Absolute CF. I know IANBU but sharing anyway.

[JeffTheSquirrel]

I bought 3 tickets to a show this weekend, for me & DD + a friend of her choice. I paid for them all (£50+ each) but told the mum of invited friend that I didn’t want any contribution. All good.

Now the friend unfortunately can’t make it (legit reason). I mentioned that I’d probably be able to sell ticket as it’s very popular, so no worries (as it happens, another friend has accepted a late invite).

The mum of original invitee asked me to transfer the cost of the ticket to her, so she can treat her DD for missing out.

Eh??

I mean that’s batshit, right?

This gets my vote. Succinct and ‘crisp’.

😂

no judgment on creative writing OP, the people just want answers from the chicken fucker in the next 40 minutes! 😂

I can't actually believe someone can be this bold. She's a total brass neck.

I'd go with:

"Let me clarify: your daughter received an invitation to an event I paid for, and you didn't have to pay me back. She can't make it. You now ask me to double my contribution and pay you for your child not attending, i.e.: to pay twice, essentially? I think you're mistaken in your maths."

Also what a charmer, I'd stay well clear of her at the school gates and forever (and ever)! And tell all mum friends 😄

Wow op!! This mum is a nutter. And you were trying to do something kind!
Reminds me of Judge Judy's famous phrase: no good deed goes unpunished!

Oh my golly gosh. What an absolute weirdo! I’m loving the replies 😆

They walk among us……

Does the girl have any siblings? If so, I wouldn't put it past the mum to be claiming that, now she's 'established' that you 'owe' her £50 for a replacement treat for her daughter, it'll be entirely your fault when her daughter's little sister gets upset that she can't enjoy the treat as well... so really, morally, you actually owe her £100 - especially as it was so clearly your fault that you made her older daughter an offer that she turned down!

I was just going to post that I'd love to see this CF explaining her reasoning to Judge Judy!

They do live amongst us. I've had similar with a cinema trip for my DD and in the end had to be extremely blunt and used the phrase "get to fuck" for the first time ever.

Cant wait for the response to this...

I love this thread and your replies.

I’m rather disappointed that there isn’t a Zinger Stacker and I’ll be asking for a refund

I am FLOORED op. You’ve handled it brilliantly though!

This is - and I know OP said it in the first post - absolutely batshit.

I've always wanted to use the old mumsnet reply 'are you on glue?'...this feels like the perfect scenario!

YES!

😂😂😂

I cannot believe this thread. I do believe it but I cannotttt how do these people exist in society so shamelessly 😂

How about 'to clarify, I paid 150 for the 3 tickets but as your daughter couldn't come you would like me to pay you £50. This means I would have paid 200 in total and in effect would have paid your daughter for not coming along. I think that you have this the wrong way around and in fact according to your math, this means that you now owe me 200 to cover all my expenses in relation to this event, as your daughter was unable to attend. Shall I send you my bank details? '

Just read all of your updates! Unbelievable cf! I honestly thought...misunderstanding. But nope, she wants £50 to console her daughter with, for not accepting your invitation!!! I'm positively annoyed on your behalf. Think you're going to have to stop inviting her daughter anywhere, and possibly block the mum.

I'm doing a stupid thing and trying to understand CF's reasoning...does she think that the ticket belonged to her daughter so if it gets given to someone else, her daughter should have the price of it? She'd be wrong if that's where she's coming from. I can't fathom trying to benefit from someone trying to do something nice for my child.

@Dontbeme
we have Mumsnet gin!

"My daughter is so upset we have had to cancel, please transfer 150 quid as YOU have broken your promise that your DD would attend"

Chuck it right back at her OP

Omg OP - to put this into perspective my SIL gifted my DD a ticket to a big show for her Xmas present, but on the day couldn’t make it as she had a vomiting bug. One of her cousin’s pals took the ticket last minute and had a free night out, or maybe paid my SIL for it, I dunno. I’m just glad the ticket didn’t go to waste, and I made sure my DD didn’t feel like she had missed out, so everyone was happy in the end. It’s obviously not ideal, but we make the best of things xx