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To think the problem with wealth inequality is that rich people don't know how rich they are?

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Neeroy · 17/11/2025 09:04

Article in the Times today saying that people earning six figures 'don't feel rich'.

Because they are surrounded by six figure earning peers they are comparing themselves to people who have more rather than the 90% of the population that have far less. This is why the budget is poorly received in the news, because rich people think they already shoulder too high a burden when in fact compared to everyone else they still have far more disposable income. Even if they have to cut down on the number of holidays they go on. They aren't sitting in the dark under a blanket. Or only making food that doesn't require turning on the oven.

I don't think they realise how so many people have to live.

www.thetimes.com/article/1fb46414-8f65-436f-8f95-451d69626148?shareToken=8061d939633164c0dfbd805240c8e008

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GehenSieweiter · 17/11/2025 12:24

JHound · 17/11/2025 12:12

Just because they have relatively more money, doesn’t make them “rich”.

Just because they don't feel rich doesn't mean they aren't, in relative terms.

5128gap · 17/11/2025 12:24

Wealth inequality isn't about the salaries of different workers. Its about the top 1% holding 23% of the wealth, the top 10% holding 57% of the wealth and the 50% at the bottom having less than 5% between them. A working family with a mortgage earning six figures compared with a family on NMW is neither here nor there really. Its about the assets hoarded by the extremely wealthy. The rest of us are all just workers, our circumstances dependent on our ability to earn, and a few pay checks away from having nothing at all.

Ahfiddlesticks · 17/11/2025 12:24

GehenSieweiter · 17/11/2025 12:23

A middle class lifestyle is rich.

But what is a "middle class lifestyle"?

MidnightPatrol · 17/11/2025 12:25

GehenSieweiter · 17/11/2025 12:22

A lot of people on higher incomes don't necessarily work hard either.

How do you think people are managing to sustain a high income, if not working hard?

There are usually some quite considerable expectations for those earning large sums…

Richardoo · 17/11/2025 12:25

ThatChristmasMug · 17/11/2025 12:08

As a side note, it's also true that a lot of people CHOSE not to earn a lot.

Don't get me wrong, I am not saying they are all paid fairly and that the system is right or fair. When you chose to be a primary school teacher, a nurse, a soldier, you know you are not in there for the money. Some use it as a stepping stone, like nurses going to beauty industry to increase their salary, and no one would blame them.

But my point was that a lot of people on lower income DO NOT work hard and do not want to work harder. How many threads with posters saying they refuse to work 1 minute of overtime, that you should NEVER take a phone call or read an email after work, at the weekend or on holiday.

How may posters are miffed at the higher managers who go from meetings to lunch to more meeting, not realising that all these are work, and that they have to add hours to do what they can't be doing while on a client lunch.

People willingly ignore the work and responsibilities and choices by others who earn a lot more.

Although there's nothing wrong with chosing life over a job. My DH often says there are people who work with him who just want to go home at 5pm and their job is done, whereas he'll be answering emails and writing papers into the evening and dealing with emergencies at the weekend, yet the 5pm people will criticise him for the larger salary.
We've also relocated for better jobs and that comes with its own costs.
Sometimes you take your money and make your choices.

itsalwayssunnyhere · 17/11/2025 12:25

I agree with you, OP. As people get more wealthy they tend to surround themselves with those of the same lifestyle and wealth level, it just happens naturally. When your whole circle concists of people living fancier lives than most, it's easy to believe thayt's how it is for others because it your eyes it pretty much is.

GehenSieweiter · 17/11/2025 12:26

Tiramisutully · 17/11/2025 12:20

so you’re on £100k because you work in London, low grade professional services. You have 2 kids, one in nursery.

What do you think you’re spending on nursery a month? And mortgage? And commute? And wrap around? And savings? Cause you’re rich aren’t you!

Savings are often a luxury for folk on average or below average incomes.

MasterBeth · 17/11/2025 12:26

FancyBiscuitsLevel · 17/11/2025 09:22

I guess it’s because we’ve not updated our idea of what a “rich person” lifestyle looks like to allow for the much lower standards of living across the board in the last 10 years or so.

”rich lifestyle” things feel like - “having a house big enough for each child to have a bedroom plus a guest room”, “can afford overseas holiday a year”, “can run two big cars”, “buy a 2nd home in the country/at the sea.” Except 20 years ago this was more standard middle class lifestyle, not the rich.

My lifestyle is very similar to the one my parents had when they were my age/had teen dcs. Except my dad was a teacher and DH earns about double what a teacher with the same level of responsibility would earn now. Someone with DHs job in the 90s would be living in a much bigger house with a much more luxurious lifestyle. So I’m not surprised that people who are on around £150k-ish don’t feel rich- many will be living a lower lifestyle than their own parents.

A “standard middle class lifestyle” has never included having a second home.

Ballerinacappuccino · 17/11/2025 12:26

My personal favourite is when people on 100k+ with kids in private school describe themselves as “middle class”.
I have nothing against people more wealthy than me btw but stop claiming you’re “middle” anything when you have bucket loads more cash than the average Joe 🤣

BellesAndGraces · 17/11/2025 12:26

JLou08 · 17/11/2025 10:24

An example of that I've seen on here a few times is when people talk about siblings sharing bedrooms. Comments about you need a 5 bedroom house, why have you moved to a 3 bed/4 bed?
I don't know anyone who lives in a 5 bedroom house, very few I know live in a 4 bed and that's usually a loft conversion and a tiny box bedroom included in bedroom numbers. I don't even come across many 4+ bedroom houses when I'm searching for property because I live in a deprived area. People living in affluent areas are so out of touch that they think it easy to find a 4+bedroom house.
People with 6 figure salaries may not have a huge disposable income due to mortgage increases. However, if they lived in a 2 up 2 down, bought second hand cheap cars instead of expensive lease cars and shopped at Aldi like many average earners need to do just to make ends meet, they would see a huge difference.

