‘Just the meat for me please’ Sunday Lunch issue ’

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SIS and BIL coming for Sunday Lunch, bringing DN and her BF- recently engaged.
Got a little gift for them and card etc, my parents were coming any way so invited Sunday for food as makes sense.

SIS has just WhatsApped to say jokingly that the BF -mega gym bunny - ‘doesn’t do potatoes and trimmings- but don’t worry he’ll just pile his plate high with meat’
Im doing a couple chickens and a gammon between us all so plenty for everyone alongside stuffing, veg, Yorkies , gravey, cauliflower cheese etc but definitely not for a huge piled up plate of just meat!

I replied lightheartedly to SIS to this effect and she’s not a happy camper at all.
Just texted to say wants him to feel welcome so will bring him a couple of raw pork chops or similar to fry - I’ve said bring them cooked and sliced already in a Tupperware as I won’t be frying chops with all the carnage of the roast going on and my parents milling about under my feet ‘helping’

Shes voice noting at the moment can see the symbol
honestly am I just old or a shit hostess or is this how guests who barely know their hosts I might add expect to be catered for ???

I mean veggie/vegan all power to you
but a plate piled up of meat for lunch seems a bit full on to me ??

Is ‘on a cut’ a new term for disordered eating and restrictive dieting, but made to sound like something more manly?

What a CF Is he human or feline? Does he want it served raw? 😆😆

People like that are uncouth and dragged up.
Yanbu to raise your eyeballs at your sister and the twat shd is with.

If he's that bloody obsessed that he can't navigate one meal, he should eat beforehand.

I would be mortified at a family member thinking this is even mildly acceptable to raise with me when I am hosting.

Basic manners to turn up, eat, be appreciative and leave.

You are not a restaurant.

I'd rescind the invitation. I'm happy to accommodate guests, including cooking meat even though I'm vegetarian but I haven't got time for this bullshit. If he can bring his own avocado and mayonnaise he can bring his own bloody chicken. I'm actually laughing my head off at how crazy people are these days.

I’d be more concerned about the cost. When I do a roast, we have the leftovers the next day. It’s my free meal! So I wouldn’t be happy with someone else hoovering up all the meat. It’s not exactly cheap is it?!

Once he’s gone yes - I Imagine they will get plenty of mileage out of it

I would find it really off putting watching someone eat just a plate of meat. I also think it is a complete liberty to expect to eat this way in someone else’s home. If you’re that fussy (and expensive) you should decline meal invitations.

I have several really inconvenient dietary restrictions and am always happy to eat part of a meal. Expecting a whole chicken for one person in a cost of living crisis is rude, whoever is expecting it.

Your niece is clearly trying hard to please him. But you don’t have to. He should eat what is put in front of him and like it

The cost is fine - but I get you totally x

It’s the words “he’ll pile his plate high” isn’t it? Not “can he have a bit extra meat/ will there be enough”, not waiting to be offered or “he’ll just have some meat” but the entitlement that this man can choose to pile his plate high without thinking of others.

That’s a good point.

In most other circumstances I think people would consider someone eating a whole chicken plus extra meat to be binge eating. But when it’s a gym-going male, it’s suddenly acceptable to some?

I have what most people would consider a strange diet. When I am in someone else's house I eat what I am given. I make no demands. It is rude.

To be fair, it might be the neice making these demands on his behalf and he would be mortified if he knew. A certain type of woman take great pleasure in giving penis portions and insisting on lots of meat for their manly man.

Completely off topic but i remember in keto days everyone's breath was awful. Don't get too close OP 😄

Serve the meat portion of the meal yourself to everyone in the kitchen not at the table.

Take the plates of meat to the dining room where all the trimmings and sides are set out.

If he wants something else to eat you can tell him politely that there is plenty of food at the table and to help himself.

It's extremely rude to dictate to a host that you want more food , in this case meat, than other guests.

Fuck off is a sentence.

He’ll just have to have the same amount of meat as everyone else and no veg then. If he wants more meat he can bring it himself. I eat a fairly strict diet, but if I eat at someone else’s house I go with what they serve. Any protein shortfall I deal with myself later. Tell her to tell him to drink a protein shake before they arrive or something.

How is being vegan not a preference as well?

I’m so cross about this on your behalf btw!!

A whole chicken to himself my arse.

Edit - and I’d have a beady eye out to make sure none of the “women folk” are passing him the good bits of their meat at the table - “no susie, I made that for you as I think you’ll enjoy it, Jack can have some of the chicken drumsticks if he’s still hungry”.

He can have the same sized portion of meat as everyone else. Beyond that it’s not your problem. Absolutely unreasonable to expect you to cook extra meat when you’re already hosting a roast.

Id be tempted to offer him a tin of tuna.

Plate the food and bring to the table. Don’t lay it out buffet style.

My DS is a fitness freak gym and when he's cooking for himself will cook and eat a ridiculous amount of meat/protein and low carb veg. When he's here I will do a bit of extra meat, but he will still eat everything else, just in smaller quantities. He would never not eat veg as well, that's just not healthy.

This is what I was thinking.
Worst case, it could go one of two ways: either he is going to be a CF and take far more than his fair share of meat, and cost far more, too; or he will take only a normal helping and be hungry.
Surely he must be used to this, and used to bringing along extra chicken or something. Or you could bung in extra cheap chicken in the oven with the other meats. after all, you would probably cater for vegetarians and carnivore diets are becoming quite usual these days.

That is cheeky but it won't kill you to chuck some chicken drumsticks in the oven surely? Cheap as anything and good protein. I don't mind suiting preferences with food, I hate going to someone's home for dinner and being served whatever they fancy without asking me!