Do you give her Dc a present for an outstanding school report

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Or do you just say Well done?

I do reward. My kids work hard and I feel a small treat is just an extra little thing that goes along with my saying well done and how proud I am of their efforts. It is not about the value of the gift it's about positive recognition.We could do simple things like going out for burgers or pizza or it could be a new something she has been hopelessly trying to save for! I am happy to do it.

I give 1 treat that dc can choose. Usually hot chocolate / occasionally lunch

My children never got toys or the like unless it was their birthday or Christmas. But if they got a great report, or really excelled at something (won a medal for instance), then they would be get something small that they wanted, like a book. I felt it was good to reward hard work and to try to install a work ethic by doing this. They didn’t get paid for good grades though. Seems to have worked.

We celebrate school successes - be it they choose dinner or we buy something small like football cards but sometimes I’ll get something bigger - something I know they want, an item or a particular outing. I don’t say if you do this, I’ll buy that - but I will always reward them, even if it’s just a high five and telling them I am proud of them.
I don’t give money for grades but I give lots of praise and celebrate any ‘wins’, it isn’t about getting 9s but more about the lovely comments in their reports or a teaching calling home with praise or them feeling really proud about something,

I’m not ploughing through all that, but from the infographic in the first link it means internal rather than external?

I’m not sure how that really works at school which many kids (especially at secondary) would choose not to be at, and certainly not doing a test- and exam-heavy curriculum culminating in GCSEs. If DD gets a good test score in French, which she really doesn’t enjoy (not sure why she’s taking it other than doing a language GCSE seemed like a good idea) I’m going to reward that.

I mean - GCSEs are surely completely extrinsic. You do them and do your best because you need GCSEs to progress. Your enjoyment is often neither here nor there.

No, absolutely not.

I never got anything for a school report, but I did get financially rewarded for my GCSE results in 2001.
If I remember correctly, it was £100 for every A, and £50 for anything C or above. With my 1 A*, 7 As and 2 Bs, I made a tidy sum!

When I was growing up I used to get “prizes” for achievements which were worth about £5. I would add them up and then my dad would take me out to spend my prize money. I’ll do the same with my two kids but will probably increase the value to £10 as it’s been a while since I was a child 😂

I rewarded mine after the exams, before the results because I was proud of the work they did in preparing which is hard for them. Spent a lot of money on bribery to get them to school on time. (Disability makes it hard, meal out was their currency) It was bloody expensive but the results were worth it.

Never. One of mine is highly gifted and talented and the other one has severe learning difficulties. I couldn't image rewarding my super bright child with their glowing reports (DC achieves academically without too much work and effort) and not my other child (who works a lot harder) but who is working about 10 years behind their chronological age. I use school reports as a document to inform me where the DC are education wise and plan next steps from there (both have EHCPs and are in specialist settings).

We take them to pizza hut which is a specific treat only for that 🤣

I’m in a similar (not quite so stark) situation, but that’s why we reward effort not specific grades. Effort looks different between my 2 and the output is certainly different, but they both put in levels of effort that deserve to be rewarded.

We would buy a special treat like kfc or McDonald’s on the day of parents evening, just as a Well Done and because we were typically not at home to cook. Kids chose, they had to agree between them.

No - there is an expectation that they will work hard. They are not rewarded for doing what we and their school expect them to do. There are consequences at school and home if they don’t work hard.

We celebrate with a takeaway or nice food of some sort

My children are in their 30’s now, when they were at school there were parents who gave their children £50 per A grade !
Even mine were a bit astounded.
We usually went out for a pizza or something to celebrate that it was all over and they’d done their best.

I got money for my gcses too, in 2003, but it was a fiver for a C, tenner for a B and so on. Less than a C and we had to pay our parents money! I got all Bs so worked out alright for me but at least one of my brothers ended up owing money.

no but we got a takeaway (Dominos) for an outstanding parents evening report.

One of dds friends was offered £200/A £100/B & £50/C. Problem was the kid was never a hard worker when it came to school work and his parents always indulged him, so he quickly forgot about the incentive, seeing it as a bit of a joke - which was how he saw a lot of things. I’m sure he’ll be very successful in life but he’ll likely never be A* Student.

Whose daughter are you on about?

Yes but it’s not consistent or big. Once all 3 DDs had excellent reports and had had a fantastic term with multiple achievement awards so we decided on a spontaneous dinner out at their favourite restaurant and also gave them an extra £5 spending money. Other times we might be out and they see something they like we will say you know you’ve don’t so good at school, your report and parents evenings have been brilliant you can have it.

i was always slightly jealous of school friends who got money for exam results. My parents didn’t give a shit, they cared more about me skipping school to work and pay board than actually getting an education.

I don’t see anything wrong in giving kids an incentive to do well in school.

I agree with this. DS has always received 'greater depth' and got top marks, etc. He has now just started getting mock GCSE marks which are all 9s. I've ever given any monetary reward at all. I've always drummed into him to have pride in his own ability and work.

No neither did I I hate the whole concept of rewarding children for good grades. The reward is the good grade! Children should be brought up to understand the worth of education they shouldn't work hard to get cash they should do it because it's in their interests.
Also some people struggle a lot more than others. If I was going to reward anything it would be for trying and good attitude but not for good grades or a good school report

My ex partner took our daughter to Dubai for passing her 11+… I took her to Nandos.

I reward the effort not the end result.