A 2 up 2 down in my part of the country is £600k …

ThatChristmasMug · 17/11/2025 12:27

GehenSieweiter · 17/11/2025 12:22

A lot of people on higher incomes don't necessarily work hard either.

It's very rare that they've done nothing at school, didn't do any study, didn't work hard and intelligently to to go into the right companies to start their career and don't work that hard.

Maybe some work a lot less, because they work smartly and maybe they reach the point where the few hours they do are more valuable than the 12 hours of the data entry clerk.

rogueherries · 17/11/2025 12:27

GehenSieweiter · 17/11/2025 12:01

People on lower incomes work equally hard, possibly sometimes even harder.
A lot of people who feel 'not rich' have never really experienced what it's like to really be 'not rich' or even to be very poor.

How hard someone works in their particular field is irrelevant, and not quantifiable in any case. It’s completely subjective. And there’s no moral obligation on the part of someone who you seem to think works less hard to share the reward of their labour with those who (in your subjective opinion) work harder.

GehenSieweiter · 17/11/2025 12:27

MidnightPatrol · 17/11/2025 12:25

How do you think people are managing to sustain a high income, if not working hard?

There are usually some quite considerable expectations for those earning large sums…

The income is awarded as part of the job, once in the job many top level folk don't actually earn their money,

CowTown · 17/11/2025 12:28

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BringBackCatsEyes · 17/11/2025 12:28

Everyone is impacted by the increase in the COL.
Whether it turns their life into a crisis is surely dependent on their income and assets.

Living pay day to pay day - an increase of £50/month on your gas/elec may tip you into crisis ie not enough for food or to get petrol for the car.

Living in a very large house with 2 fancy cars on the drive and kids in private school - you still have many, many options when your outgoings increase dramatically ie you will still have somewhere to live and you will not go hungry.

JHound · 17/11/2025 12:28

“The polling of more than 4,000 people suggested that owning a house outright, having more than £1 million in cash savings and earning a six-figure salary were unlikely to make us feel well-off.”

Ok this is just crazy.

GehenSieweiter · 17/11/2025 12:28

rogueherries · 17/11/2025 12:27

How hard someone works in their particular field is irrelevant, and not quantifiable in any case. It’s completely subjective. And there’s no moral obligation on the part of someone who you seem to think works less hard to share the reward of their labour with those who (in your subjective opinion) work harder.

I was replying to a comment which mentioned how hard high earners work, merely adding that people of all levels may work hard.

MidnightPatrol · 17/11/2025 12:29

GehenSieweiter · 17/11/2025 12:27

The income is awarded as part of the job, once in the job many top level folk don't actually earn their money,

I think this is pretty unrealistic.

People get paid well because of their performance, or having very niche skills. Companies aren’t just paying people six-figure salaries for the hell of it.

SpottyAardvark · 17/11/2025 12:29

5128gap · 17/11/2025 12:24

Wealth inequality isn't about the salaries of different workers. Its about the top 1% holding 23% of the wealth, the top 10% holding 57% of the wealth and the 50% at the bottom having less than 5% between them. A working family with a mortgage earning six figures compared with a family on NMW is neither here nor there really. Its about the assets hoarded by the extremely wealthy. The rest of us are all just workers, our circumstances dependent on our ability to earn, and a few pay checks away from having nothing at all.

Spot on.

The rich person is not the accountant or middle manager who earns £100k. The rich person is the owner or CEO of the company which employs her.

GehenSieweiter · 17/11/2025 12:30

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Um, I'm not complaining, I'm actually telling others to stop complaining.
I'm also not a 'rich bastard'.

GehenSieweiter · 17/11/2025 12:30

MidnightPatrol · 17/11/2025 12:29

I think this is pretty unrealistic.

People get paid well because of their performance, or having very niche skills. Companies aren’t just paying people six-figure salaries for the hell of it.

That's quite a naive view.

BellesAndGraces · 17/11/2025 12:30

GehenSieweiter · 17/11/2025 12:24

Just because they don't feel rich doesn't mean they aren't, in relative terms.

Just because someone on NMW in this country is struggling to do a basic food shop doesn’t mean they’re not richer than the vast majority of the rest of the world, in relative terms.

Differentforgirls · 17/11/2025 12:31

Deboragh · 17/11/2025 11:51

Ah yet another thread based on the politics of envy..

What are these politics?

CatHairEveryWhereNow · 17/11/2025 12:31

JHound · 17/11/2025 12:28

“The polling of more than 4,000 people suggested that owning a house outright, having more than £1 million in cash savings and earning a six-figure salary were unlikely to make us feel well-off.”

Ok this is just crazy.

Wow - yep that sounds out of touch.

GehenSieweiter · 17/11/2025 12:32

BellesAndGraces · 17/11/2025 12:30

Just because someone on NMW in this country is struggling to do a basic food shop doesn’t mean they’re not richer than the vast majority of the rest of the world, in relative terms.

Are you quoting the wrong person?