Husband wants to leave the uk post budget….

[Maryaliceyoungx]

husband wants to leave and don’t get me wrong - I do see why. We are being hammered in the budget, we drive shitty cars, the rain is shit… life in the UK can be pretty shitty right now. he works for a US based company and I am a US citizen as I was born there and spent my life until my early teens there (parents are British and were working out there) so I see why he wants to go -it would be good for his career and would be potential to make money without the huge tax burden of the UK (company based in low state tax state)

but I don’t want to go… I love my life here. I love our village and my kids lovely village school. My family is here and I worry my parents don’t have so much time left.

however i do have to recognise the money aspect- my husbands job could be impacted by AI so i think he is right in thinking we should max out our earning potential while we can and we just won’t be able to do that here as it will just be taxed away.

aibu for sacrificing potentially huge earnings just because I love village life? Would it even be cheaper? I would insist upon private school in the US(went to state school in the us and have a lot of trauma from that!) and we wouldnt sell our house here so would need to rent. Most recent trip to thr us - over a year ago and cost of living was sky high.

I’ll be honest - couldn’t care about the politics. Politics are shit whereever you go!!

Ask your parents, but I think the resident pays it or it’s included in the rent and the owner pays it. As we didn’t move, we never had to manage it. We were asked shortly after the Sandy Hook incident and it was all a bit scary. Armed security guards with massive guns at the entrance of every primary school.

Not the point but I’ve never been so glad to live in Ireland after reading this thread!

I live in NZ, and I was doing alot of the keeping in touch. Then COVID came and it just destroyed it for me- so there wasn't anything worth coming to the UK for. I am on my own with no kids so a very different situation but it has been hard.

I think you would actually have to sit down and do an actual budget- and include trips back home for that i.e. see parents every 3 months.

Women's rights are certainly an issue, but less of one if you live in a blue state. Also, I wonder what the statistics are around the likelihood of being shot at school in the US vs being stabbed at school in the UK?

Ok so you’re answering all questions, except my question (asked twice) about how the budget will actually affect you. I’ll take it from the non-response that the answer is hardly at all and this is another “all the wealthy people will leave” scaremongering post.

”be kind”. 🙄

Bit intense- the great thing about democracies is that everyone can have a say.

What you have described op is what is real and what is important: family and community. What your husband is dreaming about is pie in the sky and even if you could have a comfortable life out there, is it really what you want? Because you can’t take it with you.

Budget mania is very exhausting. The money we save in low taxes that doesn’t benefit our communities… it’s like the Pharos how much money and how many slaves are in the tomb is kinda pointless.

I say keep your nice life and it’s great that you understand the value of it.

Have you looked into what the health insurance covers and what the co-pays are?

Same friend had insurance but had to pay around $3,000 for giving birth (less than 24 hours) and also got a hefty bill when her son had an asthma attack and spent a night in hospital.

Socialist? I hope that's not code for "more taxes"

I find it strange you would decide to up and leave just because of the latest budget. Chasing the money, fair enough, if you could envisage a different chapter of your life and a new experience and want to try living elsewhere. Throwing a paddy and deciding to upend everyone’s lives over fiscal drag seems a bit overkill.
ive worked expat many years, I’m now happily settled in village life and want consistency for my young family. I’m prime labour target for taxing to the max, but I appreciate what I have around me and spending what time I’ll have left with my parents. Obviously it depends on your financial situation, but for me going expat again for a few years to avoid tax and save £200k wouldn’t be life changing. Yes it would be nice to have in the bank, but it wouldn’t impact big life decisions like retirement, private schooling, change of lifestyle

I’d rather not go in to that detail as this is less about that… and more about the opportunity of America. The fact that we will be worse off is opening up the conversation about moving which would result in a much higher wage

DH and I are sitting on the same fence tbh. He's in tech and the salaries are way higher there, and as of 2029 he'll be losing 67% of his pension contributions to tax so saving for a future here, especially when you factor in that the state pension will probably end up being means tested, is increasingly challenging. My brother already lives in the states and I spent half my childhood there and have lived there on and off as an adult. I don't have citizenship but DH would get his hand bitten off by half of Silicon Valley so no worries on the visa front. On the whole, if you're successful I do think that day to day it's a better place to live, more opportunity, more positivity, where we'd be living it would be easy to get to the coast and mountains which is something we can only dream of now. Most of my happy childhood memories are from when we lived in the states and I kinda think we should just go for it.

We have no family support here but my kids are very happy in a lovely village school and are very settled. And my 7 year old has no idea what an active shooter drill is, even though I know the chances of something like that happening are vanishingly small it's a huge factor in the decision making process.

So clearly, I don't really have an answer for you! But you're not alone.

Wow. Just wow.

The title of your post says it’s due to the budget!! And the opening line of your op was about getting “hammered in the budget”. So again I ask you to expand on how you’re being penalised by budget changes.

If you can’t back that up then you shouldn’t have stated you’re thinking of leaving because of it…

You'd be absolutely crazy to give up village life for a life in the US.

Being close to family is priceless and if your kids are happy and settled and life is good don't rock the boat.

No money in the world would convince me to give that up. None.

I’m reporting you as I came here for advice on a difficult decision and you are being spiteful and hateful for absolutely no reason. Please leave this thread - you are offering nothing

Do you understand what "literally" means? The UK really is not like a pressure cooker, either literally or figuratively. A few idiots putting up St George's flags or shouting outside mosques doesn't make it so.

No it’s fine I’ll leave. Said my piece anyway 🤞

the budget was a catalyst… I think it will be for a lot of people.

But I assume you do not believe the risk of your children being confronted by a maniac with a gun in school is in any way comparable to the risk if they were in the US?

I thought the weather had been pretty good this year. you can get good deals on car leases.

I actually can’t get a car lease on my part time wage

Only an absolute lunatic would want to move to the States right now.

It's a country where it's completely normal to go bankrupt to pay for cancer treatment for a start and their employment laws are almost non existent.