DSis is skimping on Christmas because she’s obsessed with her Skye trip?

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DSis has announced on the family chat that she’s doing a smaller Christmas this year so she and BIL can save for their big Isle of Skye holiday next summer.
Fine in theory, except last year she happily accepted the tasteful and expensive pile of gifts I bought for them both, and now I am apparently only getting a little token.

DM has already chimed in with something about memories meaning more than materialistic things which pissed me off.

AIBU to think she can save for her holiday without cheaping out on me and the rest of the family?????

I receive nothing for Christmas from any of my family members, your post screams entitled. If you want something buy it yourself?

Honestly you sound pathetic. Hopefully she’ll have a great time on her trip.

You do not get a vote in choosing how much goes into DS’s holiday pot and how much goes onto her Christmas pot.

Christmas is nearly 7 weeks away. She has given you ample notice. If you’ve already purchased a gift—return it.

What is with all the threads moaning about a dsis giving shit Xmas gifts because of saving for a holiday?🤨

I do understand that if you spread the cost of Christmas over the year by buying early, a month’s notice might be too late.

Return or regift anything you’ve already bought, and set a budget for this year. Accept that this might be the pattern for the future and with the money you save, treat yourself and your family instead of hers.

I think a lot of people are feeling like Christmas giving has all got a bit out of hand and would like to scale back.

Yes! Some kind of weird , greedy Christmas troll.

All these people are telling you in advance that they want to do smaller gifts (other thread was the same). That is fine! Do the same. What the hell is the problem here?

One year we said to SIL (or maybe she said to us) ‘ shall we just buy for the kids this year’. And so forth we did. There is nothing to discuss or see here and I’m getting sick of these stupid threads .

I just thought the same

Why do you need more than 7 weeks notice to spend less money than you planned to?

I was just thinking this...

Spent a fortune last year
Suddenly announced smaller budget
Saving for a holiday

Yabu. Greedy and self centred. Of course her holiday is more important than buying you a gift to your standards.
just scale back what you spend. People have too much stuff and she’s right to not get in debt for it

This can’t be for real. I would be pleased.

This is not the Supreme Court, OP. Because you gave her expensive presents last year, doesn't mean you have to do it again. If you need a year's notice, then that's on you for buying expensive presents so far in advance. I only exchange token presents with my parents and siblings -- chocolates, potted hyacinths etc.

This whole “spread the cost of Christmas” business is really unnecessary. Run a sinking fund in a separate account—the net result is the same (or perhaps better, as you’ll earn some interest by not spending too early in the year).

Strange thread

We have a budget of £20. Not money related though. Although I do remember my mum saying last year that my sister and her DH couldn't afford to buy us much

I stopped buying gifts in 1979 when my grandmother died. None of us celebrated that christmas. The following year I went on a 4 week holiday to the far east and told everyone well in advance that I would not be buying gifts save for small tokens. For a few years I still bought small tokens for immediate family. Then I began to go abroad every year. I went to a non christian country to get away from the whole hooha. It took me a few years to train my family but in the end they got it. I was one less person they had to buy tat for.

Nothing wrong with prioritising a unique experience over a load of plastic tat.

Huh? Why do you need notice, if you’ve bought stuff return it. Don’t be so grabby.

It’s Christmas, ffs

Do you check the price of everything you receive to make sure it's equivalent to what you, under no obligation at all, have chosen to spend?

Just buy less this year. Surely if you’ve only just started Christmas shopping you can return stuff or at least get vouchers. Anyway how much have you spent? Even if you do have to give the gifts you planned I’d just do it anyway and spend less next year.

It's just a cutla threads

If you’ve already bought her something can you return it?

😂😂😂

This suggests you’ve already bought her gifts? If so, give to give because you love her and want to treat her - not to receive the same back.

Or take them back for a refund and spend less if it makes you happy.