To be really annoyed with nursery over this

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My two year old has mostly phased her nap out at home but still naps at nursery. This does mean a later bedtime but as long as she’s awake by 2. I’ve specifically asked before if she can be woken by 2.

However they keep not doing it and today she slept from 115 to twenty past three. It’s going to be around half nine by the time I get her down tonight. I have a reception aged child who I won’t be able to do homework or reading or anything with and even he is going to end up in bed later than ideal.

I have just stopped myself sending a really stroppy email and I’m going to ring in tomorrow but am I really being unreasonable in feeling a bit like I’ve lost trust? I’ve specifically asked and surely common sense should dictate that’s far too late a nap!

When my child was three naps would be refused.. then the inevitable crash at 4 or 5pm. 😵‍💫

I think a poster a while ago had it right.

ignore all the posts about what others would do with their kids…..the point of the post is that nursery agreed to do something and they have now broken that.

like any other service you pay for.

sorry I can’t who said that.

Excuses Excuses Excuses 🙄

It does sound argumentative and unyielding.
I completely understand not wanting dc to sleep late in the day. But, the child's schedule should be adjusted to encourage an earlier nap, then. ie consistently wake her an hour earlier each morning.
However, if the child is tired, she must be allowed to sleep according to her own needs. It's tough when that poses a conflict, but it doesn't last forever and we do have to listen to their needs.

If she’s napping at nursery she probably needs it. It sounds as though you are unreasonably irate about the possibility of having more time with your toddler awake which suggests there are bigger issues than a slightly longer than normal nap. Not all children fit in to the idea of ‘routine’ or ‘what works for your family’ ans their needs change all the time. It sounds as though some adaptability and working on becoming less stressed about minor things would be really good for you.

It isn’t the nap I’m particularly bothered about. I don’t think she does need it - I think they need her to have it would be more accurate! They’ve said a number of times ‘oh, she took a long time to close her eyes today’ - yep, that’s because she doesn’t need it!

It is the timing of the nap that I’m concerned about. For all people are getting huffy about the awful idea you’d wake a sleeping child, once they are out of babyhood it isn’t in anyone’s best interests to be out of routine. My nearly five year old was very tired after school yesterday. If I’d ’let him sleep because he’s tired’ he could have napped 4-6 and then gone to bed at midnight - let’s not pretend that’s sensible or in his best interests

To be honest I still haven’t totally decided what to do! It isn’t exactly the nap - it really is very poor on their part I think but there have been some odd things of late and I’m concerned it’s not the place it was if you like. That said, I’ve no desire to move her especially given sentimentally it’s been part of y life in one capacity or another for a long time.

You need to state sleep times are x to y only.