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The Sara Sharif case: what is the point of taxpayers funding these failing organisations?

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softstone · 13/11/2025 18:15

This appalling case has highlighted catastrophic failures of many organisations. If I failed in my job to this extent I would be sacked and possibly jailed. Yet the upshot of this report seems to be oh dear yes it’s a terrible shame, never mind.

Why is my tax funding these useless departments? This is not part of the social contract. We’re supposed to live in a civilised society. It’s awful.

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IdaGlossop · 13/11/2025 18:36

AutumnLover1989 · 13/11/2025 18:16

"Lessons will be learned"...until next time. Makes me sick 😡

I was a teenager when the Maria Caudwell case was being reported on in the mid-1970s. This case and every case since have used the line 'Lessons will be learnt.'

ThatJollyGreySquid · 13/11/2025 18:39

BeetrootBean · 13/11/2025 18:23

The one that got me is the idiots who went the wrong house and decided they wouldn’t bother at all. Those two people in particular could have saved Sara’s life.

So heartbreaking to hear things like this.

And the fact that there are no professional accounts or criminal consequences for such negligence makes people think they can just clock off, and if anything goes wrong, they’ll pass the buck somewhere else.

Social work teams in particular are never held to account it seems. They seem to fail in every direction.

Edited

The computer hadn’t been updated with the new address. I am not sure how that was their fault.

VikaOlson · 13/11/2025 18:39

IdaGlossop · 13/11/2025 18:35

There were two of them? Even worse. This shows lack of ownership in a big way. I think most of us, finding ourselves in the wrong place for a work commitment, would find out the address of the right place and shift our arses over there immediately. How must they feel, knowing they could have saved her?

They rescheduled the appointment for September.

It was an education team, not a safeguarding visit. Most home educators don't accept home visits anyway, they prefer yearly email/written contact.

There's no reason to think they'd have been invited in anyway.

DontGoJasonWaterfalls · 13/11/2025 18:39

MrsBennetsPoorNervesAreBack · 13/11/2025 18:34

If parents have chosen to "homeschool" their children in order to hide abuse from concerned teachers, which is what happened in Sara's case, then yes, I think it's quite likely that they might be locked away from the world.

Nobody is saying that schools are perfect or that all homeschooling families are abusive. Merely that schools do generate regular contact with adults outside the family who may spot concerns if they are there, whereas homeschooled children don't have those regular contact points.

It isn't for me to determine exactly what the checks should entail.

There is no need to be defensive about it. Nobody is accusing you of anything.

So all children should have visits from social services during the summer holidays? Six weeks is a long time without contact with other adults.

Anakan · 13/11/2025 18:40

VikaOlson · 13/11/2025 18:36

How many children did they save?
You only hear about the failures.
How many cases should each social worker be given? 10, 100, 1000? As many as needed?
How many extra hours should each social worker work? 24/7?

Actually saving children is extremely difficult because of a lack of will to take them away, cos this costs. There aren't enough funding for housing, fostering, therapy, many end up on the street. It's all down to funding. I don't agree we as a society should not do anything but only say oh it's the parents. I'm willing to pay more to have better safeguarding, better out omes for these poor souls . Hope you read that labour analysts.

CryMyEyesViolet · 13/11/2025 18:42

BeetrootBean · 13/11/2025 18:26

No, a child died horrifically because someone couldn’t be bothered. If you get the wrong address, you go to the correct property. If that means working half an hour later than so be it.

What if you’re already working an hour late to manage your workload, so now it’s an hour and a half late. And what if that means no one will be there to pick your children up - do you let them wait outside school alone in the dark?

If these are social workers doing the best they can with the resources they have then still failing, that’s entirely forgiveable, it just their job after all. If they’re sitting in their car all day scrolling Mumsnet instead of checking on their caseload, thats negligent and different.

Snailslide · 13/11/2025 18:42

Are there fewer child social workers per head of population these days, or are there more children living in a vulnerable situation?

Ihatetomatoes · 13/11/2025 18:44

Bagsintheboot · 13/11/2025 18:24

Why is my tax funding these useless departments?

These "useless" departments save thousands of children every year. You just don't hear about it.

You only hear about the thankfully rare cases where they fail.

There will never be a perfect infallible system because a system which is staffed and run by humans is always going to have human error.

