To think your Baby Registry list should be limited after #1

[Outside9]

I often receive baby registry lists as I'm in that phase of life. It shocks me how so many of my friends and relatives, who are on their 2nd or 3rd child+, have such extensive registry lists you would think it was their 1st child.

(Obviously this doesn't necessarily apply to those with big age gaps or surprise accidents).

I have one friend who is having their 2nd, (1st just turned 4) and she has everything from prams, to baby bath etc. My cousin, who about to have her 4th child in (oldest child is 5!!l ) also has something similar. When I had my 2nd, people thought it was strange when I said all I really needed was nappies and wipes. Think it will be the same 3rd time round.

Granted there are standalone items that are needed; naturally you need an additional car seat, or the bottles and changing matt are worn out. But outside of that, if you knew you always intended to have more than one child, surely you should've kept all the baby stuff?

It's Friday, so may as well kill time by getting torn apart by this section. AIBU?

What fresh hell is this? Baby registry lists! Really.

When I had my first my work colleagues did a whipround and bought me some baby clothes and a bath thing of their choice and my parents and in laws said they would put some money towards a pram & car seat.

I've never even heard of a "baby registry list"

Who are these people and how do they send out this list?

Are you in UK? I’ve never heard of this.

Eh?

I've never heard of this either!

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Baby Registry List!?!?

Are you in the UK? Because a registry is not something I've ever seen for any baby with any of my friends or family.

Surely the British attitude is if you want it, bloody buy it yourself 😂

Are you in the US? We don’t do that here in the uk thankfully!

I do go to baby showers and I take a nice gift but if I were ever presented with a "baby registry" I think I'd come down with a mysterious illness on baby shower day 🤣

The only people I know in the UK who have done a baby registry are Americans... Maybe it's A Thing in that culture which is slowly making its way over here in the way like elaborate Halloween celebrations are?
I would be a bit 🤔 about a baby registry for a second or third child, especially if the family were affluent/appeared financially comfortable.
I personally would have been mortified to do a baby registry including for a first child.

I would simply refuse. I reused my first borns for my second born. All I needed I was a car seat & cot mattress. Just greedy.

I’m in the uk and one of my friend’s daughters recently had a gift list for her new baby. I love her to pieces but I didn’t participate in the list.

Baby registry list?! Never heard of such a thing, how ridiculous.
I've two kids btw, since when do you make a list of things for people to buy you for your own baby?!
If they want to get you something off their own back, ok of course that's nice, thank you and all that, but to write a list of what you want? Eh, no.

Not a UK thing. Never seen this. Most similar thing as a babyshower, or a babyshower where all invitees are encouraged to chip in for a joint gift (pram)

The only list I’ve ever been sent for a baby was my out of touch brother in law who sent a list (15 years ago now) with nothing cheaper than £50 on it (which was obviously more expensive than £50 is these days). He was living mortgage free, he had his wife both had individual salaries more than double our combined salary and he had bought a teddy bear for your two children when they’d been born (that we were most grateful for and hadn’t asked for anything). He was most put out when we clubbed up with other brother in law to buy one item between us because we also intended to buy a nice outfit and teddy when the baby was born.

People who present you with a baby registry are grabby fuckers and you should ignore them. Obviously if you want to buy them something and have asked for suggestions, a mixture of items is helpful to choose from.

I've never heard of such a thing?! I'm here in the UK. I didn't need anything with baby number 2 apart from nappies and wipes! I had my original pushchair, car seat, toys etc. Do we think some people are selling them instead of saving them?

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Yes I'm in the UK! London specifically.

I mean sometimes they're also called Baby Wishlist? But it's pretty common in my life

I'm actually quite a surprised so many have said this isn't a thing. Perhaps generational or cultural?

My youngest is 2 and I’ve never heard of this either. Very few baby showers either.

I should have added that many of my friends/ family also have "baby sprinkles" i.e. kinda like a mini-baby shower.

I've been invited to a close friend's that is £60 for set menu dinner. As they are close, its awkward to say no.

I have never been to a baby shower. None of my adult children had them either.

I have never heard of a baby registry either.

Oh jeez. Is this the logical conclusion from the madness that is baby showers???

(see also: ‘gender’ reveal nonsense, week-long hen holidays etc).

Yes, I feel old (young Gen X). And I thank fuck I am.

I have neither heard of a baby registry and certainly not baby sprinkles.

I have been to one babyshower in my life. That was in my workplace and consisted of seven people and was as informal as you could get.

WTAF????? 🤦🏼‍♀️

Is this a cultural or upper class thing. Ive never heard of it in the UK.

You have the baby - you pay for it. Baby showers are tacky enough without a fucking registry - or a ‘sprinkle.’ 🙄