‘Just the meat for me please’ Sunday Lunch issue ’

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SIS and BIL coming for Sunday Lunch, bringing DN and her BF- recently engaged.
Got a little gift for them and card etc, my parents were coming any way so invited Sunday for food as makes sense.

SIS has just WhatsApped to say jokingly that the BF -mega gym bunny - ‘doesn’t do potatoes and trimmings- but don’t worry he’ll just pile his plate high with meat’
Im doing a couple chickens and a gammon between us all so plenty for everyone alongside stuffing, veg, Yorkies , gravey, cauliflower cheese etc but definitely not for a huge piled up plate of just meat!

I replied lightheartedly to SIS to this effect and she’s not a happy camper at all.
Just texted to say wants him to feel welcome so will bring him a couple of raw pork chops or similar to fry - I’ve said bring them cooked and sliced already in a Tupperware as I won’t be frying chops with all the carnage of the roast going on and my parents milling about under my feet ‘helping’

Shes voice noting at the moment can see the symbol
honestly am I just old or a shit hostess or is this how guests who barely know their hosts I might add expect to be catered for ???

I mean veggie/vegan all power to you
but a plate piled up of meat for lunch seems a bit full on to me ??

In a bulk could be more flexible eating out though.

I see him swallowing it whole, like a snake, maybe dislocating his jaw temporarily to be able to accommodate it.

Joking aside, the attitude is rude. If he wants to eat like that he should bring his own. If someone invites you to dinner and they've got food you can eat, you eat it.
I say this as a vegetarian who has been served sprouts and bread & butter as a 'meal'.

You sound like my kind of cook!

😂 Glad to have raised a smile!

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Oh my god I’d be mortified if I was his girlfriend! She taking him to dinner with her family (if I’m understanding correctly) and he’s gonna eat like that??? I’d be mortified!

That IS more disordered than being vegan though - it sounds orthorexic. I have a friend who does the same and claims basically every other food gives her indigestion/she's intolerant to it, but really it's because she's obsessed with being skinny to the point of it being a borderline eating disorder. She has developed osteoporosis as a result (although would never admit it was because of that).

I’m talking about the OP’s future nephew in law, I wasn’t commenting about you or anyone else, but if you really only eat lean protein and veg that does sound very restricted. Veganism is often a cover for eating disorders too.

I’m not obsessed with being skinny though, and have very high muscle mass and bone mass (verified by dexa) from the weight lifting. But high fat / fried foods give me indigestion. I could eat rice or boiled potatoes I suppose, just generally choose not to. But could at someone else’s house.

Mostly lean protein and veg. Some fruit. Will eat legumes nuts and seeds also (small amounts). Can eat dairy. Don’t find it restrictive. Re: nephew I’d just give him some chicken breast, not expensive. I’m used to multiple dietary requests.

This would annoy me too. "I want to pile my plate high with expensive meat" is not a reasonable request in this social context unless it's from your own Tupperware. (Tangent: this obsession with protein-only with some young-uns can't be healthy!)

Anyone else wondering what food they will serve at the wedding if the ‘gym bunny’ has anything to do with it?

I suppose it depends on the end goal and the whole diet. People into bodybuilding can be pretty obsessive about weighing their food and counting macros, and when you need X amount of protein but can only eat Y number of calories and fat, then there is not a lot of wiggle room for trimmings. It can be healthy if you follow a proper, whole-foods-based meal plan, but it doesn't sound like OP's future BIL is.

I haven't done bodybuilding for over 10 years, but I still follow the sport. Atm, I am doing body recomp, which is similar to, but not as extreme as, cutting. My macro targets are approx 150g protein, less than 100g of carbs, and as little fat as possible, with only "good" fats (nuts/seeds/oily fish).

Today's food was:

Whey protein shake with unsweetened soy milk, chia seeds, and a banana

Breakfast scramble for lunch (1 whole egg, 3 egg whites, 3oz lean ground turkey, 1 quarter red onion, and a decent handful of spinach)

200g chicken breast dry-fried in fresh, grated garlic, half a cauliflower, mashed with 30g of philly light and 2 roasted carrots and a protein yoghurt

Snack was 60g of cottage cheese, a handful of defrosted, frozen mixed berries, and a half a tablespoon of chopped almonds (approx 5 almonds) - sounds gross, but it is actually amazing and full of protein and calcium.

I think that's pretty healthy. I didn't do cardio today, but when I do, I have a raw fruit and nut bar for a pre-workout snack to fuel my workout.

CF

This is really rude and the GF and SIL are all excusing it.

Eat normally when a guest. Don’t eat the cauli cheese if not interested but don’t expect a host to accommodate a very expensive bulk protein diet for one meal.

It’s one meal, not the last supper. He has no dietary requirements due to allergies/health risks from the sound of it, so he gets what he’s given.
He can go get sandwich or find protein when he gets home.

I'm looking forward to the update. I am imaging ten normal people asking about the happy couple about the proposal and the wedding. Studiously ignoring the six inch pile of meat the fiance is chowing down on like the first symptom of the zombie virus is manifesting.

I’d have just got more chicken tbh. It’s not worth getting het up about.

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Oh, thank you for this 😂💪😂

He will be fine. Shove some extra chicken in to roast if you want, but I think your sis is just got a bit worked up over her DD having a new boyfriend and trying too hard. A lot of men actually eat like him, but they know how to be guests too. Anyway, never met a man who doesn't like yorkshire pudding.

You sound an excellent host 👏🏼
I could pop round and eat his share of the veg. Sexy is an understatement

You sound like a wonderful host and I’m saving your list of exciting veg!
Cheeky to expect more of the expensive bits, but I think you’re right to be generous.

A extra chicken would cost you £5 . You could have been a better host imo and choose to make a massive fuss over nothing

Or should that be ‘meating’ his demands!

Sorry.

I am a bit surprised at so many people saying it's only a few extra quid and OP needs to be a better host.

If for example I invited a group of people around for drinks and said that there were x number of bottles of champagne to start so a couple of glasses of that each and then we would move onto prosecco, I would not be impressed by someone saying that they would only drink the more expensive champagne option, thereby taking more than their fair share, or me being expected to buy additional champagne, as a matter of principle

It is not at all like catering GF for ceoliac or other allergies/intolerances

Agree with this.

The indignation and outrage on this thread are off the charts.

FFS just deal with it; if he turns out to be a user/taker then address it. SIL is stirring the pot; she's the one to take umbrage with.

I'd hate to be so mean and stingy pre-emptively.