Raging!!!

[Bernie23]

I wanted to go to a meditation/relaxation session for 1hour this evening. I do child’s homework every single day in life after I rush home from work. This evening my daughter had a couple of corrections in her homework and I asked my husband to do them with her when I was away at this course.
Come home and she still has one not completed, another not corrected properly and another that is illegible. AIBU but WTF? I went mad, the one day I ask him to do it, he can’t be bothered to even make sure it’s right. He’s shouting at me saying I’m mad and I need to wise up but I’m livid.

Is he normally a bit useless?

How old is your daughter?

9

I understand why you are frustrated with your husband. That said, it's your daughter's homework. Why isn't she taking responsibility for it (and the consequences, if it isn't done)?

You don't sound very relaxed. I wouldn't be bothered about a 9 year olds homework.

I feel your pain and anger! they are honestly useless!!! (I have included my DH).

He thinks he does everything.
He puts the bin out and lights the fire ( after I usually clean it out) I’m apparently always giving out and causing a row & that I should stay out at the thing I was at!

Sorry, I believe as a parent I should support my child doing their homework at home. It’s the only time they get a little bit of 1:1 time & support with their work.

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Why not? I feel it’s important to help & support her.

Genuine question, aren't kids supposed to do their homework themselves? I certainly had to.

She does do it herself. She just has a couple of corrections she needed a bit of support with. I always help & support her with her homework and anything she’s not 100% with.

Your reaction seems OTT. It’s her homework. The teacher needs to know what she doesn’t understand. Leave it . How else will she learn if you correct it?

She had most of it correct. Just needed a few things gone over. My parents always helped me with mine and I do the same with my own children. I would always check and help them with whatever they had to do. Do others not help their children with their homework esp primary school children.

The teacher has 30 children to teach never mind mark 30 pieces of homework before teaching. When would they actually get the time to explain everything to everyone who had a mistake or didn’t understand something?
Are schools and parents not a partnership?

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I’d go to the relaxation session - you sound like you need it! Accept your child will just have a couple of things wrong for one day. Honestly, you’re making a rod for your own back doing their homework for them every day. Your DD should be taking responsibility for her own homework.

See, this makes it sound like the going over was actually correcting, but apologies if I've got that wrong. I just don't get how they can learn if they're being helped? Genuinely not meaning to be snidey here, I've just never understood the concept of homework help. My parents never helped me with mine because they believed I had to arrive at the answers (or not, as the case may be) myself. I've got this vision of every child getting every question right because they've had help, but not necessarily understanding why the answers are right. Possibly I'm missing something here.

Maybe that's why she wants to go to a meditation/relaxation session.

Raging? Really. If he drove her drunk back from school. Swore at her etc etc.
But not micromanaging homework? I’d leave her to it. School needs to see what she can do independently and she needs to start to take responsibility for her own work.

jesus chill out! There must be some back story - no way can you be raging over just homework. What else is going on in your marriage?

I'm not sure what every single day "in life" means (as opposed to??) or what you need to "wise up" about. All sounds very stressy, but your husband could be more helpful by the sound of things.

TA's usually collect and mark the homework, they then make a note of the ones who need extra support on the subject. It's really meant to be independent.

Did your husband?

its not something I would rage over. She doesn't have to be 100% all of the time. How will her teacher know she's having any issues if you do it for her?

Totally get it OP you asked him to cover you and he couldn’t be arsed = total enraging. He doesn’t have the same values as you …don’t bother hurting yourself with anger ..you can’t force someone to care. All those people wittering about homework in their day have not seen the current demands on children …very different