any who did it when they had kids.

Amazing isn't it, a country as huge as the USA and apparently you can only get shit bread and shit cheese!

She refuses to answer this question, and yet according to the scaremongering post title, it’s bad enough that they need to leave the country!!

Fair enough, UK is less, however 500 is still a small number compared to the size of the population. If you live in a nice, safe area, you have little to worry about, like anywhere else.

I will never forgive my parents for leaving Ireland. In the 1960s. I could have been Irish 😭.

I have never and still don’t want to move!

this has been driven by my husband and his reaction to the budget. I don’t need to give full details. Basically he would have a bigger wage in America. Much bigger. I’m trying to get my head round if that’s worth uprooting our lives

“Basically he would have a bigger wage in America”

So not related to the recent budget then. As I pointed out.

I currently work part time but if we moved I would not work

If you can afford to move to America without selling your house, for you to give up work, plus start to pay for private school fees, regular flights back here to help your elderly parents and aren't worried about the huge cost of living out there, I presume your husband is going to earn a huge amount?

You are worried that his job will be taken by AI here. Why do you think this isn't a risk in America?

My father died this year. I'm incredibly grateful we chose to stay living fairly close to him. I can't imagine how painful it would have been not to have all that extra time with him.

In your position I'd want to stay.

We never paid the property tax when we rented. That is the responsibility of the owner. We own now and the property tax is around 6500$ per year for one of the worst public school districts in the country which we don't use because our child attends a private school

I won't go to US.

Not only would you have to pay for education but healthcare too!

What is it in budget that's causing g him to feel like this? Tax thresholds,? Salary sacrifice taxes?

I would do it. It will give your kids a perspective on the rest of the world that they would otherwise lack. It doesn't have to be forever.

You can get very good health insurance. Often through an employer. The NHS is no longer fit for purpose.

he’ll have a bigger wage but probably also a different work life balance. US is notorious for long hours, high expectations and poor vacation time.
how will the extra money impact your lifestyle?

The USA is so expensive, honestly you think our food is expensive, try £13 a kilo for cheese and £2 for milk!

I don't know what about the budget p'd your, DH off cos unless he runs his own business (doesn't sound like he does) there's virtually no impact on most people cos nothing much changed for most of us...

But anyways I would have done bigger overseas work given my time again.

If you're keeping your house (def a good idea) then you can come back to your village at done stage assuming your tenants will move out...