‘Just the meat for me please’ Sunday Lunch issue ’

[Mondaytuesdayhappydays]

SIS and BIL coming for Sunday Lunch, bringing DN and her BF- recently engaged.
Got a little gift for them and card etc, my parents were coming any way so invited Sunday for food as makes sense.

SIS has just WhatsApped to say jokingly that the BF -mega gym bunny - ‘doesn’t do potatoes and trimmings- but don’t worry he’ll just pile his plate high with meat’
Im doing a couple chickens and a gammon between us all so plenty for everyone alongside stuffing, veg, Yorkies , gravey, cauliflower cheese etc but definitely not for a huge piled up plate of just meat!

I replied lightheartedly to SIS to this effect and she’s not a happy camper at all.
Just texted to say wants him to feel welcome so will bring him a couple of raw pork chops or similar to fry - I’ve said bring them cooked and sliced already in a Tupperware as I won’t be frying chops with all the carnage of the roast going on and my parents milling about under my feet ‘helping’

Shes voice noting at the moment can see the symbol
honestly am I just old or a shit hostess or is this how guests who barely know their hosts I might add expect to be catered for ???

I mean veggie/vegan all power to you
but a plate piled up of meat for lunch seems a bit full on to me ??

I have a BIL like this. He always takes more than a fair portion of meat from a buffet. We have to be tactical and let ladies go first and I also keep some back in the kitchen otherwise he’d take most of it! Funnily enough when he hosts there is barely enough to go round!

And often they spoil it for those of us with serious health issues. So many people now think coeliac disease is just a fad, a way to lose weight (not entirely wrong there if untreated to be fair), a little bit of gluten is harmless etc.

Only if the OP is sure he won't turn up with his own big plate, like Alan Partridge.

I wouldn’t change anything and wait and see what he actually takes…I know whenever I’ve been on a low carb diet that if it was me I would take a normal amount of meat and veg (whatever isn’t covered in butter) and be happy with that, I wouldn’t even mention it unless someone was to ask why no other sides and would at that point say something along the lines of I’m trying to cut carbs so this is perfect for me, she may well be putting him in an unfair light while trying to make sure no one over scrutinised him…if he knew he would probably be mortified

Scrontch!!
Lol

Yes I would do the same. Just let people.serve themselves the side dishes then nobody ends up short changed with the meat.

It’s very different, meat is expensive, why on earth would you expect to go to someone else’s house and pile your plate high with the most expensive part of the meal? I’d be plating the meat up

I think I would make sure I wasn't skimping when it came to the meat and that there would be plenty for the planned 11 adults generously but not purchase and cook extra separate stuff for him.
I would make sure there was also lots of plain and inoffensive veg, steamed broccoli and carrots etc.
Then you can point out the steamed veg for the fiance and say, I've kept these vegetables simple as I was told you have a diet for your training, and there should be seconds on the meat too :)

He's probably polite enough to be happy with that and the sister is making it a bigger deal!

Just plate up the meat in the kitchen

And what if all 11 guests demand an entire chicken?

Are you reading a different thread or playing on semantics because your point is unsustainable?

Absolutely stealing the phrase sexy veg. I feel sorry for the girl marrying this man.

Plate up beforehand so he or sis don’t steal all the meat for him. Cheeky fuckers.

I’m low carb so eat more protein but I manage my needs myself and don’t take more than my share.

Oh good one! I'm totally getting the Marks catalogue when I swing by to pick up The Smyths one at the weekend.. my son & I can start marking off our wishlists 😂

I still don't understand what diet he is doing and why? Can you ask @Mondaytuesdayhappydays ? I'm invested. I need to know.

Also, YWBU to buy him extra chicken, it is greedy and unnecessary. Sis was very, very, very unreasonable to even ask.

I'm confused...you said why should OP get a whole extra chicken just for him, and I said that the OP's Dsis has not asked for that. I don't know what you mean about playing with semantics or unsustainable point.

Coming late to this but thoroughly enjoying this thread, as a fellow sexy veg lover. Love nothing more than a butternut squash and chestnut wellington.

It's the height of rudeness to go to the house of someone you don't know (barely anyway) and expect them to cook you a massive plate of meat through. It's fine if you're a veggie (and can just eat the trimmings) or there are ethical/religious/health reasons why you can't eat certain things, but making a fuss for no good reason is terrible manners. Expecting someone to cater to your expensive vanity is insane. Bringing your own avocado is the cherry of rudeness on the rude cake.

Okay, so it's the latter option I gave. Thanks for confirming.

Oh here we go. The perpetual MN chicken. Why stop at 7 people, why not use one Chicken to feed the whole neighbourhood. It’s enough for everyone for have a sniff and then pass it on.

No way, you are already doing 2 chickens and gammon, this is ridiculous!

You've lost me, I'm afraid. I literally have NO idea what you're talking about.

You: Those who value their family don't demand their family makes a whole chicken just for them.

Me: Nobody has asked OP to provide a whole chicken for this guest.

And then you starting saying things that make zero sense.

Chicken in a panini for a woman doesn't sound like there'd be much chicken in it. People eat more of it when it's a roast affair, and men tend to eat more than women.

You've edited your post but we can see the original version which says that nobody asked OP to provide a whole chicken. That's not entirely true...

Mondaytuesdayhappydays · Today 14:24
Listened to message DSIS tying herself in knots , it will literally be a large plate of meat and no veg but he will brings some prepared sliced avocado and homemade mayo.
Won’t eat gammon, more like a chicken to himself and any more going left over
Will get a tray of thighs as-well I think
alongside what we would normally get.
Should be fine, but odd but fine xx

I was meaning he could bring a Tupperware of his own cooked meal to just shove on a plate. Not bring ingredients to make something!

OP didn’t ask anyone to bring anything, she said when her DSIS advised she’d bring some raw pork chops for OP to fry, that she wouldn’t be frying anything.

She”s got 11 adults for dinner, so why would she want to start frying.

The fad dieter has been asked to Sunday lunch, Sunday lunch consists of meat, potatoes and vegetables. If he doesn’t eat those because he’s fad dieting, then he’d be better to politely decline and stay at home with his plate full of meat.

Fad diets are irritating, they’re not required and you exclude yourself from normal meals and invites.

Remember this is not a lifestyle choice, ie vegetarian, where one food group is excluded, it’s just a fad and he can’t/won’t continue just eating meat without carbs, vegetables etc…..