This week I was away on holiday for 5 days with some of my closest friends. We all met through our partners who are best mates but in the few years I’ve known them they have become some of the people I trust the most.
Whilst drunk everyone somehow spiralled into a conversation about our partners worst traits, none of them escaped without insult but some got it worse than others, mainly my DH. It seems there was unanimous agreement that he is cocky, tries to hard to be funny, is a bit mean to his mates etc.
I agree that he can come across a bit cocky at times and he does get anxious about not being as funny as his mates but I don’t feel like he’s actually that mean to them, or no more mean than they are to him. It’s made me feel a bit weird as while everyone took a bit of a bashing for the others it was more like “haha isn’t it funny how if he’s drunk he just totally disassociates like he’s disconnected from the server” or “sometimes his jokes are really dark” less actual character assassination.
In the moment I didn’t say anything and like I said we were all drunk but now I am home it’s made me feel a little strange, how do we all meet up as a group in the future when I know so many of them just don’t like him?
AIBU to feel a bit confused and weirded out by this? What would you do going forward?