Does this teacher sound mean?

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Dc in Year 1, she came out of school crying today, very upset. She said the teacher had taken a stamper thing off her and will give it back to her tomorrow afternoon. It was one I got her from a recent holiday, which made her more upset. She said a new boy in the class had asked to use it so she wanted to be kind and gave it him. He apparently was messing about with it and the teacher asked whose it was and took it away. Dd also said today another girl brought a book in to school and was showing Dd, then Dd got told to put it away, in a harsh tone.
She was also doing her homework and got quiet and said she didn’t think the teacher was impressed with her work, I asked why/what made her think that and she said she didn’t know, just a feeling she had.
Does all this sound like usual classroom goings on and Dd just had a bad day?

She came out in floods of tears, I get the teacher removing it, but to say she’ll keep it until the next day at the end of the day does seem not great to me

So you didn't think she should ever be given any consequences? It's one day and to be honest if she's in floods of tears over this I suspect most of that is because she knows she wasn't following the rules rather than the fact the teacher has kept her stamper for one day.

While trying to teach them maths

Gentle discipline isn't mean, it's just normal isn't it?. It doesn't sound unreasonable to take something that isn't allowed and give it back after a day. Your daughter will just have to wait. Life lesson.

Screaming and shouting at the child would be unreasonable.

Just comfort her and learn: Don't take stuff to school. Especially stuff that you'll be sad to lose or not see for a while.

A. It's obviously against the rules of the school by the sounds of it.

B. Risk of never seeing that thing again
My kids were always taking stuff in their bags and things get taken, swapped, dropped and lost forever.

Ps. Thread number 94467 as to why I could NEVER cope with be a teacher 😂

The only harsh part was not returning the stamper at the end of the day.

Believe me things like stampers, gel pens, different erasers, keyrings cause no end of fuss in a classroom more so than a cuddly toy. Young children only need their reading book, diary and water bottle anything else should be kept at home. If they need a reminder draw a little heart on their thumb or pop a little note in their lunchbox to know you are ‘with them and thinking of them’.

FFS ...

Yes it sounds awful and I'm sure it happened exactly as your 5 year old described. Remove her from the school and try to get the teacher fired for these dreadful misdemeanors. Oh and contact The Sun too, you could have a sad face photo and article entitled 'Our Stamper Hell'.

'The teacher is mean' is a pretty childish way of looking at it. Some teachers are stricter than others and you and your daughter will have to get used to that. It's not 'being mean'. The stamper was a distraction. The teacher removed it because the boy messing was messing about with it. Yes, it's unfortunate that it turned out not to be his, but your dd's, but if the teacher's standard practice is to take away until the following day a toy that's being played with during lesson time, then that's what she'll do. Lesson learned - don't hand your toys around in school. She'll have it back tomorrow- it's hardly a huge deal.

I can totally understand why your little girl was upset, OP. These things seem insignificant to us but if we remember our early childhood, they are big events for a youngster.

Teachers sometimes have to make a decisions very quickly and especially if they are trying to get children to understand rules. It’s really not personal, although your daughter might feel a bit persecuted. Reassure her that the teacher has to be strict about some things and that she’d do the same with anyone, Tell her to go to school tomorrow with a big smile, work hard and ask very politely for her stamper at the end of the day. She’ll be fine as king as you don’t encourage her to see it as a personal matter - it’s just a little mistake.

It's like mobiles in secondary.
Keeping until the end of the day is no deterrent as they shouldn't have it out in school anyway. So keep overnight when they do want to use it.

Op. Just don't let her take things into school. Your life will be much easier, nothing getting confiscated, list, broken, stolen, swapped.

Plenty have already said that the teacher sounds fine and keen to ensure a positive learning environment which is a good thing. Remember too that children are terrible witnesses so half of this likely didn’t happen at all like how she’s telling it.

The teacher isn't being mean, YABU to be upset about this minor issue.

Respect the teacher in this situation please.

Its no less annoying OP because its still a novelty that shes likely to mess about with when she shouldnt be, i really dont know why you would let her take a toy into school?
It just isnt the place for it. Something like that is to be played with at home.

This happened to DD1 in Year 1 (she had sneakily put a fancy pencil in her bag). I told her she shouldn’t have things from home in school (even if other people do), and she certainly shouldn’t have them out in lessons. End of conversation. She hasn’t done it since.

No, not mean, just trying to keep the peace.
You'll know a mean teacher when it happens, you'll know by September the 5th, not mid November.
Thankfully with 13 years of school between 2 DC, we've only had one mean teacher.
DS, teacher this year, is fabulous.
He's really pleased with her.

that's why all the primary I know do not allow personal items , can't blame them!

In reception kids are usually allowed to hide their comfort blanket or toy in their bag, then they don't even need them from Y1. Better for everyone.

Your DD has successfully distracted your attention away from her behaviour, hasn’t she?

Gosh what a non event.
Your job as a parent in this situation is to back the teacher, wipe away your daughter’s tears, help her build resilience, and learn from this (very insignificant) situation.

Just don't let her take anything in from home. No distractions for the teacher when he/she is trying to teach 30 children & no upset for the child when it gets taken away.
Really simple.

Exactly.
What unnecessary drama. The child looked a ‘bit sad’.
You should be supporting the school and in particular this teacher, who has 30 children to teach.
Your child wasn’t flogged in the playground! She was given an appropriate punishment for not doing what she was told. Don’t be ‘that’ parent, OP.

Successful parenting!!! Simple strong effective!

Mean! School is there to teach children not to let them play with toys and chat the day away. The teacher has done the right thing and taught your daughter the rules and the consequences of not following them. The fact she came out in floods of tears shows she just isn't used to consequences.

Doesn't sound like the teacher was at all mean at any point. Just reminded her of the rules and took away the distraction. Just a case of letting her clearly and kindly know the expectations. You, as parent, should know better than to allow her to take things like that in. Not only are they a distraction, it is also not the school's responsibility if it is lost, stolen or broken.

I get that it's not nice to see her crying OP but I think the real issue is that it can be a really tough transition to year 1. You need to try to get her though this adjustment and support her with getting used to more formal lessons. Don't make this incident into a big thing.