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Are Dh and I being unreasonable to have let my 13 year old DSS take a 9 minute train journey on Saturday evening, (6pm)?

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piscofrisco · 17/11/2025 16:54

We have today been accused of endangering the child. He was dropped off at a shopping mall with his friend who was staying with us, to meet some other friends. He had down this before whilst at his Mothers. We suggested they take the train back as it’s actually quicker than us driving the round trip to pick them up and because it’s nice, we thought, for them to have a bit of independence.
As it was the first time he has been on a train without one of us we:
bought their tickets.
told them the time of the train and the platform.
reminded them where to get off (1 stop, a 9 minute journey).
called them half an hour before the train was due to leave.
spoke to them as they boarded the train.
picked them up at the station our end.

both boys were fine, quite happy on return and didn’t even comment on it.

this morning we have be told by their Mother that we endangered them and that our DSS was upset by being ‘made to take the train’

Have we done anything unreasonable
here?

OP posts:
Sartre · 21/11/2025 11:46

My DS did work experience this year and navigated his way to York Uni and back. He’s 15 so granted, a bit older but we didn’t even really show him what to do. Bought his tickets sure but he figured the rest out and the uni isn’t even in the city centre so he had to find a bus after the train. At 13, I’d have definitely trusted him to do this. It really isn’t a big deal at all.

UrbanFan · 21/11/2025 11:49

It was perfectly fine for your 13yr old to travel like this.

Jack80 · 21/11/2025 23:22

13 is fine to do that.

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