‘Just the meat for me please’ Sunday Lunch issue ’

[Mondaytuesdayhappydays]

SIS and BIL coming for Sunday Lunch, bringing DN and her BF- recently engaged.
Got a little gift for them and card etc, my parents were coming any way so invited Sunday for food as makes sense.

SIS has just WhatsApped to say jokingly that the BF -mega gym bunny - ‘doesn’t do potatoes and trimmings- but don’t worry he’ll just pile his plate high with meat’
Im doing a couple chickens and a gammon between us all so plenty for everyone alongside stuffing, veg, Yorkies , gravey, cauliflower cheese etc but definitely not for a huge piled up plate of just meat!

I replied lightheartedly to SIS to this effect and she’s not a happy camper at all.
Just texted to say wants him to feel welcome so will bring him a couple of raw pork chops or similar to fry - I’ve said bring them cooked and sliced already in a Tupperware as I won’t be frying chops with all the carnage of the roast going on and my parents milling about under my feet ‘helping’

Shes voice noting at the moment can see the symbol
honestly am I just old or a shit hostess or is this how guests who barely know their hosts I might add expect to be catered for ???

I mean veggie/vegan all power to you
but a plate piled up of meat for lunch seems a bit full on to me ??

How ludicrous. OP is certainly not being difficult.
There will be plenty of food.

Genuinely surprised by this reaction.

To me it's far more rude to expect that a host, who is already catering to 11 people, should have to pay for and cook even more food to accommodate a guest who will only eat the most expensive thing being served.

This sounds like an absolute nightmare & tbh @Mondaytuesdayhappydays you have the patience of a saint, maybe he is oblivious to your sister making it known but in fairness she wouldn't have mentioned it if it WASN'T a big deal.. Jesus wept I'm a vegetarian & have an E.D. that rares up sometimes still & even I'm not that hard to cater for 😆Good luck! Can't wait for the update!

Also the stories of some (men) guests hoovering up all the food makes me sick & angry, entitled pricks! 😡

Have you not read her OP. She literally said in a text they they may run out.

Im doing a couple chickens and a gammon between us all so plenty for everyone alongside stuffing, veg, Yorkies , gravey, cauliflower cheese etc but definitely not for a huge piled up plate of just meat!
I replied lightheartedly to SIS to this effect
Why would u say this? Its not likely he would have really piled up meat to the ceiling ... u took it so literally and answered rudely. All you had to do was cook what you was already cooking

Some people doing the whole gym, extreme eating thing, will absolutely eat enough meat in one sitting to feed four people generously...

I can afford to host 11 people (I haven't the room, but theoretically...) - I could not afford to feed 15 people. Should we all have to be capable of catering for 4 more people than are actually there just because one guest is a cheeky fucker?!

If you can’t, then don’t invite them. It’s not rocket science.

I do! I can't stand people who invite us for a dinner party without giving the heads up first of what we'll be eating. I'm not fussy but I have some intolerances and I cba with going hungry because people aren't thoughtful. Thanks for the advice! xx

How on earth does anyone plan to host guests and already anticipates running out of food because one person eats more meat and no veg.

I'm salivating over all the sexy veg chat ha

Met briefly at a 50th do last Jan
He was DNs plus one nit I didn’t take much notice x Not tall I don’t think , nice face x

Calm down. It’s a thread on the internet. You don’t need to take this seriously.

We have all kinds of funny diets to cater for in our family although I haven’t heard of this one. We just put all the food in the middle of the table and people serve themselves the bits they want. Everyone can easily see how much there is and says things like “please pass the potatoes” and “would you like a Yorkshire pudding”. Surely he’ll just do that not nick bits of other people’s plates, he’ll just look what there is and what other people have taken?

Meat is hugely expensive and not fair to ask
someone he’s never met to pay for this .

Blimey
Calm down dear lol

This thread has two main tenets of MN lore: the everlasting chicken and the six foot strapping rugby playing son/son in law.

All we need is for someone at the lunch to have a massive salad and someone else to block the OPs drive and we have a full set.

I think I've heard everything now. Seriously. So a dude rocking up at the house of people he have never met, and scoffing a WHOLE chicken to himself with nothing on the side (and requesting this prior) - that's A-ok and absofuckinglutely normal. But if OP finds this weird - now that's extremely rude.

Can I come to your house? I eat only Kobe beef and drink only Macallan 1926. Bollinger would do at a push, if you're poor.

How about fucking eat what you're given (within reason, illness/allergies excluded) or (now there's a revelation!) don't come at all? I mean, it's entitled to the absolute extreme, being invited to dinner to your girlfriends' relatives' whom you've never even met, and dictate what you'll be piling your plate up with.

Although I suspect it comes from the sister. Something tells me he'd adapt and wouldn't just straight away take the whole chicken for himself. If he's at least a halfway normal person.

YOU read the posts. The problem is a potentially VERY unreasonable guest.
Plenty of food for everyone

Darling... It'll cost you a tenner max to buy some extra meat for this guy.

I wouldn't think about it twice, easy problem, easy solution. I don't understand how that's become 'a thing'.

How ridiculous. I'd say he'll eat what he's given or bloody starve. Meat is expensive.

OP loves a heaving table

Can you let us know this goes? I’ve been gone to the gym for 20 years so I know many many lads/men who have gone through this sort of phase or trained for a competition. but never any that we want to whole chicken, avocado, and home-made mayonnaise.

Most of them would just suck it up and eat some chicken and veg and then go home and eat whatever they want. This is quite bizarre.

if you’re on a strict diet or training for a competition, most people I know just bring their own box of food.

Unless he’s only about 19 so it doesn’t understand that he’s being a bit rude. Very interested to hear how this goes down…

Mumsnet is full of the ‘I’m a cool mum ‘ brigade. Mugs!

Amen! Some of the replies are bonkers.

If I was meeting my partner’s family for the first time over a roast dictating what I’m eating purely because ‘I’m on a cut’ would be the furthest thing from my mind. So rude! Unless a veggie/vegan or with allergies/celiac etc I’d eat what I was given (to an extent) or meet them another time if my diet was so strict.