What would you say? I was stumped!

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New guy started at work…conversation went like this.
set the scene, he had just mentioned to a co worker that his wife hates eggs so he can’t make them at home so he was happy he could get them in the canteen.
me- ah where does your wife work, I hope they don’t serve eggs there (joking)
him- (laughing)oh she doesn’t work…she’s at home preparing for the baby.
me- oh how lovely. Congratulations’ when is baby due?
him- well she’s not actually pregnant yet…we’re just trying.
me- oh…ok.

other colleagues were very confused…as was I…is this normal? 😆

Why would this conversation have come up “sooner or later”?
Most people don’t enquire what their colleagues partner’s do for a living?

@ACatNamedRobinThere’s more to life than work you know! You have no idea what she does all day so you should keep your judgement to yourself.

I find it really odd to use it as an opportunity to ask where his wife works. Do you fancy him or something? You seem a little over invested in his wife.

Oh really?

At my work we all know what everyone’s partners do.

Its part of our normal conversation.
We are all quite close though.

Just get on with doing your jobs?

I wish I didn't have to work.

This. Not sure why you were "stumped". He's just saying his wife doesn't work.

Lucky lady.

I think this thread shows that. Also she could have a medical condition that means she can't work or it would be very difficult to work but he just met you so might not want to disclose her private medical information.

Why would op hate their job?

It's an ugly thing (and frankly, fucking weird) to accuse anyone of a 'mortal sin' when you have no idea whatsoever if they're committing it.

What an odd conversation! You for the whole serving eggs at work weirdness and him for saying she’s preparing for the baby but isn’t even pregnant yet.
Yeah it might be fertility treatment?
Or maybe adoption?

More likely you just caught him off guard and he had a bit of a brain fart!

I was also going to say that the conversation sounded vaguely flirty from OPs end….

In some cultures, yes. What I admire though, is that he’s supporting his partner . That’s beautiful x

That's by far the most judgemental post in this thread. 😂

Tbf I would consider that friendly conversation and getting to know a co-worker a little better, just small talk. No harm meant by it although if he looked or seemed uncomfortable at all I’d change the subject. I wouldn’t consider it weird if someone asked me what my partner did for work but maybe that’s just me 🤷🏼‍♀️

She opened herself up to judgement.

Shes the home maker....they're trying for first baby they may be struggling and having to go down fertility treatment

Some people prefer traditional roles and traditional living which is fine

Let's hope they are happy

Why he so rude and judgy ... And to then make a post to laugh at them further

Yes, it probably is just you.

Op you were totally normal in your conversation.

I would have found it odd about being at home preparing for a baby when your not even pregnant. Iv never met anyone who has stayed at hime for fertility treatment as mentioned on here

And you’re not judgey??

Being at home doesn't mean you're doing nothing. Housewives we're the norm 50 years ago, even before children.

When “you are/you’re” not even pregnant. Maybe she’s at home educating herself so she can be a great mother. Maybe she’s unwell. Maybe she sits around eating bonbon’s all day. No one else’s business.

We are all judgemental as creatures - however, some of us have the sense to keep it in our own heads.

Or he could have just replied that they dont work which would have been the end of the conversation

It’s a northerner thing I think 😂

We mean no harm but our customs may seem strange to some 👽

Yes it's normal. I don't understand why it's confusing. You asked about her work, he said she doesn't work as she is preparing for a baby, you asked when it was due, he said she isn't pregnant yet.

I know I can be seen as cold and uncaring, but if a new starter had told me that, I wouldn't be interested enough to give it more headroom, other than to consider that this might be a hugely sensitive topic for him (and that it also might not be) and to let him be the one who mentions it next. People say all sorts of things in place of "mind your own business". People also embellish and infer...I remember someone asking a person I knew how far away from his home was his workplace. He said "oh it's an hour and a halves drive". Which it may have been. Fact was, he couldn't drive and spent the best part of three hours each morning trying to get there on two busses. Sometimes people just don't like the facts getting in the way of a good story.