How do you stop yourself wanting all the things?

[Gettingabitnippynow]

I’m not a materialist person at all, but have just been to pick up a few Christmas bits for Dd and I just want all the things. They’re not particularly expensive, but would be to buy them all. Christmas candles, Christmas mugs, pjs, teddies, wooly hats, jumpers etc etc. Do you all buy all these things or just ignore? I realise it’s a bit silly to buy new every year and a waste when I have last years xmas mugs and pjs.
Just wish I was wealthy sometimes!

I feel like this today. Did some Christmas shopping online and in the shops this week and now I'm itching so go beserk and spend more on stupid things.

Yabu. If you still have all of these things, why would you need to buy new ones? What purpose would they serve, different from what you already have?

How would you define a materialistic person if it's not someone who wants all the things?

To answer your question though, I can, and do just ignore all of that stuff.

I should add, I wont actually do it. I am being very careful and sticking to a list and a budget.

There is a big difference between WANTING something and NEEDING it.

If you need it, you get it. If you want it, you can afford it and will get good use out of it, then buy it. If you won’t get good use out of it then there’s no point and you might just as well throw your cash notes into the drain

Ignore. It is just tat, next year's landfill. This whole idea that Christmas or any festivity or season means "all the stuff" is killing the planet.

Just stop.

I think all those things are tat, so its not hard to ignore them

Go on a low buy for a period of time. It makes you much more conscious of what you're spending your money on and do you really need that shiny new cup or whatever.

It's way nicer for DC to get out the Christmas mugs, jumpers, hats etc once a year - the same ones year in, year out. They have meaning then. If they have outgrown the PJs, buy some that work at other times of year too but have a festive feel - like red tartan. Candles don't have to cost much. A £5 M&S cinnamon and orange candle will scent the whole house. But light the ones you still have from last year first. I have loads of candles to use up.

Think of it as not wanting to clutter your home with tat. Also, ask tyourself: what feeling do I want these purchases to create? Once you know what it is, you then ask yourself: How else could I get that feeling without wasting money on clutter?

Watch BUY NOW on Netflix. It will help change your mindset on your consumerism and open your eyes to the mess we’re creating in the world with how much we buy.

Do you actually want the things though, or just the dopamine rush of buying them?

Look at all the clutter in your house and realise you don’t need more shit, that’s what I do

I'm like that, but in the cake/biscuit aisle 😀

Best to buy timeless designed festive additions if you must so that each year it's a joy to bring them out again.

By remembering that it all turns into clutter which I then have to deal with for the rest of my life!

Also the shops really stress me out at Christmas (and increasingly Halloween, Easter etc) - there is just so much unnecessary tat that it's a visual nightmare. The heaving crowds don't help either.

To scratch that itch, maybe resolve to buy one really beautiful christmas tree bauble every year. The really nice ones are not cheap (but won't break the bank), and they would make lovely gifts for your kids when they leave home and start to celebrate Christmas in their own homes.

Try and see it for the consumerism it really is. Realise that this years Christmas mug is no better than last years. In fact having a Christmas mug is pointless. Just get mugs you can use all year around.

I prefer to buy good quality classic items and use it for a long time rather than buy throwaway tat .

I’m quite materialistic, I like nice things, I don’t consider Xmas tat nice things so it doesn’t even cross my mind to buy them.

I‘m not generally tempted by anything like that, but if I were, I’d set myself a budget and work out how spending that budget would give me the most enjoyment (e.g. lots of small things or one or two bigger items).

I think it’s pretty normal to want new things. I manage that by writing a list of all the things I’d like…and then wait a few weeks before I allow myself to buy something from that list. Often the item I thought I really wanted a few weeks ago will have lost its appeal and as a result I don’t actually buy much at all.

It is quite difficult sometimes, but I was brought up never to "want" anything, which does help.
I tend to try and go for the best I can afford at the time in the hope that it will last forever (unrealistic), but has worked on several major items over 20 to 30 years.
I am now at the point where I think, "will it see me out" (around another 23 years to go) :-)
Totally agree on the clutter argument.
Clothes wise I do try and ask myself, do I have suitable outfits for any occasions/events I might need to attend. On the whole yes, whew! I do try to do for the classics, though, as they really do not date and you cannot go wrong with cotton, linen, wool, cashmere, silk etc. if you take care of things.

I get it OP. But I usually stop myself by thinking where I would store the additional tat and trying to stick to approximately the same theme with cups, plates etc, which eliminated a lot of the things no matter how cute they are. And most importantly thinking would we really use it.

This doesn't mean I managed not to buy anything, but I try to stick to 1-2 pieces of Christmas tat per child every year - they year before they got matching jumpers and a plate for Santa, last year they got pyjamas and glass cups, this year they're getting mugs and Christmas jumpers again, which are a size up, so we can skip the jumpers next year etc

I find that if you leave it for a week or so, that must have item has somehow lost its appeal.

I used to be like this but this year and last I found myself preoccupied with other things so for various reasons didn’t end up buying x, y, Z and realised after the event that I didn’t miss not having them so never needed them to begin with. For me, it wasn’t about the cost element of things - it was the clutter aspect. What would I have done with all those things? I would have probably had to get rid of some old things to make space for the new and it would have been a rotating wardrobe which defeats the purpose of purchasing in the first instance. I still buy new Xmas pjs and a new jumper each year as they grow out of them.

Going to the shops at this time of year has the opposite effect on me. It makes me sad thinking where all that produce ends up at the end of it all. The sheer volume of just... Like, CLOTHES in M&S for example, that's just one shop. Just one branch on my high street. What a waste. It's horrible. It makes me want none of the stuff, quite frankly!

YABU

To answer your question, once you experience being able to buy what you want, it completely loses its appeal.