‘Just the meat for me please’ Sunday Lunch issue ’

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SIS and BIL coming for Sunday Lunch, bringing DN and her BF- recently engaged.
Got a little gift for them and card etc, my parents were coming any way so invited Sunday for food as makes sense.

SIS has just WhatsApped to say jokingly that the BF -mega gym bunny - ‘doesn’t do potatoes and trimmings- but don’t worry he’ll just pile his plate high with meat’
Im doing a couple chickens and a gammon between us all so plenty for everyone alongside stuffing, veg, Yorkies , gravey, cauliflower cheese etc but definitely not for a huge piled up plate of just meat!

I replied lightheartedly to SIS to this effect and she’s not a happy camper at all.
Just texted to say wants him to feel welcome so will bring him a couple of raw pork chops or similar to fry - I’ve said bring them cooked and sliced already in a Tupperware as I won’t be frying chops with all the carnage of the roast going on and my parents milling about under my feet ‘helping’

Shes voice noting at the moment can see the symbol
honestly am I just old or a shit hostess or is this how guests who barely know their hosts I might add expect to be catered for ???

I mean veggie/vegan all power to you
but a plate piled up of meat for lunch seems a bit full on to me ??

I missed that. So does "more like a chicken to himself" mean that Dsis does, indeed, want OP provide a whole chicken just for him? His own private chicken? That IS rude. I'd probably do it for my DN's sake, since they are marrying, but I certainly wouldn't be as happy about it as I would be providing just another couple of chicken breasts or something.

Surely no one can really expect to have an entire chicken to themselves???

His own private chicken

I won’t eat potatoes or “trimmings” or cauliflower cheese or Yorkies. I would eat veggies without fat or sugar added but you haven’t listed any so yes would be meat only, wouldn’t eat a huge portion of meat but prob 1.5 x what others would eat.

Sorry I think you are being unreasonable. Just give him some steamed cauliflower or broccoli or green beans or an undressed salad and a chicken breast. Or a tin of tuna. I’d happily bring own food or contribute a low fat vegetable dish for all.

I’d provide extra meat because he’s a guest and my husband and I would privately laugh heartily at someone so afraid of a potato.

It is very very unlikely that this man is good in bed, and even less likely that he can laugh at himself.

World has gone mad

i think anyone who has such particular requirements should refrain from accepting invitations to meals, and jusst sort themselves out. Say they can just come later for a drink.

This is a form of orthorexia. I'd be quite annoyed at a guest expecting a bespoke diet of solely the most expensive food item in the meal when invited for lunch, but I guess we don't know if he is demanding it, or your sister, OP. I'd do some extra meat but I'd be watching out for any other entitlement.

Please update us.. I’ve been constantly refreshing mumsnet to see what’s happened, although truly it is none of my business… describe them to us, how was everything, was the body at the beginning or middle of his body building journey, I’m too invested now..

Have you all started planning your dietaries for their wedding op? Maybe you only eat green food and your dh only eats oysters by the time the wedding is scheduled? They won’t blink at catering to it I’m sure.

I’ll never forget when I did a small roast for my sister in laws 40th and I had a baby and toddler at the time and she messaged me a couple of hours beforehand to say that the current bf she was seeing at the time ‘didn’t like roast potatoes and could I whack him some frozen chips in instead?’ Who the fuck chooses a frozen chip over a home cooked roast potato? I told her it was one meal of his life and quite frankly I didn’t give a fuck if he didn’t like it, the meal was for her and not him and he could get on with it as originally planned or not come. He came and finished his entire plate. I also cannot stand the clucky women around men who enable them to have everything they want, unless it’s allergies, he can get on with one meal of his life not being to the exact perfection he wants

Not really. I only eat lean protein and veg. I don’t eat food with oil / cheese added. I don’t enjoy it and I end up with indigestion when I do eat it. I don’t see why that’s more disordered than deciding to be vegan. I’m always happy to bring extra salads to share. Or extra meat.

It's shocking that anyone over the age of five would do this.

I am happy to cater for allergies/vegan/vegeterian/lactose free/casein free/no pork/no beef etc and have done all of the above, but I'll be damned if I'm going to invite anyone rude or greedy to eat at my table for a second time.

The entitlement shown by those awful guests is really shocking to me.

Haha, get onto that OP. A beluga caviar and truffle only meal perhaps? I imagine your sons might also want to refine their diets too once they've met this Adonis!

This cracked me up too! 😆😆Brilliant phrasing @Horsie

As noted many times now, this carnivore diet sounds extremely unhealthy, as well as unappetising. https://www.bhf.org.uk/informationsupport/heart-matters-magazine/news/behind-the-headlines/carnivore-diet

So rude! I have relatives like this; I watched one of them take down a whole platter of chicken satay in seconds once! I’ve taken to plating up the protein or doing portioned protein (chicken breast wrapped in parma ham type thing) and then putting all the sides on the table.

What the heck does ‘on a cut’ mean ???

Most gym people on a cut also eat lots of undressed cruciferous veg like broccoli and cauliflower. They also generally don’t eat fatty meat.

It's been explained several times on the thread. Or you could google.

Three Steaks Pam. (Probably already been mentioned.)

That seems to be a different thing from the carnivore diet, although I know nothing about any of this stuff, so I can't swear to it. A couple of posters have mentioned having partners who eat nothing but meat. Sounds absolutely vile.

I don't think it is the carnivore diet because he eats avocados, and I assume olive oil in the mayo.

I think he is maybe trying to bulk, but is young and has not yet learned that protein calories are still calories. They still count.

Why not google it? It’s a bodybuilding term for cutting down body fat whilst preserving muscle. It basically requires a diet of lean protein and cruciferous vegetable (without fat added).

Does he know your dsis has asked on his behalf? He might not know!!

Just say fine, serve the meat and let him sort himself out with everything else on the table.

He can always eat beforehand so he is not hungry or your dsis can put meat in the oven in ready for when she and him get home.

I think that the polite thing to do when invited to someone else's home to share a meal which they have cooked is to eat what is offered. By all means ask the host beforehand whether it is acceptable for you to bring some of your own food due to food restrictions, which would mean you could skip certain food items without going hungry.

Is this behaviour common now? I feel as if I missed the memo about now being allowed to impose catering conditions on your host!