‘Just the meat for me please’ Sunday Lunch issue ’

[Mondaytuesdayhappydays]

SIS and BIL coming for Sunday Lunch, bringing DN and her BF- recently engaged.
Got a little gift for them and card etc, my parents were coming any way so invited Sunday for food as makes sense.

SIS has just WhatsApped to say jokingly that the BF -mega gym bunny - ‘doesn’t do potatoes and trimmings- but don’t worry he’ll just pile his plate high with meat’
Im doing a couple chickens and a gammon between us all so plenty for everyone alongside stuffing, veg, Yorkies , gravey, cauliflower cheese etc but definitely not for a huge piled up plate of just meat!

I replied lightheartedly to SIS to this effect and she’s not a happy camper at all.
Just texted to say wants him to feel welcome so will bring him a couple of raw pork chops or similar to fry - I’ve said bring them cooked and sliced already in a Tupperware as I won’t be frying chops with all the carnage of the roast going on and my parents milling about under my feet ‘helping’

Shes voice noting at the moment can see the symbol
honestly am I just old or a shit hostess or is this how guests who barely know their hosts I might add expect to be catered for ???

I mean veggie/vegan all power to you
but a plate piled up of meat for lunch seems a bit full on to me ??

I wouldn't invite people if I had to monitor and ration what they consumed.

Just meet them at a restaurant so everyone could order, and pay for, what they pleased.

If he won’t eat the green veg, maybe a side order of Dulcolax?

For one meal? Seriously? Rude.

There's a happy medium between rationing and eating an entire chicken to yourself.

An. Entire. Chicken.

Not an entire breast, or a leg and a breast, but the whole chicken. Approximately 1500 calories of chicken. All to yourself.

It's hardly monitoring and rationing if one person is setting out to take such a disproportionate excess though

I don’t know what size ovens people have got, but if i were already cooking 2 extra large chickens and a 1.8kg gammon I would seriously struggle with a third chicken. OP is doing lots of extras as well. It’s generally a pretty tight operation providing plenty of food for a roast for 11 adults. OP sounds like she’s already doing that admirably, why should she be expected to have the facilities of a professional kitchen?

I ate a whole supermarket rotisserie chicken once, but I was in the privacy of my hotel room after a long flight and it was the easiest option. It was fucking great 😀

At somebody else's house and at their expense though - no.

I'm with you on this. I eat to a protein goal as I do weight training so basically eat lean meat/fish and vegetables and dairy. Mainly whole foods with protein shakes if needed.

It's a simple way of eating and not inconvenient. It suits me very well in terms of satiation and energy levels.

The poor lad probably has no idea this fuss has been made. He'll probably estimate his protein from meat then top up later if needed at his next meal. Once you get the hang of it, guestimating weight and protein content isn't that hard.

I've known of many young lads eat an extra dinner (so 4 meals a day) simply because they are very active and have a high level of maintenance calories. DD's boyfriend will often cook chicken thighs or similar late on in the evening despite having eaten dinner as he gets so hungry. He goes to the gym but doesn't count his protein/macros.

I don't think this is orthorexia.

I’d have to buy a new oven if I was trying to roast 3 chickens and a gammon, no way would all that fit in our current oven!

Oh, I could easily eat a whole chicken. I wouldn't, especially not as a guest, but I could.

A PT recently told me there was no way I had gained 4lb of fat over one weekend break because that would mean I would have had to eat an extra 3,500 cals a day, so around 5000 calories per day in total.

He said it as if that would be hard to achieve, once you add Greggs and vodka to the mix it is frighteningly easy

@AnnaPhylax "Mr. Universe" 😂

This thread is brilliant! Can't wait for the update.. might have to pile my plate high with white truffle risotto with extra truffle oil & have a magnum of Bollinger on ice waiting

The gym bunny needs to eat his pile of meat before he comes for lunch.
Then when he comes be polite and civilised round the table like any other invited guest.
I don't/wouldn't be playing or entertaining that ridiculous nonsense.
Triggering to hear people have to endure that when they are kindly laying on a lunch for everyone.

I trust that you would not expect this to be catered for, if you were invited to Sunday lunch?

You wouldn’t expect your host to be catering for your “current dietary” requirements?

You might think it's 'a simple way of eating' but it sounds unhealthy to me. And it's very inconvenient for other people if he expects other people to cook an extra chicken or something because he's decided not to eat what's provided for everybody else.

😂😂😂

Nah, hate it when places and people do this! As a milk allergy sufferer, just leave my vegetables alone - hard enough to find something to eat as it is or already be thought of as fussy without slapping butter on everything including something as harmless as vegetables!

Yep. This.

He is a CF. And so is she.

They get what the host prepares or they bring their own. Not complicated.

And btw I have massive food intolerances and am well used to having to bring my own. Such is life.

No, if it were a special, one-off meal, I'd enjoy every single bite of what I was served. OP's food sounds amazing as an occasional treat.

If it were just a Sunday lunch that happens regularly/semi-regularly, I would eat a normal portion of chicken and a small portion of the less sexy veg and adjust the rest of my meals that day to fit.

BUT I am doing this for health/vanity reasons. If I were training for a competition, I would stick rigidly to my meal plan, but I'd either decline the invitation or bring my own (pre-prepped) food

Buy him a live chicken. He can get fit chasing it round the garden then cook it on an open fire and eat it with his bare hands. Caveman diet and lifestyle thus thoroughly catered for.

Which is what the DN boyfriend should do.

Lord. Is there anything more boring than people banging on about protein goals and macros? No-one cares how many grams of protein you have decided you have to eat. That’s your business. It’s like a person I work with who spent one lunchtime demonstrating her superior lungeing technique. It’s beyond tedious to anyone but you. This chap needs to turn up, eat what he’s given and go home to admire his muscles in the mirror. It’s one meal. People are so self-involved.

I used to go to church, thankfully came to my senses but that's another story.
The women mostly provided the food for a sharing meal (a main or a dessert for 6 to 8 folk), and one or two men would bring a sharing bag of crisps, yet who would be pushing to the front to pile their plates up with all the best food? Yup, the men. One family of 7 did turn up with a small bowl of jelly and then all eats loads too, which would be forgiveable if they were struggling moneywise, but the mother frequently went on about all the supposedly posh stuff she bought and acted like money grew on trees so......

He doesn't expect you to have avocado and special home made mayo, so why does he expect you to have extra meat for him.

He should bring his own pack if thighs or whatever, pre-cooked

And @Mondaytuesdayhappydays please do tell us whether his physique justifies all of the hassle

You choosing to only eat selective parts doesn't entitle you to take more of the selective parts, especially when they're the more expensive parts.

JFC what kind of weirdo turns up for a roast and demands just meat. So rude.

I'd be very uptight about this. The selfishness, greed, egotism and lack of respect for the animals he's eating....I don't think I could ever bring myself to like him after that start.