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The Sara Sharif case: what is the point of taxpayers funding these failing organisations?

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softstone · 13/11/2025 18:15

This appalling case has highlighted catastrophic failures of many organisations. If I failed in my job to this extent I would be sacked and possibly jailed. Yet the upshot of this report seems to be oh dear yes it’s a terrible shame, never mind.

Why is my tax funding these useless departments? This is not part of the social contract. We’re supposed to live in a civilised society. It’s awful.

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Bambamhoohoo · 13/11/2025 19:04

I find it utterly bizarre you’ve decided the problem is your tax paying for a failed social services case.

tax, really?

peakedat40 · 13/11/2025 19:05

IdaGlossop · 13/11/2025 18:46

Although mistakes were made by so many professionals in this case, I wonder if there isn't a bigger issue to be debated than mere competence. The cases that are reported, most recently this one and Axel Rudakubana, are about behaviour at the very limits of human experience. I question whether it is reasonable to expect state institutions to save people.

I keep wondering that.

AR was clearly a troubled individual but we can’t lock people away indefinitely for being weird, or holding views the majority find distasteful and harmful.

Charley50 · 13/11/2025 19:06

I think if any agency is to blame, it’s the children’s courts that gave her violent and abusive father custody.

ainsleysanob · 13/11/2025 19:06

VikaOlson · 13/11/2025 18:58

It's easy to just say that the social workers were incompetent, but if you don't identify the actual problem, you can't fix it.
"Just hire competent people" isn't a solution when recruitment and retention in social work is such a problem.
If social workers are supposed to have 15 children and they have 30, then children will be endangered.
And if all the social workers are newly qualified supervised by social workers with a couple of years experience then of course competence is an issue. Why do you think there are so few very experienced social workers in child protection?

You can absolutely say that they are incompetent, the heads of this specific councils Social Services department ARE incompetent. Not just the social workers who are doing the visiting or the home schooling team but all of them. You can’t truly fix an issue unless you admit to what the issue is. It isn’t a simple mistake, it is incompetence from the top down so treat it as such.

Bambamhoohoo · 13/11/2025 19:12

peakedat40 · 13/11/2025 19:05

I keep wondering that.

AR was clearly a troubled individual but we can’t lock people away indefinitely for being weird, or holding views the majority find distasteful and harmful.

I think it comes back to the premise of the thread.

do people really believe that social services stop every child being killed by their abusers? Do they think that’s what should happen in reality?

social services are an agency amongst others who protect children.

the police protect the public. Do we expect the police to prevent every crime? Clearly not. What’s the difference?

this black and white A CHILD MUST NEVER DIE isn’t great for the nuanced conversation about making sure social services do the very best job they can. Which they’re not. Do we want them to do the best job or to aim for no dead children ever?

because unrealistic expectations are destined to fail. And in the meantime they’re not doing the best they can, they’re wasting time on an impossible dream.

BeetrootBean · 13/11/2025 19:12

MollyMollyMandy33 · 13/11/2025 18:56

Social workers on the ground are frequently held to account. In most serious case reviews, it is found that unmanageable caseloads are a significant factor. These terrible tragedies are rarely as simple as to be fault of individual social workers, but massive institutional and organizational failure. The likely reality is that the social workers who visited probably had several other serious and urgent cases to deal with, and little time. They probably make difficult choices and carry considerable and uncertain risk every day.
I am not a social worker, but I’ve worked closely with them. I know many who are deeply caring individuals trying to do their best in an increasingly challenging and complex environment with overwhelming demand. I think that saying they can just ‘clock off’ is quite offensive. On the contrary, the ones I know well go to bed at night worrying if they’ve made the right decisions, or not.
A witch-hunt won’t help anyone. The people who should be held to account are those who fund our struggling public services.

I don’t care you find my comment ‘offensive’, we are well within our rights to criticise how public servants operate (I’m one myself).

The folks who didn’t follow through with their visit two days before her death weren’t even social workers. Why didn’t they take the extra time to visit when it was their mistake (rather than a family not being at home, for example)? That’ll be for them to explain.

WRT local authorities, like you, I’ve witnessed how social workers operate. I simply take a different view to you. Some of them are fantastic and caring, but stretched. Some of them are unsatisfactory. Others are actively bad at their jobs and family don't seem to like children very much from how they interact with families.

There needs to be some responsibility taken by safeguarding and other professionals. Negligence is negligence.

