Do you give her Dc a present for an outstanding school report

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Or do you just say Well done?

'her' dc? Whose child is she, your partner's?

If you are close to the child, by all means reward her; buy her something or give her money. That's a nice thing to do.

No. Nor do we give cash for good exam grades

Oh 😩😩 ‘YOUR DC’ it was meant to say…sorry 😬

It was meant to say’Your’ 😔

All my children received £1 each time they got a school report or had a parents evening . Was the same £1 when they graduated from uni .
i don’t believe in attaching a lot of monetary value to school work etc as some kids are just not as good at it and then they would miss out . Reward the effort more than the result .

Isn't the 'reward', the result in itself? they've worked hard and got great results or report, personally, that's what I would impress my DC.

Yes, give her a little something, she'll appreciate that.

No, no cash or gift reward for reports or exams but certainly vocal in praise for effort. Teach that the reward is the achievement, satisfaction and pride in themselves.

No. Kids need to learn that pride in their achievements is enough. And it's the parent's job to teach them that.

Genuine question and I don’t mean to be cheeky, but what was the point in that? Compared to giving nothing at all, I mean.

No. Never have and never paid for good grades either.

Good job as my dd would have bankrupted me!

Absolutely not. All the research shows that children - well, people generally- who are incentivised by extrinsic motivators do less well in the long run, are unwilling to take risks because they focus only on doing what gets the reward and they lose interest in the subject matter. They are also less able to cope when they don’t do well.

Focus on the enjoyment of learning and your interest in them as people in their own right. You could ask “did you enjoy the work?”

Of course. And for good exam results and for any other reason we feel like.
Why wouldn't we?
[That was a rhetorical question BTW]

No, but I'd probably take her for a coffee or pizza to celebrate, not as a "reward", just the type of small thing I'd do if I got a promotion or other good news.

We do special dinner, let them pick somewhere to celebrate good grades and things. Not really gifts.

We go out for a meal to celebrate their effort regardless of the results (assuming they've put in effort, which they always have). When the results are particularly good we say something along the lines of - Isn't it great when all that hard work pays off!

My DC have never had an outstanding school report. Two of them really struggle academically, the other does well but not outstanding. We’ve always given a lot of praise for outstanding behaviour and effort, but never thought to pay for good grades. Wouldn’t feel fair to give rewards to the one DC who achieves good grades as she doesn’t have the SEN that her siblings do.

We didn’t in primary or intermediate school. In years 9 and 10 I gave cash based on grades, I would have given her spending money for the holidays anyway and that was just a fun way of working out how much to give.

DD has just finished Year 11 so first “important” year and instead of giving for each report during the year, I am just giving one lump sum based on overall result.

Not a present but we’d have a takeaway or go out for a meal to acknowledge their effort, whichever they preferred.

When it came to GCSEs, we gave them money when they finished them, before they got their grades, to acknowledge their hard work and so they could have the money to spend over the summer. The amount wasn’t dependent on grades.

For A levels, they got a well done, a takeaway or meal out and we paid for university costs.

DC have a particular inexpensive treat they like and we get one of those for all of us if a dc does well on their effort grades (no one’s reports are at the same time!), so the whole family wins. It’s kind of a tradition now. I think rewarding the hard work and a positive teacher comment is nice, but I wouldn’t give huge gifts.
The grade itself is the reward for the hard work imo.
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We get a (rare) McDonald's for dinner, their siblings thank them for doing so well!

A takeaway of meal rather than money. I did buy a nice gift for GCSE’s - £500 value. I think I gave DS some money for A levels. DD doing hers next summer.

Never did this! Not for exams either. Congratulations and cuddles, yes. A gift, no.

You haven’t said what your YABU/YANBU choices mean.

No, I would not give a reward for an outstanding report. IMO it’s too materialistic and encourages the child to expect a reward for everything good they do. You could reasonably have a little whole-family celebration, I suppose, such as nice cakes for tea. But what if you have two children and the other one just doesn’t find school work or school life as easy so never gets such a good report despite trying hard? Do they just never get the reward or the celebration?

I always take DD out for a sushi lunch on the last day of term when she gets her results but really it's to celebrate the end of the school year rather than a reward for good grades - we'd go no matter what results she got. Though the last two years she's been given a cash reward by the school for being top of the class so she does get money, just not from me.

She tells me that some parents reward for good grades every exam, which is insane as they have loads of exams throughout the school year. I tell her those parents clearly have more money than sense and I ain't doing that!