Absolute CF. I know IANBU but sharing anyway.

[JeffTheSquirrel]

I bought 3 tickets to a show this weekend, for me & DD + a friend of her choice. I paid for them all (£50+ each) but told the mum of invited friend that I didn’t want any contribution. All good.

Now the friend unfortunately can’t make it (legit reason). I mentioned that I’d probably be able to sell ticket as it’s very popular, so no worries (as it happens, another friend has accepted a late invite).

The mum of original invitee asked me to transfer the cost of the ticket to her, so she can treat her DD for missing out.

Eh??

I mean that’s batshit, right?

Bugger, I hoped she was going to let us all down by saying Oh, of course I didn't pay, silly me. You're going to have to explain Op - it wasn't her DC birthday, you didn't buy her a gift, you wanted a friend to go out with your DD so you bought an extra ticket, her DD can't go so the deal is off, no company, no ticket and certainly no money. Why the fuck would you give someone else's child £50 for no real reason, it would be a lot for a birthday never mind just for the sake of it.
Sadly, I can see your DD losing a friend over this, the girl probably won't make a fuss but you can bet her DM will/

"I didn't give your daughter a ticket, I offered her the opportunity to accompany my daughter to the event. Sadly, she couldn't go, so someone else did."

OP I think you need to spell it out for her!

Ouch at that response.
I'd be replying ' think there's a misunderstanding . I bought tickets and thought it would be nice for your DD to join us. As she can't make it, we've invited someone else to ensure the ticket isn't wasted"

Has she got a gambling problem and has lost her fucking mind, it’s the only thing I can think for this level of cheeky fuckery.

Cf at its finest.

I would go along with something like:

’I bought 3 tickets one for myself and for my daughter and a friend of her choice. Your daughter was first choice but unfortunately can not attend so another friend will be invited. I paid for all tickets so I am unsure where the confusion is coming from that I owe your daughter money now due to her not being able to attend. I will not be giving your daughter any money for a ticket that I paid for. Hope that’s cleared up now. Have a good evening.’

“You’ve paid for nothing, you’re owed nothing, you’re getting nothing.” That would be my reply.

She's acting as though the ticket were a gift and therefore the property of her daughter. Totally nuts, of course. Amazing how easy some people find it to make such ridiculous assumptions and requests.

‘I didn’t ‘give’ x the ticket, I invited her to join us. She isn’t able to so we’ve invited someone else. Hope that’s clear now’

The absolute cheek of her!! 😡 some excellent responses here i would send one then distance myself

I think I understand actually - she thinks the ticket was a gift to her daughter, no different to if you bought her a new book or a pair of shoes so the ticket is HERS vs in the real world where we'd see the daughter as being HOSTED by you and your dd.

Bizarre. Is it cultural? I starting to wonder if they have little money and this mum was just desperate for the treat for her DD that now can't happen. I actually sort of feel sorry for her if that's the case.

She’s bonkers!

By her reasoning, if you invited the friend to sunday lunch at your house, but she couldn't come, then you would need to send her the equivalent cost of the food.
I will need to be wary of inviting anyone over for a meal now. If they can't come I will need to send them the money - so they don't miss out !

And rude.

I’m sorry, really sweating here😂

Send this

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

This is spot on and exactly what I would say in response. This mother is such a doughball, I feel sorry for her DD!

This!!!

Wow this is unbelievable!!

Even if money is tight for this other family, you can't just go around requesting money from people who were kind enough to offer your daughter a special treat, no matter how disappointed she may be if she can't attend. That's just not acceptable.

This is perfect.

The actual audacity though!

JFC - I think this wins the prize for must cheekiest cheeky fuckery I’ve ever seen on MN

Wow YANBU what a prize CF.

"That's not how it works, I was happy to pay for (friend) to come with us to be a companion for (dd) and I'm sorry she can't make it but I'm not going to pay for a different treat for her. We will look forward to treating (friend) to some other nice day out or event with (dd) next time there is a fun opportunity that they can enjoy together."

Unbelievable

you don’t owe her anything

I’d be embarrassed that I’d let you down and you were out of pocket