‘Just the meat for me please’ Sunday Lunch issue ’

[Mondaytuesdayhappydays]

SIS and BIL coming for Sunday Lunch, bringing DN and her BF- recently engaged.
Got a little gift for them and card etc, my parents were coming any way so invited Sunday for food as makes sense.

SIS has just WhatsApped to say jokingly that the BF -mega gym bunny - ‘doesn’t do potatoes and trimmings- but don’t worry he’ll just pile his plate high with meat’
Im doing a couple chickens and a gammon between us all so plenty for everyone alongside stuffing, veg, Yorkies , gravey, cauliflower cheese etc but definitely not for a huge piled up plate of just meat!

I replied lightheartedly to SIS to this effect and she’s not a happy camper at all.
Just texted to say wants him to feel welcome so will bring him a couple of raw pork chops or similar to fry - I’ve said bring them cooked and sliced already in a Tupperware as I won’t be frying chops with all the carnage of the roast going on and my parents milling about under my feet ‘helping’

Shes voice noting at the moment can see the symbol
honestly am I just old or a shit hostess or is this how guests who barely know their hosts I might add expect to be catered for ???

I mean veggie/vegan all power to you
but a plate piled up of meat for lunch seems a bit full on to me ??

Please please @Mondaytuesdayhappydays report back on what receptacles he brings the sliced avocado and the homemade mayo in. I really want to know.

Now I want to see this BF. I don't suppose you would post a pic on Sunday?
I'm hoping he looks like Desperate Dan, but he used to eat cow pie, whereas this guy would just have neat cow.

Late to the thread but sorry… this is going to be gross…all I keep thinking (as a lifelong veggie) is God, I bet his morning shit absolutely stinks.

He'd rather like to eat a whole chicken but his contribution is an avocado?😂

Sounds a great chap!

What do you mean by lifestyle reasons? I have no diagnosed gluten allergy but if I eat it I have stomach pain, diarrhoea and I ache all over and feel ill for a week, so I choose to avoid it. That’s not the same as choosing to eat nothing but expensive meat for vanity reasons.

And yours smells of cabbage of course.

OP, you must make the most delectable pudding/s,carb heavy of course. Thinking apple pie,the aroma of spices as you take it out of the oven or a decadent trifle.
Gym bunny can chow down artfully arranged plate of melon.

Can't help wondering if this is SIS talking & he might actually be a normal person?

You mean his weekly shit. I bet he blocks the toilet with his decomposing depth chargers and has chalfonts like pulsating snooker balls

That might be taking it a bit far lol
but I will give a full description lol

Hm...how does 'eat what you're given and say THANK YOU' sound?

So rude!

Exactly! Because the cost is prohibitive. He should know how much meat costs and bring a contribution himself.

Have you actually met him before given they have just got engaged? Did you not know this before?

I've never had someone bring their own meal, but that sounds like a PITA because they would have to muscle in on the kitchen to cook it. JUST what you need when hosting - a fucking randomer in your space trying to cook alongside you and not knowing where anything is! And to bring their own meat, they'd have to live relatively close to avoid the meat going bad.

People who have weird diets should eat before they get there or after they leave. Or bring something that doesn't involve a kitchen, like protein bars.

There are lots of dietary requirements these days - which honestly, makes me think it's better to eat out.

I hate food being plated up for me. Why do people need everything on offer being dumped on a plate even if they don't like it? What is the point? Sure I get the meat aspect of it if it's been carved but the veg and trimmings it just wasteful.

As usual, I have read the first few plus all the OP, so I know you have heard of the carnivore diet. DH has been on it for ages (over 2 years I am sure). Fortunately, from this POV if no other, he never goes anywhere except possibly at Christmas, but when he does, the people we are visiting know, and he takes a pile of steaks with him. I still feel embarrassed, but I must say the diet has really really helped him (he has a strange and rare neuro disease, and it seems to have helped, and of course he is slim, which also helps).

I am FED UP with being told every time I eat that vegetables are trying to kill me, though....

This … just chuck in some extra chicken portions they’ll just cook along with the chicken, why make such a mountain out of it, extremely rude in my opinion.

YANBU. There should be no opportunity for him to pile his own plate high. I’d plate up for him and instruct him to leave whatever he doesn’t want.

This is actually partly why I think that plating up for people is still worthwhile, even though it seems to be falling out of fashion in favour of everyone helping themselves. I much prefer just getting a plateful of food.

A lot of times I’ve been at “plate up yourselves” dinners, there’s been people pilling their plates up with pigs in blankets and yorkshire puddings and leaving the brocolli behind. To make sure everyone has enough while accounting for the couple of men gorging themselves you would have to make a lot of extra food. I’m not putting on a banquet because some people think it appropriate to eat an entire chicken at someone’s house.

At my DBs house, they often host both our side of the family and SILs side of the family. SiLs side of the family are otherwise perfectly normal people but there’s a couple of men (usually partners of one of the siblings) that are like vultures - to the point it makes the whole thing quite stressful.

I’ve never seen anything like it. Food gets put down and they’re like hungry lions pawing at it. They grab enough for them and their kids to have multiple servings. At BBQs they sit around the serving plate waiting and often consume three burgers before some guests have had anything.

If you ask whether there’s any burgers going, you get told they’re all gone so will have to wait for the next batch. Then the same thing happens again as soon as the next batch comes out. If you bring it up, they’ll laugh it off and joke about having to get there first. I don’t even know what that would look like aside from wrestling a grown man for a sausage because they dive on it as soon as it appears.

My 70 year old DM has now given up and secretly eats a small meal before we go there for dinner because it’s so hard work.

She's rude as fuck, as is he if he's expecting to rock up to someone else's house and think he's ok basically requesting a few full portions of a main.

I’m wondering the same thing. He’s getting slated on here, called all sorts and he hasn’t actually done anything. He’d probably be mortified to know all the fuss that’s being made on his account.

YANBU, he can either eat the meat and veg, or he can bring some extra meat you could just shove in the oven with the rest, e.g. some chicken breats/pork chops, given its the most expensive part of the meal

It would be different if it were an allergy e.g. gluten intolerance, or he was veggie/vegan

Im sure one meal with some extras wont hurt him, unless its for health reasons.

I can predict they will be instructing you how to cook the meat in the "healthiest possible way" for him next and questioning how it was cooked!

If sister is that adamant hes catered to exactly SHE could precook some chicken breats/his chops and bring them so all you need to do is microwave them

Why not just get more meat? Why are you hosting people if you don’t have enough food. If he wants to eat now meat, why would you knowingly be difficult and risk running out?

Is he older? And Canadian? Might be Jordan Peterson.

I really hope you update after the event.

I think you're spot on to fear he expects to fill his plate up with enough food to feed four+ adults, at the expense of everyone else.

Still, at least you have early warning he may do that so you can ask people to pass plates up to plate up the meat and then tell them to help themselves to the veg, and that leaves no opportunity for him to take more than is fair.

MN is strange. No one likes their famay, no one likes their in laws, no one likes opening the front door when someone knocks, no one like hosting people, or if they do host people, they just like to create drama by deliberately not doing the basics like getting enough food.

Weird people.