Absolute CF. I know IANBU but sharing anyway.

[JeffTheSquirrel]

I bought 3 tickets to a show this weekend, for me & DD + a friend of her choice. I paid for them all (£50+ each) but told the mum of invited friend that I didn’t want any contribution. All good.

Now the friend unfortunately can’t make it (legit reason). I mentioned that I’d probably be able to sell ticket as it’s very popular, so no worries (as it happens, another friend has accepted a late invite).

The mum of original invitee asked me to transfer the cost of the ticket to her, so she can treat her DD for missing out.

Eh??

I mean that’s batshit, right?

Sorry ur DD can’t make it - I said I would cover the cost of her ticket but if there has been a misunderstanding & you sent me the money can you tell me date & will transfer it back - checked my bank statement & I couldn’t see anything

or keep it simple

No

'Hi, don't worry about the ticket money, I was happy to cover all the tickets as a treat for dd. Dd's friend xx will now be using third ticket. Hope your dd is well.'

So by her logic if you were going to treat friend to a family holiday as company for your dd and friend could no longer make it, her mum would expect you to reimburse her the cost of the holiday (she wasn’t even paying for)?

Mad! She must've assumed she paid you for it, although nothing would surprise me really!

I’d keep it light ‘Hi - just a reminder that you didn’t pay for the ticket, I did.’

Oh, they so need to introduce CFery as a new sport in the Olympics! That and an eagerly-contested event to feed the most people possible from one small chicken.

Oh I like this one!

Absolute madness. Please come back to us once you’ve replied and she gets back to you.

We're long overdue another Classics-worthy CF thread. CF threads are the single finest feature on here, with parking threads a close second!

Bonkers....but nothing surprises me anymore.

Thank you for making me laugh out loud during my break. Sorry, DD friend's mum was rude. Hope she just forgot she hadn't paid for them

Wowser
That is fuckery of the highest order

Refund what money? You didn't pay me anything as it was a gift...

I agree that I reckon this is the thinking - nothing to do with wanting a refund because she's forgotten she didn't pay. She just thinks her daughter is entitled to the 'gift' OP was giving her one way or another...

I haven’t RTT but occurs to me her daughter could have asked for the money to give you like a sneaky person? It’s otherwise just too batshit?

As PPs have said, in the first instance I would give benefit of doubt and assume the CF either thinks she transferred the money or gave it to her DD to pass on. If not the case then proceed accordingly with one of the outstanding suggestions here!

"Of course! I've transferred the full amount you paid"
Then sit back and wait for her to realise.

Although given you want to remain amicable for dd I'd probably bite my tongue and go with "sorry, I'm a bit confused? You didn't pay me anything for the ticket so I can't refund you money you never sent."

Tbh I think she's still being a bit of a cf to expect the money back even if she had paid! She's still dropping out and leaving your dd disappointed and you with the hassle of reselling the ticket. She doesn't know you actually got someone to go quite easily. If she'd paid herself she wouldn't be entitled to a full refund and would have to make the effort to find someone to buy it off her, and likely not at full price.

Blimey - she is a CF of the highest order!

Omg the cheek of some people 😳

ask her for her bank details and then transfer her 1p and message to say you sent a bit extra so that she can treat herself too

Would also go for benefit of the doubt and express confusion that she hasn't actually paid.
Anything else is a bit childish and will cause needless strife.

Here for her response!

Madness!

I don’t very often “watch” posts, but I’m unashamedly here for the update!!

Also amazed by the CF-ery. Amazed and confused.

Let us know what you send and what she replies. Do tell her she was being a cf