This. If you completely shut down "these useless organisations" ie social services, then many, many more children will die at the hands of abusive parents.

Seems worrying about being labelled 'racist' got in the way again, just like for the grooming gangs. The fear over 'racism ' is costing lives and allows children to be abused.

PineappleSunrise · 13/11/2025 18:45

The private sector ain’t gonna do it, and your neighbours won’t either. You make em better or you just sink further into squalor - burning everything down won’t help.

MrsBennetsPoorNervesAreBack · 13/11/2025 18:45

DontGoJasonWaterfalls · 13/11/2025 18:39

So all children should have visits from social services during the summer holidays? Six weeks is a long time without contact with other adults.

It should be risk based. I do think there should be checks during the holidays for children identified as high risk.

For home educated families, the frequency of any checks should be determined by the individual risk assessment. Kids who are clearly thriving and well cared for wouldn't need to be seen often at all. Where there is cause for concern, the visits would need to be more frequent.

Surely this is just basic common sense, isn't it?

IdaGlossop · 13/11/2025 18:46

Bagsintheboot · 13/11/2025 18:24

Why is my tax funding these useless departments?

These "useless" departments save thousands of children every year. You just don't hear about it.

You only hear about the thankfully rare cases where they fail.

There will never be a perfect infallible system because a system which is staffed and run by humans is always going to have human error.

Although mistakes were made by so many professionals in this case, I wonder if there isn't a bigger issue to be debated than mere competence. The cases that are reported, most recently this one and Axel Rudakubana, are about behaviour at the very limits of human experience. I question whether it is reasonable to expect state institutions to save people.

Daisymay8 · 13/11/2025 18:47

The parents killed the poor girl not anyone else.
And if Govs make harsh anti racism laws so people daren’t speak out for fear of being sacked ….

KinshipGran · 13/11/2025 18:47

Poor communication and record keeping appear to have contributed to her being in her father’s violent home, and then being kept there despite the school reporting concerns.

The bureaucracy can be very difficult to deal with. My own experience was addresses wrongly recorded but impossible to track down where or when the error originated in order to correct it.

feellikeanalien · 13/11/2025 18:48

IdaGlossop · 13/11/2025 18:36

I was a teenager when the Maria Caudwell case was being reported on in the mid-1970s. This case and every case since have used the line 'Lessons will be learnt.'

That is exactly the case I thought of when I started reading this thread.

ainsleysanob · 13/11/2025 18:49

It is impossible for social services to be able to save every single child from whatever it is that endangers them. That must be understood. However, I am sick to death of them trotting out the ‘mistakes were made’ excuse. A mistake is dropping a plate, or reversing into an hedge, or charging someone wrong in your shop. These were not ‘mistakes’. They were incompetencies. So, of course there will be incompetent people working for child protection services - but admit that, don’t call them ‘mistakes’, admit to be incompetent and then get better.

fosterma · 13/11/2025 18:49

I'm in this system. foster carers are leaving droves due lack of support for the children we care for. Parents are prioritised over the children, social workers can be totally useless or just don't care

There is crisis and nothing is being done and no one is being held to account

We desperately need more foster carers and more people that care

PumpkinTwistyWindToots · 13/11/2025 18:52

VikaOlson · 13/11/2025 18:34

I see it was the home education team that visited the wrong address anyway, not social workers.

So completely irrelevant really.

Home education workers have no rights to see children or enter homes. Even if they knocked on the right door, no one had to answer the door, talk to them or let them in.

Nor do social workers by the way

PumpkinTwistyWindToots · 13/11/2025 18:54

IdaGlossop · 13/11/2025 18:36

I was a teenager when the Maria Caudwell case was being reported on in the mid-1970s. This case and every case since have used the line 'Lessons will be learnt.'

Lessons ARE learnt, all the time. The system is never perfect but do you really think social care and education have learnt nothing since the 70s??

IdaGlossop · 13/11/2025 18:55

feellikeanalien · 13/11/2025 18:48

That is exactly the case I thought of when I started reading this thread.

I used to work in the insurance sector and learnt a lot about risk and disasters. One factor that has stayed with me is that disasters like Piper Alpha happen as a result of an improbable and therefore unpredictable set of circumstances. That means that lessons cannot by definition be learnt as, contrary to what we may believe, there are not patterns against which to mitigate.