There have been multiple failures in Sara’s case and it’s not just social workers who have to answer for themselves.

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 13/11/2025 19:13

MrsBennetsPoorNervesAreBack · 13/11/2025 18:25

She had already been identified as being at risk. They shouldn't have been allowed to home school her in those circumstances imo, but I do think it makes sense to have safeguarding checks for home educated children. Who else is going to check on them?

I agree 100% about checking on home schooled children. IMO it’s far too easy for parents to opt out of mainstream education. Quite apart from neglect and/or abuse, someone should surely check that all such parents are competent to teach their children.

PumpkinTwistyWindToots · 13/11/2025 19:13

IdaGlossop · 13/11/2025 19:01

Pretty much, yes, I do, because the themes don't change: poor record-keeping, reasons that argue against intervention, inadequate cover and handover arrangements, lack of supervision, ineffective inter-agency working, inexperienced staff. But as I have said in a previous post, I'm not certain state agencies will ever be able to prevent behaviour beyond the comprehension of most of us.

I've worked in the system since 2003. I assure you things are really very different. The main issues we have are under funding, staff shortages and inexperienced workforce. That's a systemic issue that could be addressed by central government providing funding for training and running costs of departments but nobody wants to.

Jasperis · 13/11/2025 19:16

They're short staffed because the caseload grows and people don't want to pay. Those who vote for cuts to public services, this is the result.

WinterIng2025 · 13/11/2025 19:17

I think the issue is that we aren't funding them enough. And yes the blame is with the parents.

Dollymylove · 13/11/2025 19:18

The father was awarded custody despite the authorities, social services and teachers knowing that she was in danger . There had been many reports of abuse within the family. The case was shown on a documentary and it was absolutely heartbreaking what that little girl went through.
Heads need to roll but I wont hold my breath 😡

IdaGlossop · 13/11/2025 19:19

Charley50 · 13/11/2025 18:59

ITV news just reported that her suddenly wearing a hijab and being fully covered wasn’t questioned due to worry about accusations of Islamaphobia. See how damaging this concept is?

Fear of bring seen as racist is also seen as a major factor in the rape gangs. I still worry about an incident 15 years ago when my DD was in Y5. I was a parent helper when her class went swimming. One day the teacher asked me to supervise the girls' changing room. In a school with lots of Pakistani Muslim boys and a few Pakistani Muslim girls, one girl wore a hijab. When she got dressed and undressed, she stood out because, unlike the other girls, she was very aware of her body, stretching and turning in a way that looked sexualised. I wondered what might be happening at home but said nothing at school because I didn't want to be seen as racist and my evidence was slight. Now, I would say something because the one little thing we do might be the thing that saves a child.

Vitriolinsanity · 13/11/2025 19:22

DontGoJasonWaterfalls · 13/11/2025 18:19

They're going to implement pointless controls on home education and say lessons have been learned... Until it happens to another child and then they'll have to find a different scapegoat. The cycle will just continue on and on, there will always be someone or something else to shift focus away from their failings.

I’ve just heard some talking head saying there should be monitoring for HS kids WHERE THERE ARE SAFEGUARDING CONCERNS. I was yelling at the radio. Surely if there is any group of kids mandatorily monitored as a routine it’s those that are HS. 99% of those kids will be probably fine, but if I was an HS parent I’d be happy with this level of scrutiny.

CoffeeSparkle · 13/11/2025 19:22

It’s the neighbours hearing her scream, and doing nothing.

I could never stand by.

IdaGlossop · 13/11/2025 19:26

PumpkinTwistyWindToots · 13/11/2025 19:13

I've worked in the system since 2003. I assure you things are really very different. The main issues we have are under funding, staff shortages and inexperienced workforce. That's a systemic issue that could be addressed by central government providing funding for training and running costs of departments but nobody wants to.

It's good to hear from the inside that things have improved. I worry every time there is a crisis like this one because it will deter people from joining your profession. The funding issue comes back down to willingness or otherwise to pay tax. Even in times of plenty, child protection wouldn't be top of the list.

