Husband wants to move to dubai

[Dilemma87]

My husband is a businessman in property and with the recent proposed tax changes and new rules putting limits on how long he can keep doing things from the UK, he’s now saying he needs to move to Dubai and operate from there.

We actually have some friends there, and his business partner is already based out there, so on paper it all sounds easy enough. His plan is to buy a second property in Dubai and move there by himself, while I stay here with the kids.

The problem is, the children are really settled one’s in high school and the other is due to start soon, so moving them just isn’t an option. He’s suggested that we (me and the kids) fly out to Dubai every school holiday to spend time with him.

The catch is, under his visa he can only be out of Dubai for 90 days a year, so he’d basically have to live there full-time.

AIBU to think this is just not going to work long-term? I can’t help but feel like this is the start of living completely separate lives.

At least

At least pp still HAS her ethics and morals. I suppose such things are 🤣 😉 to those such as you. Very 'I'm alright, Jack!'

I understand the issue with the death penalty. I'd only want it applied where the level of evidence is high. As in even higher than reasonable doubt.

It's very clear where you and the children are in his priority list.

Right. I never want it applied, that's an absolute moral boundary for me.

He sounds like a bit of a creep and not very trustworthy.
I would say 'of you go Dave, send the money home, love you..." make sure he is paying all the bills and get yourself set up as a happy, wealthy single mum with an ex overseas.

'No one owes anyone anything' - what disgusting selfishness.

'That's the government's job to sort out' - when has that attitude ever worked? The wat the country runs is everyone's responsibility in a democracy.

I'd want it applied for murderers, the most vile criminals.

Then again I'd understand the arguments against it and always the risk of expecting and innocent

I know how you feel, when you read about terrible crimes it's very tempting. But it's my firm belief that no civilised society can allow killing in that way. I definitely think we need much harsher sentences for the worst crimes. There should be life for rape, child abuse and murder by default. Our prisons are chronically mismanaged and that has to be dealt with.

All of Europe except Belarus has no death penalty and most has lower violent crime than us. There must be other ways to lower crime.

Whole life tariffs? I think this is sensible.

I understand your view as well.

And has a new partner and family....

Do you really believe that the UK is built on the backs of slaves to the extent that Dubai is?

You certainly seem to dislike the UK irrationally. No wonder you want to leave and feel no responsibility to fellow residents...

It will not though. Once he moves and the relationship ends, you will not see any of his money in a divorce. It will all be hidden/ offshore.

Realistically I would be logging info on finances and talking to a solicitor now.

He is proposing a massive move based off Budget speculation - supposedly - rather than facts. But it sounds like this is just something he has wanted to do regardless.

When was the last time things were "good" in the UK?

I always think the New Labour years. Why can't Starmer just replicate why Blair and Brown did on the economy?

They are tax residency rules. Replacing non dom rules. But fairly standard across the globe.

So you think only the economically illiterate, stupid and raging would object to slave labour, sexual exploitation of porta potty sex workers, regressive laws on gay people and adultery, death penalty (Dubai) and death penalty, total abortion bans (US)?

Fascinating.

Do you really believe there are no rational reasons to ethically object to these things?

He sounds such a Prince amongst men 🧐🫣

I don't agree with billionaires and government etc evading tax either! I believe in changing things, not just following the example of the corrupt who evade their responsibilities, my dear.

Slavery and concentrated wealth

Would people's answers be different if OP didn't say the "female friends" thing and instead said what a great committed husband he's been

It would be different if they were thinking about moving as a family unit. But any man who wants to go there on his own and leave his wife and kids is a bad ‘un. Different if it was for shorter periods of time, or in the forces. But just to prioritise money over family is pretty low.

If you care about women's rights, why do you call people idiots for having human rights concerns about Dubai & US?

Ot do you see nothing wrong with porta potty exploitation & exploitation of migrant women workers (Dubai), not to mention potential jail for lesbians, and total abortion bans & legal child marriage in parts of the US?

It’s no surprise that the rich want to leave. If you tax the rich too much they will, rightly, leave.

Your husband wants to leave his family and live as a single man in Dubai, no doubt still keeping control of all the family money. I'd start keeping a close watch on what money and assets he has where and getting statements of this. I suspect you'll need it soon.

Or they will, like many do, pay their taxes. They will still be rich.