Fed up with men not being held to the same standards re. aging

[Whatlovedoes]

I’ve just given my DH an earful watching I’m a celebrity. He commented on one of the female cast - ‘younger me knocked many a one out over her in the page 3 days’ followed by ‘she has let herself go now though so I don’t think I’d be repeating those days’.

Why is it so accepted that men will age and it’s to be expected they’ll be grey etc, but women have to face such negativity/criticism?

Nobody should be held to any standards as far as appearance is concerned. People look how they look and its nobody else's business. If people don't find me attractive, why should I care? I know this is simplistic, and our instincts seem to be to judge, but really, unless it affects our safety we should dismiss these thoughts.

Criticism from who? Disgusting beer bellied balding impotent sweat stinky porn-addicted perverts?

That's not criticism. That's projection.

Did you ask whether he thought she'd feel the same way about him?

Ask him to make the face he thinks she would make knowing he wanked over her.

lol

Will anyone be 'knocking one out' over your husband, now he's older? Or has he let himself go? Rows of younger women lining up, lusting for his attentions, are they - outside of his dreams, that is. . .

Yep, like Martin Kemp, or David Essex! In fact I would go as far as to say Martin is actually more attractive now! (David is equally as attractive!)

Your husband is revolting. That’s all I take from your post.

That's such a good description of many middle aged/slightly older than middle aged men! 😂 (Like mid 40s to mid 60s!)

Exactly. Women usually get better, men get disgusting.
Everything men say is projection.
Look at how afraid they were of what's happening ("male loneliness epidemic"). They had to legislate us into marrying them and make life miserable unless a man adopted us.

Now we are free and rejecting them en masse in droves.

Yes.
My husband is 75 and similar.
Plus, what other men think is largely irrelevant to me.

My partner would never say that. what a horrible and hurtful thing to say.

Oh my good god. And you let him kiss you with that mouth? If that's what goes on inside men's heads, I hold out no hope for them. Gross 🤮.

Exactly! I know many many men that speak like this. maybe its a demographic thing? but in my working class northern town its not unusual at all to hear men speak like this even in 2025.

Oh my good god. And you let him kiss you with that mouth? If that's what goes on inside men's heads, I hold out no hope for them. Gross 🤮.

When they are young they mostly keep their thoughts to themselves when in mixed company. I don’t think they are always quite so circumspect in male only social
situations.

As they get old they start saying out loud the things they’ve been thinking all along.

Not all men. But too many men.

YABU, the problem here is your husband.

Also, that's the type of comments being heard about men and women IMO, particularly on TV/cinema.

You’ve only got to watch Hessomid (he’s so mid) on Instagram, where she calls men out for their revolting comments on women in the public eye. This is what supposedly normal men say about celebrities. Imagine what they say about regular women! Disgusting, the lot of them!

Oh you sweet summer child 😂

I am sure lots of men think this and say this We don't have to put up with this though Walk out of the room. Protest Make your point.

Well there’s two separate issues. Firstly the husbands comments are gross .
But secondly yes we live in a society where expectations of women’s looks is massive from colouring their hair, to wearing make up, uncomfortable clothing and shoes and some women end up choosing Botox, filers, surgeries all to look better and evade aging. The expectation on men is nowhere near as high and on top that women often have given birth multiple times and go through menopause yet are still expected to look amazing whilst being a wife, mother and successful in their career.

What a disgusting man!

Kelly is beautiful.

Again, you can say no to getting Botox and fillers if you don't want them, whatever the expectation. I realise it may be difficult but it's possible. I am 53. Done nothing to my face and will do nothing. I don't want my DD to think she has to be pretty all her life to get respect.

What a weirdo fancying anything like that. She's flippin 46 now ??

I hate it when they're this clumsy and obvious. Come on, try to add a little art to it. If you can figure out how to sign up to MN, you can do better than this.

Don't want to be misconstrued.

You aren't.

Please, can you at least put a bit of effort into it? This is just so lowest common denominator. People used to be good at this stuff, believe it or not.