Greysofa · 13/11/2025 19:27

fosterma · 13/11/2025 18:49

I'm in this system. foster carers are leaving droves due lack of support for the children we care for. Parents are prioritised over the children, social workers can be totally useless or just don't care

There is crisis and nothing is being done and no one is being held to account

We desperately need more foster carers and more people that care

I’m in this system also and have been for many years and have come across very few social workers who don’t care or are totally useless. What doesn’t help is we are in a society 2nd, 3rd and 4th generation of people who cannot parent to a good enough standard. Due to this and the amount of placements required, children are spread over the country as there aren’t enough placements in the area. These have to be visited regularly, which may mean a social worker is out of the office for 2 days due to the distance travelled. Then we have the lack of funding for prevention services so no work is done at a lower level. Caseloads are high and reliance on agency staff is also high, these can and do leave at the drop of a hat.
That’s before we even begin to consider the current climate of certain cultures being untouchable. Lets not forget, it was the evil father and step mother who killed the child, not the social workers

VikaOlson · 13/11/2025 19:28

Vitriolinsanity · 13/11/2025 19:22

I’ve just heard some talking head saying there should be monitoring for HS kids WHERE THERE ARE SAFEGUARDING CONCERNS. I was yelling at the radio. Surely if there is any group of kids mandatorily monitored as a routine it’s those that are HS. 99% of those kids will be probably fine, but if I was an HS parent I’d be happy with this level of scrutiny.

If there are safeguarding concerns, why aren't the children being monitored anyway?

user1471453601 · 13/11/2025 19:29

things like this will continue to happen while ever we believe politicians that tell us we can get decent services (health care, education, SEND provision ect) on the cheap. So nobody has to.pay more in tax to fund state provision that they say they care about. All that's needed is more "efficiency" in these services.

if people really care, they need to accept that to get decent provision for vulnerable people, we have to pay for it. Which means we pay more tax.

so it's a choice. Accept the status quo, or pay people for doing the jobs we care about and employ them in enough numbers that ensure they are not overwhelmed.

MaidOfSteel · 13/11/2025 19:30

The parents are to blame, first and last. But there could’ve been so much more done to stop terrible people like Sara’s father & stepmother from having custody of her in the first place.

Ultimately, it all comes down to funding. All our public services are under-funded, short of staff (especially experienced ones) and working with old technology that isn’t fit for purpose and isn’t joined up across all the services. I know it’s easy to criticise social workers, the police etc, but I don’t think we can till we’ve walked a mile in their shoes.

PumpkinTwistyWindToots · 13/11/2025 19:32

IdaGlossop · 13/11/2025 19:26

It's good to hear from the inside that things have improved. I worry every time there is a crisis like this one because it will deter people from joining your profession. The funding issue comes back down to willingness or otherwise to pay tax. Even in times of plenty, child protection wouldn't be top of the list.

There are always new social workers coming through university but not enough of them and if I'm honest, not enough high quality. Social work education should be fully funded and highly competitive, just like nursing should. It baffles me that governments withdraw funding for these essential training courses.

IdaGlossop · 13/11/2025 19:35

PumpkinTwistyWindToots · 13/11/2025 19:32

There are always new social workers coming through university but not enough of them and if I'm honest, not enough high quality. Social work education should be fully funded and highly competitive, just like nursing should. It baffles me that governments withdraw funding for these essential training courses.

A friend's daughter, excellent social worker material I would have thought, went into social work. After a few years, she retrained as a teacher, disillusioned by funding issues and high case load. I imagine the churn rate is quite high in social work, as it is in teaching.

Colinfromaccounts · 13/11/2025 19:42

Has anyone explained why the father was given full custody despite having been physically abusive to both his ex wife and Sara?

I assume the mother was unfit in some way, but what if she wasn’t?

why is a child ever given to a parent who has been known to physically abuse them?

EilonwyWithRedGoldHair · 13/11/2025 19:43

Anakan · 13/11/2025 18:40

Actually saving children is extremely difficult because of a lack of will to take them away, cos this costs. There aren't enough funding for housing, fostering, therapy, many end up on the street. It's all down to funding. I don't agree we as a society should not do anything but only say oh it's the parents. I'm willing to pay more to have better safeguarding, better out omes for these poor souls . Hope you read that labour analysts.

It's not only about the costs, it's also that it's incredibly damaging to the child to be removed from their family, and the care system is inadequate and has poor outcomes.

softstone · 13/11/2025 19:43

I’m not blaming individual employees. I’m sure the jobs are demanding and underfunded. I am blaming the ‘system’. If one department fails it should be impossible for the next and the next and the next to fail also.

Of course the parents are responsible. But there will always be evil people living in this world and it is our job, collectively as a nation, to protect children from them. It seems like a massive system failure to me - that’s what I’m angry about.

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