In a case like this one, we could remove any one of a number of factors and predict a different outcome, but there is no guarantee Sara would have been saved. Looking at root causes, though, the factor that most mystified me is the judge agreeing she could live with her father when the extent of his violence was already established.

MollyMollyMandy33 · 13/11/2025 18:56

BeetrootBean · 13/11/2025 18:23

The one that got me is the idiots who went the wrong house and decided they wouldn’t bother at all. Those two people in particular could have saved Sara’s life.

So heartbreaking to hear things like this.

And the fact that there are no professional accounts or criminal consequences for such negligence makes people think they can just clock off, and if anything goes wrong, they’ll pass the buck somewhere else.

Social work teams in particular are never held to account it seems. They seem to fail in every direction.

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Social workers on the ground are frequently held to account. In most serious case reviews, it is found that unmanageable caseloads are a significant factor. These terrible tragedies are rarely as simple as to be fault of individual social workers, but massive institutional and organizational failure. The likely reality is that the social workers who visited probably had several other serious and urgent cases to deal with, and little time. They probably make difficult choices and carry considerable and uncertain risk every day.
I am not a social worker, but I’ve worked closely with them. I know many who are deeply caring individuals trying to do their best in an increasingly challenging and complex environment with overwhelming demand. I think that saying they can just ‘clock off’ is quite offensive. On the contrary, the ones I know well go to bed at night worrying if they’ve made the right decisions, or not.
A witch-hunt won’t help anyone. The people who should be held to account are those who fund our struggling public services.

MrsBennetsPoorNervesAreBack · 13/11/2025 18:57

IdaGlossop · 13/11/2025 18:55

I used to work in the insurance sector and learnt a lot about risk and disasters. One factor that has stayed with me is that disasters like Piper Alpha happen as a result of an improbable and therefore unpredictable set of circumstances. That means that lessons cannot by definition be learnt as, contrary to what we may believe, there are not patterns against which to mitigate.

In a case like this one, we could remove any one of a number of factors and predict a different outcome, but there is no guarantee Sara would have been saved. Looking at root causes, though, the factor that most mystified me is the judge agreeing she could live with her father when the extent of his violence was already established.

Agreed, that was an incomprehensible decision from the judge, given what was known about the father.

VikaOlson · 13/11/2025 18:58

ainsleysanob · 13/11/2025 18:49

It is impossible for social services to be able to save every single child from whatever it is that endangers them. That must be understood. However, I am sick to death of them trotting out the ‘mistakes were made’ excuse. A mistake is dropping a plate, or reversing into an hedge, or charging someone wrong in your shop. These were not ‘mistakes’. They were incompetencies. So, of course there will be incompetent people working for child protection services - but admit that, don’t call them ‘mistakes’, admit to be incompetent and then get better.

It's easy to just say that the social workers were incompetent, but if you don't identify the actual problem, you can't fix it.
"Just hire competent people" isn't a solution when recruitment and retention in social work is such a problem.
If social workers are supposed to have 15 children and they have 30, then children will be endangered.
And if all the social workers are newly qualified supervised by social workers with a couple of years experience then of course competence is an issue. Why do you think there are so few very experienced social workers in child protection?

Charley50 · 13/11/2025 18:59

ITV news just reported that her suddenly wearing a hijab and being fully covered wasn’t questioned due to worry about accusations of Islamaphobia. See how damaging this concept is?

IdaGlossop · 13/11/2025 19:01

PumpkinTwistyWindToots · 13/11/2025 18:54

Lessons ARE learnt, all the time. The system is never perfect but do you really think social care and education have learnt nothing since the 70s??

Pretty much, yes, I do, because the themes don't change: poor record-keeping, reasons that argue against intervention, inadequate cover and handover arrangements, lack of supervision, ineffective inter-agency working, inexperienced staff. But as I have said in a previous post, I'm not certain state agencies will ever be able to prevent behaviour beyond the comprehension of most of us.

peakedat40 · 13/11/2025 19:02

DontGoJasonWaterfalls · 13/11/2025 18:39

So all children should have visits from social services during the summer holidays? Six weeks is a long time without contact with other adults.

The post you quoted clearly says children identified as ‘at risk’ which isn’t all children, it isn’t even close to most children. And yes, I think that’s reasonable as it happens although unlikely in current environment.

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